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Men going for younger women

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Popzie · 27/08/2010 23:02

I'm now at that age where I notice my male friends only consider dating ladies ten or more years younger than themselves. I'm married, so have no real need to be concerned, but my DH's single friends will all expect me to buddy up with these ladies and I'm starting to feel like a bloody fossil! I don't want to mix with 20 somethings as I'm pushing 40. When the boys all beging talking about football I'll be expected to 'bond' with them - they will think I'm a relic! Why don't men find women their own age interesting and attractive? I know dating younger women is an age old practice for men, but it's just beginning to hit home that this is how it's going to be from now on. My social circle seem to be really 'bad' for this - the latest is that my 42 friend is dating a 26 year old. Come on - I can understand it to a certain extent, but I'm beginning to feel as if it's the norm rather than the exception nowadays.

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kittya · 28/08/2010 20:56

Im no good at that either. Its like having to talk to your little annoying brother and his mates!

kittya · 28/08/2010 20:58

PSM you are 32!! try being 42!!! its dire for men action

poshsinglemum · 28/08/2010 21:00

kittya- I live in hope of the toyboy phenominum. When I was in my 20''s I used to ppull 18 yera olds. Mabe now I'm 32 I can start to pull 25 year olds?

kittya · 28/08/2010 21:11

for fun though? wouldnt you go for anyone older?

poshsinglemum · 28/08/2010 21:13

yes-older men definately attact me more nowadays.

greenbananas · 28/08/2010 21:14

Algebra - that's a lovely story. Really glad it worked out for you.

poshsinglemum - don't give up hope. I know it's a tired and annoying old cliche but the right bloke turns up when you are least expecting it. Sometimes when you have given up completely and decided to be an old spinster with cats. In my case it was in the launderette when I was a sad, skint failure aged 32 in my last pair of unflattering-but-vaguely-clean jeans. He was a crusty old bachelor aged 39 and we hit it off immediately. I married him only a few months later. Never regretted it.

greenbananas · 28/08/2010 21:20

OP - I sympathise, I really do. So much depends on how much you have in common with the young women you are being asked to socialise with. Personally, I find that it's hard talking about clubbing etc. these days, but I have a close and valued friend who is only 23 - I am almost a whole generation older than her but she has children the same age as my DS, she is wise beyond her years and she is a lovely person from whom I feel I can learn a lot.

kittya · 28/08/2010 21:24

I have friends from early twenties to late 60's and its lovely to have a variation.

I just get stuck on the socialising side of things, too old for clubs too young for cats!

Janos · 28/08/2010 21:32

I think if this thread demonstrates one thing it's that age is no guarantee of maturity (check out the exhusband and baby thread for an example of what I mean).

There are idiots of all ages out there.

Disclaimer - that is not meant as a dig at anyone!

Morloth · 28/08/2010 23:42

A friend of DH's recently married someone who was 21 (we are all mid-30s). She is nice but it was a bit weird to be out with them TBH. Our lives at just at such different stages.

Works for them though and I guess we will get to know her for her rather than how old she is.

franklampoon · 29/08/2010 05:34

I'm well into my forties and the propositioning from men shows no sign of slowing and I'm no Angelina

TDaDa · 29/08/2010 07:48

"Shame really as he's kind, funny, intelligent and loaded!...."

Dear Belle- it is usually the way.

BelleDameSansMerci · 29/08/2010 12:46

Too right...! I have tried to force myself to fancy him but I can't even bear the thought of kissing him.

TDaDa · 29/08/2010 19:07

Yes, that one would end in tears. Better off getting the positive aspects of friendship from this guy then.

SolidGoldBrass · 29/08/2010 21:06

OP It sounds to me like the main problem is your 'social circle' consists of berks and mundanes. FFS do you really divide all your nights out with the blokes bonding and the 'laydeez' all shoved into a corner to talk about handbags and tampons? Why not seek out some new friends, people who are interested in stuff you are interested in and (most importantly) people who are free of the Noah's Ark mindset?

Coolfonz · 30/08/2010 10:13

I'm 72 and Mrs Fonz is 19. She loves what I can do with a Werthers and a pair of tartan slippers.

nancydrewrocked · 30/08/2010 10:30

I have a number of single male friends in their early 30's who I've known since school.

They always date girls in their early 20's because in their words the thirty somethings are either desperate to get pregnant and settle down or have way to much baggage, having previously done that with someone else.

If I was single I know what I would prefer and it isn't a man who wants to sit in the pub discussing the coalitions view on child tax credits.

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