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Do you ever think you might be traded in for a younger fitter model?

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charliecat · 31/08/2005 08:44

I do, It may be because ive been with dp since I was 17, had 2 kids that have wrecked my body, put on a couple of stone and its now 9 years later..but sometimes I wonder when its going to happen, like its a cert it will. Just a matter of time.

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ggglimpopo · 31/08/2005 08:46

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charliecat · 31/08/2005 08:47

Not worried, just wondering whether its just me or not. I feel its going to happen One Day...so have accepted that (what a weirdo!)

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swiperfox · 31/08/2005 09:05

On days like today I hope so. Then some other fool can put up with his crap!!

eefs · 31/08/2005 09:11

charliecat, just a thought - ifyou are that certain that is will happen and have already accepted it, that doesn't show a lot of faith/trust in your dp and the chances are it will happen...

Today I'm with swiperfox.

northerner · 31/08/2005 09:13

Never feel like this, not for a minute. How afwul for you that you do.

Lizzylou · 31/08/2005 09:23

I don't feel like that...I have complete trust in my DH (which may be really foolish!) and couldn't live in fear of him "maybe" trading me in....

Now a 25 yr old toyboy in 10 years time for lil old me.......might be nice!

compo · 31/08/2005 09:26

only if dh suddenly turns into a younger fitter model!!

dejags · 31/08/2005 09:26

Charlie, just remember that your DP most likely also has saggier, bigger/smaller bits than he did when he was 17. We all have days (men and women alike) when feel a bit bleuurgh (I am having one today).

compo · 31/08/2005 09:26

iyswim

harpsichordcarrier · 31/08/2005 09:28

actually no, but I know lots of wonderful attractive women who do and I would like to bet you are one of them. And here's the thing - when "it" does happen then 9/10 times its because the woman is not confident and allows self doubt to get to her. Nothing more unattractive than thinking you are unattractive, IMHO. And, IME, a bit of extra weight is neither here nor there when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. (Carrying a bit of ballast myself...) Think about it - bet you know loads of thin pretty women who have a rubbish time with men - don't you?
Bet you're gorgeous. Bet you could trade HIM in if you wanted to (do you?). If you aren't confident then fake it till you are....

harpsichordcarrier · 31/08/2005 09:30

btw, I have an "admirer" who's 10 years younger than me... and I am no spring chicken, size 16 st the best of times and currently heavily pregnant... all very innocent but a boost all the same.
I think he likes me for my mind

expatinscotland · 31/08/2005 09:31

I didn't marry a man as shallow as that. And if I had, and he 'traded me in for a younger model', I wouldn't consider him a loss. Only twats behave like that, and who needs someone like that?

QueenOfQuotes · 31/08/2005 09:35

nicely put expat

Lizzylou · 31/08/2005 09:37

Fab posts Harpsichordcarrier!!

snafu · 31/08/2005 09:49

Hehehe, straight to the point as usual expat

LittleMissNaughty · 31/08/2005 09:57

A relationship that is purely based on physical attraction is never going to last forever. I would like to think that my dh will still think I'm beautiful when I'm 80 purely becaue of who I am and not what I look like.

piffle · 31/08/2005 10:01

he could not afford to keep a bimbo if he did that as I'd make sure I fleeced him.
And I'd train my kids to ruin her life
He won't stray, I specifically chose a model of chap that won't.
She says... hopefully...
Mind you his body has gone far more to pot than mine, perhaps he should be worried LOL

WideWebWitch · 31/08/2005 10:02

I don't think I'll be traded in but I used to worry about this as dp is ten years younger than me. BUT I really really don't think it'll happen now, 5 years on, I trust him and know he wants me and no-one else. The feeling's mutual too. I am at the age though (38) where some of my friend's husbands are starting to walk out on wives and children and go off with younger models and god, it pisses me off no end, it's so sad and pathetic and mid life crisis ish. But I agree, if I was with someone shallow enough to do this I'd be well shot of them I think. What makes you think a younger fitter model would have him? I agree though, the crisis here is in your own confidence and that's what you need to work on.

Enthusia · 31/08/2005 10:03

Know exactly what you mean Charliecat. Been with my DH for coming up to 10 years and we got together at 16. Have often felt this way, partly due to the fact that my Mum also felt this about my Dad, think I inherited part of it.

However, Harpsicord is right and this is now the way I try and think. I only feel I might be replaced when I am having a particularly bad day now. I also have a problem with trying to be perfect, so these things together do make a bad mix of emotions.

I have talked with my DH about it lots and he knows how I feel and have felt which has helped greatly, and he really is great. Took him a while to see it was my low self esteem that was the problem not my trusting him. Now things are much better - again agree with harpsicord - if you can't be confident fake it for a while. Doing this made me see that whether I worried about it or not, I had no control over whether it would happen. But DH and I were happier when I wasn't worrying, so more chance he wouldn't want a better model and I felt a lot better. And now I am more confident!

I do know where you are coming from though. So Hugs.

Chandra · 31/08/2005 10:08

Answering the original question of the thread, I'm not, for some reason DH considers model like women somewhat stupid. Now if the woman looked like a model AND had a notorious brain I would be very worried!

I'm sure he loves you for many other things, men are attracted by looks, but that's not enough to keep them interested. (Unless he lacks in confidence and really needs a trophy woman at his side)

iota · 31/08/2005 10:13

well I'm nearly 8 yrs older than my dh and I don't worry about it - in fact I sometimes tease him that I need a younger model as he isn't the young slim thing I married

blueteddy · 31/08/2005 10:17

No I am not, because nobody else would put up with him!
I might trade him in for another model though!

blueteddy · 31/08/2005 10:18

That was meant to say no I am not worried!

vickitiredmum · 31/08/2005 10:24

Agree with harpsichord... alot of it is a confidence thing - its not so much the image as to how you project it IYSWIM. Same thing happened with my SIL although her confidence not great as it was was knocked alot my her exp and just made her less confident. Hope thats not the case with you DP .

Toothache · 31/08/2005 10:29

I worry about many things in our relationship, but not that. I'm 6 yrs younger than DH though.

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