DP and FB (Yes another thread like this!)

[TinkerTailerS]

Name changed! (If you know who I am please dont out me)

Just wondered if this is me being paranoid as my (d)p says it is.

My DP often goes out with a group of friends. this includes his best friends girlfriend and one friend of hers.

This friend is too fully on I feel. her and my DP text alot. she has pics of them all over facebook. sends him flirty little messages.

the other day at 3am he updated his status to

Him: Cant sleep, sore throat

then there were loads of comments saying stuff then:-

Her: Get a nice warm drink. or put a film on x
Him: Nothing on x
Her: You've got nothing on?! x Wouldnt be the first time huh xx
Him: You know me, first chance and I'm stripping off xx
Her: No wonder you're bloody ill then ;P xx
Him: Your fault ;) Check your phone xx
Her: I'm in bed! xx
Him: Inbox then x

And he says this is ok cause its all up front.

She is exactly his type. he has said that if I hadnt got pregnant him and her more than likely be together (i got pregnant VERY quickly)

He's a prick right?

A prick is an understatement. GET RID.

Where is the respect for you?

Just because it is "up front" does not make it fine.

Get shot.

He's shagging her guaranteed and rubbing it in your face for "daring" to get pregnant.

Yes - this is not acceptable, particularly in the light of what he has said about them being together; which, in itself, isn't necessary.

Do you exist in his world at all?!

He's taking the piss.

(2nd time I've said that in as many minutes!)

oh dear :(
lose him.

If it's fine that it's all up front, presumably he would have no probs with you corresponding with a male friend in the same way? Wrong

I know people will come on after me and say things so much more eloquently than I will but ... ffs, that's a really really shitty thing to say to you. He sounds a real shit actually.

And, for what it's worth: it is NOT ok because it is upfront. That is not being upfront, that is being a fuckwit and not considering you and having totally inappropriate relationships with another woman.

...and them switching to phone/inbox was not upfront.

What were they moving on to say that couldn't be said out in the open? -As if the open exchange wasn't bad enough!

I am normally a "look at both sides", "there could be an explanation" kind of person but really in this situation he's being a twat!

Told him its a piss take as all the other friends can see it and it makes it look like they are having an affair or something. he said I was paranoid that I still have what he calls preggo brain from having my DD.

He says shes a nice girl and a good listener and they talk alot.

lots of her pics or pics she is tagged in are him and her together, sometimes not with the rest of the group as if they almost pair of together. he says this never happens and I'm paranoid. since this happened I magically cant see her pics any more.

shes young and full of life while I feel like I'm stuck at home with 4DCs and he's off with her. she works as a burlesque dancer and he often goes to see her perform and she just seems so much better than me

OMG! I'm angry for you and I don't even know you! Can you talk about it? Ask him what he expects you to do as you can't let it carry on. Good luck!

Yes, he's a prick.

This isn't acceptable behaviour for those who are in a committed relationship.

How long have you known him?

I asked him to delete her he said shes not the problem I am.

back to being single with 4DC's and a 3week old DD????? i dont work I live in his house only been together 11mths

She is not better than you and if he is fool enough to think so, kick him out to go and find out for himself!

Don't allow yourself to be the third person in your relationship.

...and just because 'you got pregnant' doesn't mean you have to put up with him.

This is not a criticism so please, please don't take it that way- you haven't known him long, not long enough to get his true personality.
Seems like his true personality isn't up to much- I'm sorry to say you picked a bad 'un.

story of my life.

You've got a kid and you'be been together 11 months??

Is he a prick in other ways too?

I was once single with a 6yo, 4yo, 1yo and newborn.

It's daunting, not impossible.

Leave!

They are taking the piss out of you!
You need to put your foot down over this, you are not making a big deal out of nothing, this will lead to more (if it hasnt already) and it needs to stop now, or he needs to go. Now.

You will be better off on your own with a bit of dignity.

Do you have family/friends around that can help you?

"I asked him to delete her he said shes not the problem I am."

She's not the problem. He is.

He's a hardworking good man (apart from when this girl is on the scene)

him and her are thick as theives its like he just is stupid when it comes to her. I looked at his phone to see what he is texting and any messages to her are deleted and only one in the in box which said 'you're gonna get yourself in trouble!! ;)' then refered to a show she is doing soon.

He only dleted her messages. all other messages from before and after are there