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How many women don't like oral sex?

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 20:11

Friday night question. We've been married for twenty years and have two DC and a healthy sex life, but my DW doesn't (and never has) liked oral sex (receiving it, that is). She's not prudish at all and when I've asked her about it she says it just doesn't do anything for her. So I'm curious. As a bloke, needless to say I find it hard to believe that anyone couldn't enjoy being on the receiving end, but she clearly doesn't. I doubt if she's alone in this so I'm just wondering how common it is.

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perfumedlife · 10/09/2010 21:22

What's not to like, although in the beginning i cant stop laughing as it tickles until you really relax.

Saying that, I can see that lots of women would not be that bothered. If you climax easily with penetrative sex, it can feel a bit surplus to requirements.

Does it bother you Op?

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 21:22

Thanks everyone. I said I was curious and as purplepeony said I've got a bit of a straw poll. Maybe more women than I would have guessed don't enjoy it. (As I said earlier, I've got a bit of a blokes-eye view of this.)

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moogalicious · 10/09/2010 21:22

Another one that doesn't like it! DH has badgered me about it in the past, but why should I do something I don't enjoy? Don't mind going down on him though Grin

maxpower · 10/09/2010 21:27

ditto judgejudy it just doesn't do anything for me

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 21:29

Perfumedlife, it doesn't bother me at all, except to think that she's missing out on something which clearly a lot of women do enjoy. I enjoy giving it, but if she isn't enjoying receiving it it's a bit of a non-starter.

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moogalicious · 10/09/2010 21:31

some people enjoy anal sex, others like s&m - everyone's different.

lamplighter · 10/09/2010 21:34

Love it after a bath/shower but not when I don't feel 'clean' down there.

RumourOfAHurricane · 10/09/2010 21:36

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Fizzylemonade · 10/09/2010 21:37

Love it, love it, love it. Love giving and receiving.

Saladbomb · 10/09/2010 21:38

I can take it or leave it, DH is quite keen so if I'm in the right mood I will go along with it and usually enjoy it. But I get more satisfaction manually if you know what I mean. Its nothing to do with his technique, just the way I am built.

Also partly its that I can't interact with him if he's down there, it feels a bit one sided.

rollerbaby · 10/09/2010 21:39

I never liked it until I met my husband, so I guess it's down to the operator!

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 21:39

Moogalicious, you're right, but that said I bet you'd have to look pretty hard to find a bloke who doesn't enjoy a blow job.

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roundwindow · 10/09/2010 21:41

another one here who's not really into it... not prudish in the slightest (won't tell you my preferred route to the ultimate destination Wink) this just doesn't do it for me.

TwistAndShout · 10/09/2010 21:42

I love it but only with DH.

Previous partners not so much, so technique must come into it.

schroeder · 10/09/2010 21:43

Not keen, at least with dh.

I do vaguely remember liking it more with previous partners(we've been together 15 years)

But it wasn't ever my favourite thing.

clarabella23 · 10/09/2010 21:43

I never used to like it...I used to get bored while it was going on tbh!
However, getting rid of my partner and trying a couple of new people was an eye opener! Still don't like it with everyone- it feels a very personal thing to do, more so than sex actually, so I have to feel comfortable with the person. But, done right...WOW!

loopyloops · 10/09/2010 21:45

DH thinks I don't like it, but really it's that I know he doesn't. It has been many years :(

nikki1978 · 10/09/2010 21:45

I used to love it, now I just find it uncomfortable and almost sharp feeling if that makes sense. DHs technique hasn't changed by clearly I have. Rest of sex is great and I love giving oral sex so he is happy enough but I get the feeling he is disappointed that I jerk away when he tries to do it (I don't mean to but it really is uncomfortable!) as he has always loved giving it :(

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 21:45

I think saladbomb's onto something. My DW finds it very un-intimate. She'd far rather we were face to face and I was using something else (fingers, todger, vibrator) down below.

(Can you believe my auto-spellcheck changed todger to toddler - good job I spotted that!)

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Alouiseg · 10/09/2010 21:48

That's where face sitting works so well :o

Furball · 10/09/2010 21:49

anyone else thinking puddlepuss is quite an appropriate name for this thread? Grin

ps - love it and totally ditto oblomov

BelleDameSansMerci · 10/09/2010 21:52

Never really liked it much before DD. Absolutely do not like it at all post DD.

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HamsterPoo · 10/09/2010 21:55

With theright person, it is just beautiful. So loving.

Grin at todger/toddler!

IWillNotNeverEatATomato · 10/09/2010 22:04

really not my thing and never has been,

two reasons,
It has never made me climax, only penetrative sex seems to do this for me.

and I really don't like to smell and taste myself all over DP's face/mouth