The in laws have been looking after our 2 DS's during half term. When I came home from work today DS1 (7) told me that DS (4) ran onto the road while out with granny and grandpa. In laws who overheard said 'now don't be telling tales'. Ds 1 didn't say anything but later I asked him what he meant and he said that DS 2 had run onto the road while grandpa was walking them home. Now, I was pretty shook up about this and went back to ask In Laws. I was quite concerned as we live in a very busy inner city area and always tell MILs too keep hold of little one's hand and that the adult with him should be able to chase him as he can be defiant and want to walk on his own. But in laws went into the shopping area today and then while MIL stayed in shops, FIL took it upon himself to walk back to the house (about 1 mile) with the two boys. Now, he is 72, in need of a hip replacement and cannot run. I confronted him about this and he says he held DS2 hand all the way until he became too uncontrollable and he let him go. DS2 just then set off and ran onto an intersection near our house. FIL was unable to chase him. My MIL says that FIL walked off on his own back against her wishes but she knows how Little One can be a handful. They are now upset at me for being 'hysterical' and claim that the little one isn't disciplined firmly enough. FIL wants to hit him to control him. DH heard all this and said nothing to support me, other than telling me to shut up and to stop bullying his parents. I don't feel able to go to work now and leave them in the care of the in laws, with such poor decision making. DH is absolutely no support whatsover and says that I am a hypocrite as I have let my son run onto the road on one occasion! I cannot understand that if they were responsible about their physical limitations FIL should not have attempted to walk back on his own with the 2 of them. I am on my own upstairs while they are all downstairs - with me blowing up because my son could have been run over!