The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

Always puts a smile on my face when you meet someone with i-pod in ear, singing away to their heart's content, and not realising that everyone around them can hear their tuneless singing (not that I am saying your singing is tuneless MissP) Enjoy your run:)

Mouse - I should have known what she is like .. ie a full on in your face person.. as thats her character and there's nothing wrong with that - hey its why I am with her in the first place - The thing is I have let it grow out of control by just ignoring it and not counter balancing at all. I Suppose the booze made me not care .. The thing is the sober me really doesn't like it and sees our relationship with warts and all ( note Im not blameless over these last 10 years ).

MP - cool .. what was your marathon time ?

8 min mile is fast :)

Hello everyone - I was away over the weekend, but I had a quick scan through the posts last night while I was in Bristol airport.

I was so pleased to see redmoomin had posted. Please keep on dropping in - we care so much about you.

JWN 5 months is fantastic - no need to buy new shoes to celebrate, you can dance around the house in bare feet too!

I am finding things strangely difficult these days. After doing so well for such a long time, I have returned from my trip to India and I feel as though I have retreated by 3 months. I don't know whether it is because I have relaxed more about my alcoholism, or whether the change of season and the anticipation of winter parties has moved my mood, or whether the devil drink has suddenly noticed that I've been ignoring him...

Anyway, I feel myself struggling when I see an advert for Christmas booze, I find myself thinking about pouring a glass of red wine to have with food, I sit down in the evening and feel like I WANT to have a drink. So I am back to deploying all my favourite tactics, and I may need to invent some new ones. I need to think of something savoury and warm for the evening. I am very affected by caffeine, so no hot chocolate (too sweet anyway) or coffee or tea. I'm not sure about bovril, and I'm a bit bored or peppermint tea. Maybe I could make some light soup to have as a night cap??

Glad you are all here.

Mouse " she feels guilty for drinking, and projects that on you by picking on the smallest things" Do you know me
Diabolik none of us are are blameless, but looking at your relationship sober will give you a hell of a better chance than through the bottom of a bottle .
You are doing brilliantly, through a tough time.

MIFLAW

I have had an e-mail to tell you to check your PM's. Can you please have a look at your messages and respond?

Thanks.

JWN

I have e-mailed you at work.

Hey venus

Mouse - already done.

Just so everyone knows I mainly access Mumsnet at work - when I'm at home (evenings, weekends) I'm not actually on line very much because the computer is in a different room.

If anyone needs to contact me over the weekend, best to warn me on the Friday if poss and we can work something out.

Anyway, all messages up to date now ...

Hey Venus, can I suggest what is usually suggested for others when they are feeling like having a drink, read back over old posts and remember how you felt when you were drinking?

Venus you have been an inspiratation to me, along with the others, and I can understand why you are finding things difficult at the mo.
Someone close to me (no names, no pack drill!) has recently returned from a trip similar to yours and has found it very difficult to acclimatise. They said that things seem slightly surreal, and almost trivial here after what they had seen.
I am not a sweetie person either, so it was the cheese and biscuits for me last night!

ok enough navel gazing for me for now .

Of to the gym and throw some wights arround should make me feel better :)

inspiratation!!!! inspiration, too.

Thanks MIFLAW

I did think that, re the online mainly at work.

How is your good lady and bump? All well?

venus - you know why I am here. Because of you, because of you talking to me on Trinity's thread. Because you gave me the jolt I needed to take a very serious look at myself. You pointed me in the direction of the Brave Babes and here I am, sober 4 months on from when I started.

So, if I can return the favour at all, in ANY way, please tell me.

thurso - nope, I don't know you but I know how people operate through guilt. They project. How are you finding things? When is the worst time for you throughout the day?

Re other drinks, if you like sweet drinks, now it's colder, hot choc is a great one, you can add all sorts to it, except Baileys or any other booze!! Plus it helps to fill you up so will kick the cravings into touch.

Savoury lovers like me...... Bovril is lush or Oxo. Experiment with mocktails too! Festive drinks like cranberry juice is nice warmed, with a hint of cinnamon.

Or, get a Mulled Wine mix and add it to cranberry or raspberry juice, warmed of course.

Fab.

Venus Christmas is going to be tough, Alcohol ads everywhere. Super markets will be trying to get us to buy more, more, more . They, in my opinion (they being the drinks industry and supermarkets) are fucking bastards, who don't give a shit about the well being of their customers, just their profit margins. My tactic this year is to get mad and stubborn and tell them all to fuck the fuck off.

Can you tell i'm hormental. now I really am off for my run before I explode !

I'm a bit late because my girls have an extra day off but, Good Morning!!!

It's busy on here this morning & I won't pretend to be able to remember everyone's names just yet but thanks again for your support.

I told my DH that I don't want him to buy any wine this week, not to ask me or just bring it home, I have told him I am going to try not to drink red wine this week although I will buy asome smernoff ice just to kock the edge off this week as that is not a drink I can drink loads of.

thurso your last post rings so true for me. by drinking I don't feel worthy of an opinion, by drinking I am making myself feel unworthy & always second best.
I can change this.

Hope you all have very good days today.

Mouse I feel almost scared to say, but I am finding things a bit fab today, just a bit scared, as I said that I am heading for an almight crash.
Last night at about 4.30pm I thought "wait for it", and then somehow, I don't know, I just forgot to remember! We had a family dinner, had a bath, and got stuck into "Downton Abbey"!
We are having a tricky old time of it at the mo, with one thing and another, But, even in these few days, I feel that I am being so much better support for Dh. Only fair as he has done so much for me.
Also can I say ( I do go on!) that after having the "big" talk on Thursday (crikey, was it really only then) I showed my husband my desperate posts from Thursday. I think that although he has always realised I worried (and did he know it on Thursday!), he didn't know just how desperate I felt.
He doesn't read anything else, but was really glad I had found something that helped, also a bit surprised, as I had never been on a chat thing.
I hope nobody minds that I showed him.
Anyway, enough about me (quite enough)
Thanks, thanks and thanks again everyone.

Hey MissP

Nice to see some of us back to our usual names.

Don't worry about Christmas until Christmas!! Of course there is booze everywhere you look right now.

It's like Easter, chocolate everywhere! For a chocoholic, it's hell for me!! Especially this year as I was seriously dieting.

So, I'd say instead of worrying about the booze and Christmas, spend some time now experimenting with mocktails for the festive season so you'll know in advance what you are going to drink.

Stop worrying about how you think you might not cope until you get there ok? You can't possibly know how you will feel in 7-8 weeks time.

Grammer!, we didn't all have a bath, and watch downton Abbey.

Grammar even!

thurso - show him all you like. Sometimes it's easier to show someone how you feel, than tell tham.

What you may find is that you'll dip round about now. It's normal so hang on in there ok... we are all here for you, and if it helps, if you find yourself wobbling, imagine some of us are there sat with you feeling the same.

I still get days where I think fuck it, I'm going to get hammered tonight. But I don't and it soon passess.

You are doing SO well!! Really you are. It's great that your DH is on board and understands now.

Keep going. It's worth it. It really is. x

Red says hello btw, if anyone was wondering where she was.

She's not in work today so no internet but is fine. At home, having a chilling day.

Thanks Mouse, and how are you today?
Not wanting to know anything, but, I get the impression from you posts, that your little one has an ongoing health problem. I hope that you get all the help you need, and that today is a good day for you both.
I will be hanging in there, as I sort of expect to have a low,
p.s Is getting spotty part of this?