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Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Mouseface · 30/07/2010 23:47

Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

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Mouseface · 04/08/2010 11:06
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MIFLAW · 04/08/2010 11:08

Not nice, but normal. And positive, if you think about it. After all, though the envy itself may not be very healthy, the fact that you feel it shows that you want what they have and, in this case, that is a very positive thing and may help you when times get tough.

Another quote I would like to share with you all - I remember saying to my quasi-sponsor (sponsors have never really worked for me, but the informal advice of older and wiser members has been very useful), "I am thinking a lot about haveing a drink."

"Of course you are - you're a bloody alcoholic!" he replied. What matters is not whether you think about it or want it - it's whether you have the strategies in place not to have it, one day at a time. And I have found this to be true.

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 11:10

I know what you mean algee, I had to have a strong word with myself on Monday when someone was celebrating one year - "I could have been almost 15 months by now!" was going through my head. But I'm not and I would not want anyone to go back out there so that I could 'catch up'. I suppose that envy and jealousy play a large part in my character defects and they will have to be addressed in due course. What fun!

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 11:14

at MIFLAW.

One of my favourite comments that I have heard in AA was when one of my friends was whinging to his sponsor that he could not see the light at the end of the tunnel. To which his sponsor replied, "Just be grateful that there is a fucking tunnel!" And hung up on him. Makes me laugh every time I think about it.

ChristianaTheSeventh · 04/08/2010 11:48

at fucking tunnel! That's brilliant

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 11:57

I love it too!

gingeroots · 04/08/2010 12:01

Hi all - just popping in ,as usual too much to do .
Of course all the rest of you lead lives of leisure -).
Like Mouse and Trinity and Algee - oh Lordy I just know I couldn't cope with your lives ! Sooo many " reasons " to drink ,tho of course drink only helps for a nano second and then makes it all harder .
MIFLAW - you might be right about my geographical location .
You won't tell anyone will you ?
Paranoid emoticon .
Not drinking today !

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Mouseface · 04/08/2010 12:04

Well done ginger

Have a good day.

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jesuswhatnext · 04/08/2010 12:14

i need to share a little moment i have just had! am at office right now, went to loo - guess what? i can pull my trousers down without undoing them!!!

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Mouseface · 04/08/2010 12:19

Yay!!! JWN That's great!!!

Well done. Christ, are we taking it to another level today? Poor MIFLAW

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gingeroots · 04/08/2010 12:19

ooh jwn .
Sorry about the Supermalt obssesion ,but has lots of vit B - good for all us anxious alkies .
I like the bottles - like a beer bottle with crown cap ,handy to walk around with and swig from.
Not that beer was ever my poison ( tho obviously would do at a pinch ! ) - whisky more the one .
But not today !

GlassInHand · 04/08/2010 12:27

Hi all.

Got through the night, even though there are 6 beers in the fridge! I am enjoying my lovely sleeps now, I really am and I am not afraid of not being able to sleep which I had been. So yay!

Had a bit of a shitty morning, usually I would be planning my drink to reward myself after a shite day but when the thought came in I replaced it with the thought of a nice walk alone with my ipod and then some hot chocolate with a blob of ice cream in it

I just hope to god that my shrink and I see eye to eye today, this session usually sends me over the edge.

jesuswhatnext · 04/08/2010 12:37

glass - are your sessions actually doing you any good?, i have no experience on threarpy, but i thought the whole point was to make you feel better, not push'over the edge'

sorry if that sounds ignorant or insentitive, i dont mean it to be!

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Mouseface · 04/08/2010 12:39

Oh Glass

Be kind to yourself. I hope your appoinment goes well.

Well done for making plans on what to drink, (other than booze) it really works!!! As does leaving the beer in the fridge!!

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MoominMags · 04/08/2010 12:49

Hope your session goes well today glass. And great stuff on planning what to do with yourself that does not involve alcohol.

JWN - well done on the trousers thing, just a boost!

Yep mouse, I think we are having a bit of girly stuff today as well - skin problems and more weight loss!

Hello ginger!

algee · 04/08/2010 13:24

Thanks MIFLAW and sorry you lot about my admission of resenting you!

JWN....if I wasn't already jealous enough! I can't seem to stop eating still, so am growing if anything! How lovely for you; you'll have to buy braces, a nice red dotty clown pair!

ginger mouse moomin, hello again. Now then ginger, why did I feel a thrill when you said you wre a whioskey girl? What's that all about. I have to tell you though, the (rather nice) stuff I drank on Monday night burned as it went down! Where's the fun in taht? I really didn't even enjoy the first glass but still had to carry on...

Glass hope your therapy session doesn't push you to drink!

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 13:43

algee - No worries from me about feeling a bit resentful - all totally normal. (Well, I think so anyway!) Your eating will still be all over the place after drinking so recently. It really is one thing at a time. At the moment I don't care about my smoking and diet coke addictions. I can only focus on one problem at a time! (Actually the last time I picked up came off the back of me trying to stop diet coke by going cold turkey. No idea if it's connected but it's put me off - so bring on the D.C.!!)

algee · 04/08/2010 13:54

Nah I'm just a greedy cow!
a FEW MONTHS AGO, i DECIDE i NEEDED oops to give up caffeine...heavy coffee and cola drinker (ignoring what Oi raelly needed to give up, rather conveniently). It took me 5 days of the worsst headaches I have ever had in my life! Horrid. Still managed to kick that habit for a hile, and only have a couple of coffes in the day now. That all had nothing to do with nothing, jusdt thought I'd share

algee · 04/08/2010 13:58

in spite of my typing pointing to the possibility, I am not drunk!

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 14:02

Yeah, I gave up Diet Coke about 2 or 3 years ago - same as you, ignoring the actual thing I should have been giving up! - and the withdrawal was soooo bad. I felt like I was dying!

venusandmars · 04/08/2010 14:15

Hello all, well I am going to be asking for your special help over the next week or so. My dp has gone away on a work trip so I will mostly be on my own.

Previously when he has been away it would have been the cue for a major binge. I was feeling pretty good about everything and not particularly worried, but when he left this morning my first thought was, OK now where's the booze. I was actually starting to plan a trip to the shops to buy drink and food to last a few days . I haven't done it, and to avoid further temptation I've planned meals I can eat today without going shopping, but it has given me a bit of a jolt to realise how close to the surface the 'wanting to drink' still is (especially after feeling so happy last night), and how my thinking about drinking has become such a deeply ingrained pattern.

So instead I am planning things to achieve of the next days. They include sorting out a quote for the cental heating, tidying up in preparation for a friend coming to stay, a trip to the garden centre to buy new plants for the tubs. I also have work commitments and plans for dinner with my parents, and some other family stuff, so I should manage to keep myself busy. However, I am letting you know all this so that you know how things are, and give me a kick in the right direction if I look like wavering.

Thank you for being here. All of you.

algee · 04/08/2010 14:21

Hey venus...I was in that very situation last week, no dh no dd just me the dog and the expectation of a week long binge. It didn't happen, and the feeling of achievement by the end of the week was enormous...rather tahn sinking in to boozedom, I actiually worked my butt off and got loads done. It was fab making trips to recycling with plastic rather tan glass too, and no hiding of the evidence before the family came home. Shame the wheels came off when he got home at the weekend...relief maybe? Watch out for that, caught me by surprise!

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 14:23

You've made a huge and positive step by posting the above venus, admitting that you are feeling vulnerable and asking for help. We are all here for you. I am so pleased that you have loads of other things planned too. Do you plan on going to any meetings over the week?

Loads of positive, non-drinking, happy thoughts being sent your way!

algee · 04/08/2010 14:25

sorry that sounded a bit 'all about me'...it was meant to be encouraging, bad phrasing strikes again

MoominMags · 04/08/2010 14:25

algee - good advice re being caught out. I think sometimes we build ourselves up to get through a certain event or period of time and once it has passed safely drop our guards... Or subconciously 'reward' ourselves. With booze. Totally insane!