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How many women don't like oral sex?

89 replies

Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 20:11

Friday night question. We've been married for twenty years and have two DC and a healthy sex life, but my DW doesn't (and never has) liked oral sex (receiving it, that is). She's not prudish at all and when I've asked her about it she says it just doesn't do anything for her. So I'm curious. As a bloke, needless to say I find it hard to believe that anyone couldn't enjoy being on the receiving end, but she clearly doesn't. I doubt if she's alone in this so I'm just wondering how common it is.

OP posts:
ljgibbs · 10/09/2010 20:12

Maybe it's your technique Grin

Alouiseg · 10/09/2010 20:14

If she gets there through other methods then maybe oral doesn't do it for her.

puddlepuss · 10/09/2010 20:16

I can't stand it! Never have, I don't know why but it just doesn't do it for me. Love giving it though so dh is a happy man!Grin

sorrento56 · 10/09/2010 20:19

Half the enjoyment is knowing your lover wants to do it..

Northernlurker · 10/09/2010 20:20

I think you're doing it wrong. Tis the only explanation.

HRHPrincessReality · 10/09/2010 20:21

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DuelingFanjo · 10/09/2010 20:21

I like it when it's good but not when it's crap.

Alouiseg · 10/09/2010 20:22
MoralDefective · 10/09/2010 20:28

Fabulous when it's good....just a drag when it's not and it goes on too long and you just know it 'aint going to work the business....mostly the best thing ever.

Slashtrophe · 10/09/2010 20:28

My ex-P wasn't very good at it and I then felt like it was taking ages and he was getting bored (he also thought real men don't) and I didn't like it then.

My now P is very good and seems to get real pleasure from it, which in turns me on so I love it now.

Oblomov · 10/09/2010 20:32

My favourite thing. I prefer it to sex. I prefer receiving it to sex. and i love giving it (bj's) more than sex.
I think that this is probably because i am very clitoral, and vaginal is pleasant but does nothing for me compared to clitoral.
i am not so sure thta it is op's technique that is questionable. i am pretty sure that many woman it is not that important.

somethinganything · 10/09/2010 20:33

Have liked it on occasion but usually makes me feel a bit icky TBH all that schlurping etc yuk

ShowOfHands · 10/09/2010 20:35

Gawd, it's just so indulgent. Get up. Make some tea. Stop lounging around.

Original poster
Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 20:36

I've thought about it being my technique (knew that would come up Grin ) but we are pretty open about that kind of thing and I'm sure that if that was it she'd have put me straight by now. So far it's about one out of ten. (puddlepuss you're not mysteriously my wife are you? Smile )

OP posts:
puddlepuss · 10/09/2010 20:48

I dunno, are you lying on my sofa watching shite on tv and scratching your bum? Grin (If you are dh then I'm a bit concerned that you can work a computer from across the room with your hands down you trousers Confused!)

Meow75 · 10/09/2010 20:48

Oblomov could have written my post. I agree completely.

purplepeony · 10/09/2010 21:00

OP I don't think you will ever find out how common it is- except by this straw poll on MN!

Basically I am a bit cynical and think that lots of people will lie about it if you ask- and lie to their partners too.

Maybe you need to ask her why? A long time back I was a bit squeamish about it- not saying I didn't like it, but wondered why any man would want to do that to me! TBRH I woundn't want my own tongue there, so can find it hard to know why anyone else would enjoy it.

themothershipcalling · 10/09/2010 21:02

I love it and am blessed with DH who loves giving too. ALthough agree with someone else who said that is best with someone who really wants to do it IYSWIM

IloveJudgeJudy · 10/09/2010 21:07

Don't like it at all - never have - never will. DH can't understand it, he likes giving and receiving. I just don't. Not prudish at all. It's not his technique, either. Just don't like it.

Alouiseg · 10/09/2010 21:08

Fwiw I can only truly relax if I'm fresh out of the shower.

StantonHarcourtTheThird · 10/09/2010 21:10

I can't relax enough to enjoy it. BUT that is my personal stuff and when I am a bit pissed and let DH do it I love it.

dignified · 10/09/2010 21:15

I like it if its done properly , if not its shit.

fuschiagroan · 10/09/2010 21:15

I don't really like it. It's too slimy and tickles, and even when it's done 'well' it's only ever alright not amazing

expatinscotland · 10/09/2010 21:18

Love it! Love giving bj's, too, and sex.

But I'm blessed - I climax easily both clitorally and vaginally through intercourse.

Sex is fab, foreplay is fab, I wish DH would get the all clear and we had more time to have sex and fool around.

Trubert · 10/09/2010 21:20

It's not my thing at all. I don't want it.