Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

Ok heading into the danger time for me so thought I would be honest and post. Dh has opened a bottle of wine and there is a huge part of me saying, go and have a glass, what's the harm.

But I am going to stay strong, I hope. Feeling a little wobbly.

hi glass, let dh drink it, it wont be you that feels sluggish, tired, puffy-eyed and have have a mouth like an arabs filp-flop in the morning! you will feel all bright and clear-headed!! - go and find yourself a nice long cool drink - preferbably something with a bit of tang to it, not too sweet, just keep sipping that and i bet you will find its not too hard!

glass of course you feel like having one, because you always do, but go on, see what it's like NOT having one. You will feel lovely and it will all be different. Go for a walk if the temptation is really strong. Or have a bath. Or do something! Stay on here. I'm about to do some exercise but back in 30 mins.

You can do it! Don't just think about one glass, see the whole night through, you'd then be having a second and a fourth and a sixth and you'd feel crap and disappointed and back to square one. If it were just one glass you were having every night then you wouldn't be posting here, really.

Keep strong and bright!

CTS

Good luck for Tuesday if I don't remember! Busy week here!

JWN

I'm on page 22 of the original thread. Your courage is amazing. I'm just hope that I can do it too.

I have a very weak vodka (50ml shot is the old norm, about 10mls in this) and tomorrow, we are supposed to be a dryer house. I am going to try not to drink. At all.

Glass

Have you read JWN's thread? You should. It will help you I promise. Stay strong. Just think how good you'll feel if you do. And how deflated you'll feel if you don't. Sorry, being honest.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!

Glass, if you are looking for a link to JWN's original thread, it is about half-way down the first page of this thread.

Hope that makes sense, and I hope you are finding an alternative for this evening.

When I first stopped, I imagined that if I felt a craving for a drink at 6pm, then I'd have 5 hours of feeling like that to come. But in reality, I never felt that I had intense cravings for a whole evening. If you can put off picking up the first drink, you may find the intese craving has gone, and you can manage on for and bit longer, and a little bit longer, and a little bit longer. Then it might just be bed-time and you will have had a whole day with nothing to drink.

Mouse, don't worry about what you are going to do tomorrow (or as people in AA would say, don't project, just deal with what is going on now).

You are already drinking a massive amount less than you were at this time last week, and that is fantastic.

mouse ( and anyone else having a wobble) a day at a time!! or an hour at a time! worry about today and i promise tomorrow is better, with every day it gets just a fraction easier and just builds - i dont get the cravings anywhere near as often even after only 9 short weeks - yep, i could really have gone a glass of wine about an hour ago, if i had picked up, i would now be on at least my 3rd! there is no way i would have stopped at just the one, its the first drink that does the damage - stay off that one and everything else will fall into place.

Thank you.

As long as this next week is less than last and so on, I will get to the why bother phase.

Off for some cuddling with DS. Just finished his last tube feed for the day.

Night all.

Night mouse, have a good cuddle with DS.

How's everyone else doing? Just done some more exercise which really helps me in the evening to put me off booze. Am tired though, hopefully a good night's sleep tongiht.

nearly the end of day three

glugging back squash with ice

been to tesco twice and not gone near the alcohol

its almost freeing

well done trinity, i know what you mean about freeing.

I also am finding that I am spending an awful lot less money now I'm not buying booze...

Just working my way through reading the original post by JWN - wow you are an inspiration to us all, you should be immensely proud of yourself!
I intend to read through all the threads to get to 'know' everyone
Not had any alcohol today and still feel like my body has been through the wars from Friday night, I don't remotely feel like having a drink
Hope everyone is doing well

Well done Hazel, hope you can have a good restful night.

I'm alternating between confidence and trembling wreck about interview. But I do know that I'm now in a much stronger place now I've done EIGHT days with no booze! Yey!

By the way, have found some lovely herb teas that are so nice in the evening, Dr Stuart's Wild Fennel and the Detox one. Really delicious and soothing.

I love being sober, I love how I don't have to think about how I'm going to feel in the morning, how I don't have to give myself grief in the morning, how I don't have to bargain with my inner demons all the time.

Well done hazeleye. And by that I mean well done on reading all the way through the original thread . There's a lot there.

Glad to hear you're near the end of day 3 Trinity. It will be a good start to Monday morning to be free of a hangover.

Is it Catinboots who has an interview tomorrow? Good luck.

Have just read through the first thread so I feel i 'know' ye a little more. You are amazing, each and everyone of you.

Am off to have some tea and sweets, I think this i the first day in YEARS that I haven't even had a beer.

Hello everyone,

sorry I haven't been around much. Welcome to all the new people! And great to hear from everyone doing so well - especially JWN, our fairy god mother.

I finished Drink - A Love Story - as I said it might be interesting or useful reading for some of you as there is a uniquely female perspective in it. If anyone would like me to post it, email me at curry dot eater at yahoo dot co dot uk (with real punctuation, obviously). It was a super cheap second hand copy.

Anyway here is some super secret squirrel news that I am going to share only on the grounds that I am STRICTLY ANONYMOUS on here - not a soul knows but DP and me. I am pregnant! Filled with emotion and not a drop of booze to soak it up... so here's to a completely booze free 9 months.

I am not sure if it will be appropriate for me to post but I will definitely be lurking and wishing you all well.

CONGRATULATIONS CURRY!!!

(bit of a drastic measure to keep off the souce though )

well you lovley lot, i am off to bed - had a wonderful day, dd and i have been sewing together all afternoon, she has nearly finished making a dress with some vintage fabric she found in a little old haberdashers a few weeks ago.

tonight i have not had a drink for 9 weeks and i have to say that i have never felt better - i feel quite evangelical about maintaining sobriety, it is the best feeling ever.

see you all tomorrow! and remember

WE WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

Night night Jesus

And Curry - congratulations!

Glass - well done well done well done! There's a lot of sugar in beer and wine so replacing some of it with sweets is a good idea I think in the beginning. I am eating rittersport chocolate and marzipan again. YUM.

Thank you computer fairies...am struggling tonight. DP have been arguing for the past few hours (both of us have drunk too much, me more than him) and it's got nasty and personal.
We are living with his mother and step-mother, he (we) are in loads of debt - bitter divorce (him), loads of debts (him) and me leaving work to bring up my kids.
Shit, there is so much background stress, lack of privacy to even row, our kids get on step father's and MIL's nerves, I blame DP and he blames me.

We both drink too much but when I start I find it so hard to stop. He doesn't.

Sorry for typos..a bit "tired and emotional."
Goodbight. Time for bed.

Arghh - cant sleep again so thought i'd pour out some thoughts that have been running through my mind re alcohol for opinions.....

Does anyone think that problems with addictive personality/alcohol can be hereditary? the reason I ask is that I have an all or nothing attitude to alcohol which is why I want to stop drinking - I can't have just one or two I always have the whole bottle of wine
Both of my parents (who are divorced) drink every day but neither see their drinking as a problem, I guess they would be described as functioning alcoholics? Both hold down responsible jobs, homes etc.

When I was growing up I saw horrendous fights between my parents due to alcohol, my dad used to go to the pub every night and my mum drank alone at home (whisky) I used to find bottles in the airing cupboard, laundry baskets you name it as she hid it from my dad so he didn't drink it, with hindsight you would think I would have run a mile from alcohol but instead I never drank spirits instead favouring to drink wine.

I got married at 27 and my EXH was an alcoholic (again in denial and was in a professional career) but we couldn't have any alcohol in the house or he drank it - a litre bottle of whisky in a night, or 3 for £10 bottles of wine all to himself in a night etc most nights and I think this is where my bad habit began when I then drank a bottle of wine most nights. My own career involved a lot of entertaining and drinking was encouraged, however I stopped for a time when I left him and now have a DS and didn't touch a drop of alcohol throughout my pregnancy and beyond until a few months ago (stopped BF) and the old habits crept back in, I feel so ashamed of how I could do this to myself and to my wonderful DS as I said previously I would nap when he did as I was hungover

I think that Friday night may have been a blessing in disguise as I am so mortified at my behavior that I feel motivated to stop drinking, I dont want my son to grow up ashamed of me the way I was with my parents, this has to stop and I hope to keep on this journey with all you inspiration people.

Sorry this turned into a bit of a 'me' novel but it has felt good to write it all down and face the reality!

Going to try and sleep now, night all

Just had a chance to catch up on the thread - I know I don't 'know' anyone yet but wanted to add.....

Trinity - well done, your doing great

Curryeater - many congratulations, hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

JWN - wow 9 weeks excellent, what an inspiration!

CTS - 8 days is fab and best of luck with your interview

Glass - congrats, the first day is over

Lucil - hope you feel better tomorrow and keep posting

Morning everyone.

Lucil, hope you are not feeling too bad this morning. Glad you posted on here. Things sound pretty stressful for you and you know that drinking isn't really making any of it better - not the finances, not your energy levels, not your ability to deal with the kids. There is a lot that probably feels out of control, but cutting back on / stopping your drinking is perhaps something that you could do something about.

Curryeater, wonderful, wonderful, exciting news. And what a great reason to be healthy and happy and sober.

Hazeleye, I have found that this is a great place to post my thoughts about my drinking habits. I agree it does really help to write things down and to face up to them. This feels like a nice supportive place to do that.

Catinboots, if I had remembered correctly and you have an interview today, then GOOD LUCK. Come and tell us how it was.

Mouse, JWN, Algee, Trinity and everyone, a big wave and a smile.

Moomin, you'll have lots of reading to catch up on now you're back at work.