The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

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Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

Thurso yes I have wine hope you can stay strong tho. Mousey you couldn't get rid of me if you tried :) x

thurso well done on riding the urge. You did it once, can you do it again should it return?

loopy while you are still pondering what can you be getting on with that might help the next half an hour pass?

loopy cross post - enjoy your glass. What plans then?

You want the honest answer or the sensible answer? But on a more positive note since joining a couple of nights ago I have had an alcohol free night :) I have never felt so hopeful about a Monday night before.

loopy would suggest the odd glass of water over this evening and hope Monday is your night to be alcohol free again.

Thank you for not telling me off white :) I am mixing my wine with lemonade and drinking out of a much smaller glass. I might not be able to drink tomorrow night coz I don't think I can afford it so that would be ideal. Here's to at the very least a new start from monday, I will make you all proud :)

Well, just had an early dinner as husband off to sport, and youngest back fron visiting a friend overnight, and not had much sleep (went clubbing, and only 17 and a half, eek).

I really don't know if I will ride the urge again, I think I will tonight, but, I don't know if I am on a bit of a high because I found you lot :) I tell you my first few posts I cannot believe. I was very sad and horrid.

Loopy, I so know how you are feeling, on Wednesday night I was going to be on my own, and thought at about 4.30 "right, well I am going to drink tonight, lovely" so bought two bottles of wine, and nearly drank them both. Very lovely, but come the morning nearly drowned in the shame of it, hence my big confession(?) to husband.

Thank goodness I found this thread, and thank goodness you are already on here. If you want to stop at any time tonight, I bet we could chat to you for hours without letting you go back to the fridge!
:)

Aww thanks thurso, that's lovely of you :) x

evening all!!, just finished a little bit of work, so im sitting here in my cosy little office with an N&T, nothing like it you know!! [hgrin]

looking forward to the weekend, i have hoards of little dns coming for a spooky tea party tomorrow - we have pumpkins to cut, apples to bob, spooky cakes, unsuitable sweets with fingers and bloodshot eyes and a scary film!, wont their mummys be pleased with me when they are up during the night!!, i have my witch costume all ready!, i open the door to them slowly while cackling manically , i dont know who enjoys it most, them or me!! [hgrin]

my craft for this evening is those oranges with cloves stuck in them, i havent made them for years and they do make the tree look pretty so i thought i would give it a go!!

back in a bit babes!!

btw, potter about, cook, clean, have a bath, have cuddle with the kids, ANYTHING!!, just dont let the booze bastard win!!!

thurso - what you are doing is called 'projecting', you are thinking too far forwards!!, enjoy your sober high today and dont think about tomorrow, you think about tomorrow, tomorrow!, get me drift?? [hgrin], btw, my dd started clubbing at about 15 , i think is almost a rite of passage to get one over the doormen!!

Thanks highheels you're right.
actually, can I ask you all something? Not so much today, but usually, when I've been not drinking for a couple of days, I start to dwell on all the things I did, didn't do when I was hungover, really getting into a state about it, and of course that called for a drink.
How does one stop going back, it does my head in.
I say hungover because I mostly drink indoors and then go to bed.:(

Hi babes
just back from work, glad to see the positive note to the posts. I have bought the most enourmous pizza, home alone again so going to stuff my face, but NOT drink. Something I enjoyed this morning - going into the living room without the shameful empty bottle count and trudge to the recycling bin.

thurso - i think you may be a candidate for AA - as part of the 12 step programme one of the things is about how to look back at the shit and try and find a positive way to move forward (you dont have to do the steps, im not, i just find the wordings very helpful) - i used to dwell on the past all the fucking time and it nearly drove me mad, seriously!!, now, and i think this is partly because im finding a peace in my sober head that i didnt have before, i find that i dont tend to look back too much - im far more focused on the future, how i can get better, how i can make all the past crap up to my family and just generally getting on with life - i hope you understand the drift of my musings!!

I love this thread :)

My dh has just nipped out to buy some wine and asked me what I wanted....and I said nothing thanks! Thought I would nip on here to bolster my nerve (is that even a saying?) before he gets back and opens the bottle. And it's worked - thank you.

Great to see lots of familiar faces amongst the new ones too

Am going to fold some washing and watch a dvd with ds. We have a day out planned tomorrow so early start and I shall have a clear head!!

Enjoy your Friday night everyone :o

It's so bloody hard when the voice in your head is screaming "YES YES YES! What do you mean no? Tell him you WANT a drink!!! Argh!!"

Or is just in my head?

Waaaah! Didn't want to think I was a candidate for AA (stupid moi?).

I find the thought of it very, very scary, and really don't want to, although have looked at the websites, which means I am, of course. (does that make sense).

I would like to try, without AA, do you think that's possible? As I said, I haven't done it today, and I think that's because I've been able to come on here.

I do worry that it's a big burden for my dh (I'm learning!) but he says I can talk anything through with him, and doesn't mind me suddenly saying "but I snapped at youngest really badly 3 Years ago", or "the reason I was so vile to you that Saturday was because of major hangover", although his usual way is to live in the day. He says you can't undo it, so forgive yourself, and move on.

I do know that if I go back to my old ways just once more it means that we can't handle it though.

Sorry, feel like I've shouldered in, and monopolised somewhat, especially after being so horrible at first.
I'm going to give your ears a rest, and go and have a bath, and look at youngests h/w that's being done upstairs!!!(facebook h/w I think)

I hope you are having a good Friday, how are you, loopy

Hey all

Well I am definitely in sunnier climes, and the alcohol flows freely down in good old SA.

But I have had many many sober nights, and a few where I have had a beer or a glass or two of wine. but in the most part I have been sober.

Two nights I have drunk too much [shame]. But I have not passed out or had any black spots, I have always known how I have got to bed and really this is big for me.

Brother's wedding tomorrow, and I am driving so that I cannot allow myself to spoil his day.

Hope that you are all doing well.

The internet connection is not great here so I am posting before I read.

Love to all
BafanaBafana

Thurso
I found myself wondering just what a prat my DH had winessed (and probably DC too). My drinking to excess was almost always at home. Now I think about the here and now. How I now remember the plot of a film/book, I can chat with DH rather than talk at him, how I can spend better time with DC. What happened before is gone and it is for me to make now so much better for all of us. So tomorrow just rejoice in the clear head and get on with your day.

toclear and BB Well done.

Off to make the coffee. To everyone, have a peaceful evening, good sleep and hopefully a clear head in the morning.

Hi thurso I'm doing I'm thanks :) well done you for being strong x

doing good I meant

Thurso I have't been to an AA meeting but found the online info really helpful and reinforced the sense that I needed to do something. DH has been supportive once he got his head around my saying that for me the 'drunk' measure was my first glass of wine not the 3rd,4th,5th... so for me nothing was easier to do than controlled drinking. Sounds like your DH is being a support so I hope it works for you both.

BafanaBafana You sound very upbeat and in control of this menace. Enjoy the wedding.

sorry thurso, i didnt mean to scare you!, i just meant that the ethos of AA may suit you, i find the big book very helpful, so much of it i can relate to, it just helps me to get my own thoughts clearer in my head if you see what i mean? tbh, there may be many other organisations which would do the same thing for me, i just happened to have stumbled across a meeting and a group of people that i feel very comfortable with, i didnt mean you sounded like you need to go off at once to a meeting! [hgrin], btw, your dh sounds great!, very much like mine, my dh goes to al-anon, he went every week for the first couple of months, now, just when he feels like it!

btw, not getting on very well with these sodding pomanders, its a right sticky job!, ugh!

oh, another thought about AA or similar, it really dosnet matter if you decide its not for you, horses for courses and all that!, im such a show off i find AA is quite a good outlet for me, i can say and be as outragrous as i like and no minds! (i think/hope! )

SELL SHOES!!!:)
I thought you were meant to keep old (25 years old) designer shoes in boxes, and take them out and walk around the bedroom in them:)
(on my own, obviously!!:))