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How many women don't like oral sex?

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Cleggy36 · 10/09/2010 20:11

Friday night question. We've been married for twenty years and have two DC and a healthy sex life, but my DW doesn't (and never has) liked oral sex (receiving it, that is). She's not prudish at all and when I've asked her about it she says it just doesn't do anything for her. So I'm curious. As a bloke, needless to say I find it hard to believe that anyone couldn't enjoy being on the receiving end, but she clearly doesn't. I doubt if she's alone in this so I'm just wondering how common it is.

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lamplighter · 10/09/2010 22:05

An ex BF was fantastic at it and I learnt to just relax and enjoy.

With other partners I was always wondering if it was a 'chore' that they went through to get to the 'point'.

My DH loves doing it. It is making me smile just thinking about it.

I love that man!

fuschiagroan · 10/09/2010 22:09

I don't like it because he is far away. I much prefer him being up close so I can put my arms around him. Otherwise it feels a bit detached

specialmagiclady · 10/09/2010 22:09

Occasionally it's great, but if I'm not totally clean AND totally slippery and if DH isn't absolutely up for it then meh.

HooNose · 10/09/2010 22:14

I like it if I am in the right mood. It never lasts long for me as I find it so erotic, I climax straight away.

I wouldn't think a woman odd for not liking it though. Some things work for some people but not for others. I, for instance, have never once climaxed through penetration. In fact, I feel a bit hung up about that now, reading others say they can only climax through penetration

bluebeach · 10/09/2010 22:14

Never done it for me Personally but plenty of other stuff does. I think everyone is shaped slightly differently and respond to different pressures and stimulations.

glencoco · 10/09/2010 22:19

Love it love it love it love it love it

Must look for a boyfriend in the morning because it's been ages :(

Agree about the technique though, some men aren't so good but I can't remember why

whomovedmychocolate · 10/09/2010 22:22

Meh.

AlwaysbeOpralFruitstome · 10/09/2010 22:22

I don't like it, I've always found it too intense, but then I find vibrators too much as well (they make my teeth tingle). Love giving it though and there's plenty of other stuff that works for me, so I don't feel like I'm missing out. Horses for courses so to speak.

Gay40 · 10/09/2010 22:23

I've met a few women who haven't liked it. Usually because men have made a crap job of it.

louii · 10/09/2010 22:30

Nope don't like it, never have with any partner.

pigsinmud · 10/09/2010 22:32

Love it once showered, but no kissing after as I agree with IWillNotNeverEatATomato. Have to be relaxed or else I really don't like it.

Hate reciprocating. I nearly always do, but have a clicky jaw and it really hurts the next day.

Would not think anyone odd for not liking. Just personal choice.

puddlepuss · 11/09/2010 07:37

Might have to change my name - been told it's appropriate for the spot squeezing thread and now the cunilingus thread...hmmmm.....

nooka · 11/09/2010 07:45

I've never been very keen. Too intense and too distant/awkward. dh has wonderful hands though . He's not too keen on BJs either, so it's not really in our usual repertoire. Fun for a few minutes every now and then.

Alouiseg · 11/09/2010 08:38

No kissing after!!!!!!!! That's just weird. Imvho.

passmyglassplease · 11/09/2010 08:53

I have never been terribly keen on it, although have been happy to give bjs

then I met my current partner and WOW I can't get enough of it, neither can he!

tis definitely technique, or lack of

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Cleggy36 · 11/09/2010 09:42

So, it must be technique...or alternatively ot might have nothing at all to do with technique .

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Cleggy36 · 11/09/2010 09:43

That was close. DS1 (16) came into room during posting and tried to read over my shoulder...I think not!

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piratecat · 11/09/2010 09:49

i love it, i need a boyfriend.

must go find one like glencoco said.

but even tho i love it, it is down to technique, sometimes it can be too annoying. Tis a delicate place and needs to be treated accordingly !!

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 11/09/2010 10:14

was always a bit squaemish about til I met DH, who loves giving and is frankly amazing so yes please all the time thankyou very much...worry sometimes we both come a bit too quickly no matter what we're doing, but thankfully he has staying power so we just get to do it over and over

MadAboutQuavers · 11/09/2010 10:22

Love it. And so does my DP, in fact, he'd be gutted if we had sex without doing it. Hurrah!

I have given and received with both men and women in my time. Most women loved it as much as I do, but there were a few who were uncomfortable about it, and it's largely down to trust issues (are you sure i'm clean enough, isn't it a bit messy, surely it tastes awful, you're only doing it because you think I want it). Men, generally, are much more able to be selfish about the sensations experienced by their own bodies, and don't tend to over think the whole thing, as some women do.

I remember there being one girlfriend who said the sensation was TOO intense, but I think there may have been other reasons why she was reluctant (see list above).

And I don't understand women who can only enjoy sex whilst face to face with their partner. Where's your sex of adventure?!

PigletJohn · 11/09/2010 10:23

I think I got my taste (sorry!) for giving it with my 2nd proper GF who was illegitimate and very scared of getting pregannt, so for some months long, frequent sessions were our main sexual activity.

I've always found it intensely erotic, satisfying, intimate and loving, so I like it a lot. Some women are a bit shy, my current DP finds it exhausting and fends me off sometimes if she wants to get on with the shagging :(

I would be a bit hurt by anyone who wouldn't kiss me after. Do you think you're dirty or something?

CakeandRoses · 11/09/2010 10:25

Love it as long as:

I've literally just had a bath

DH has brushed his teeth if he's eaten something smelly/off-putting (yep, I do know my fango has no sense of smell but if he's eaten something like curry then I start thinking about chicken rogan josh going on my bits )

There's some digital involvement too as I find a mouth not quite direct enough

No bloody slurping

Saladbomb · 11/09/2010 10:36

I actually don't mind the taste of myself on him, its quite intimate. I would only let it happen if i was clean anyway, its definitely not that that puts me off. Think I am just selfish impatient as i know it will take longer that way :o i definitely enjoy giving more that receiving. Anyway its all a no no at the mo since someone mentioned that saliva is spermicidal. (prob bollocks but just in case!)

moocowme · 11/09/2010 10:44

love it love it love it.

actualy love doing and recieving at the same time. omg that gets me off!!!!

oh are we discussing technique?

MadAboutQuavers · 11/09/2010 10:56

*sense of adventure

Ahem... Slight Freudian slip there...

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