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Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Mouseface · 30/07/2010 23:47

Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

OP posts:
ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:36

It won't be just one drink/ WE've got to see the film all the way through, it'll be two or eight and then grim grim grim

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:36

Toclear and CTS - thinking of you as well .
I have to go for a bit ,will return .
Keep posting .

TrinityRhino · 03/08/2010 19:37

flake ice cream was on offer
have crunchie ice cream too

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:39

Ice cream - fantastic choice - may have to go for a tub myself .
But I'm sooo tired ,how to get to shop ...

Toclearmyhead · 03/08/2010 19:41

Hey CTS - it's a bugger isn't it?

I've been watching that film through.

I would drink the whole bottle of wine and the half bottle of vodka hidden in the freezer under the peas (put it there so I wouldn't think of it!)

I know I would drink the lot and pretend I was actually helping myself so there's none left and I can make a fresh start.

Can't believe I'm finding it this hard.

Is the ice cream helping Trinity?

Might have a bath.

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:43

CTS - you're absolutely right ,if only it could be one glass .
TBH ,I never think I'd like a drink ,I always think I want to get drunk .
Not wasted ,but mind altered .
But slippery slope doesn't come near to describing it - it's like sliding down a cliff face ,gathering speed as I go .
Oh the times I've let myself think ,I'll just have a few ...

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:43

I'm eating potatoes!

TrinityRhino · 03/08/2010 19:43

yes it is
as are you lot

thankyou

venusandmars · 03/08/2010 19:44

Hello Trinity, Ginger, Christi and ClearmyHead,

you are doing so well to get to this time of evening without a drink, and posting on here and being honest is something that wouldn't have happened a couple of weeks ago.

When I've had really bad cravings, I've imagined that they would go on for ever. But they don't. If I manage to get through the worst of it, then it's as if the feeling passes a bit.

I can't think of a better way than ice-cream to distract yourself, and give yourself something nice.

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:45

Ginger I think I'd just like to have a glass or two but I know that I want it on an empty stomach so I can do that slide - and I kid myself my mood is better. It is better for about five seconds, then it's worse worse worse.

I'm clinging on to that lovely evening I had sober with DH in the cafe on saturday night.

I'm going to book a babysitter so we can go out together on saturday. We can't afford it, BUT we can't afford to drink either and I need something to look forward to.

FEeling so crap about job interview now thinking of all the things I should have said!

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:46

Toclear - oh ,finishing bottles off so that it'll be gone and tomorrow is another day - that's what I've often done .
Wonder how Hazeleyes is .?

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:48

I've also lost 6 lbs from not drinking, in ten days. WHa hey

And I'm going to go for a run tomorrow.

I am not going to drink.

I might make some chocolate brownies though...

GlassInHand · 03/08/2010 19:49

Right, I have found the cure. Werthers sweets with caramel inside, have eaten a packet with a pot of tea and now feel so sick of sugar that I couldn't take any alcohol in ;)

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:49

Toclear I've done that too! Let's just drink this bottle of red otherwise we'll just drink it tomorrow.

Venus thank you for your thoughts here it means a lot

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:50

OOooh glass they sounds good... Probably still fewer calories than a bottle of wine (550 in them I think!)

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 19:51

wine I mean, not werthers

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:52

CTS - for me I often nosedive into drink after I've put my all into getting through some situation .
Think it's a combination of exhaustion ( that often makes me want a drink ,like medicine ) and letting your guard down .
I was exhausted the other day - A and E with mother until 11pm ,home after midnight ,back at hospital at 8am and I soo wanted to drink .
I was completely amazed to find that after a bath and a rest ( which initially left me feeling worse ) I perked up - without alchol.
Which weirdly I am no longer able to spell .

venusandmars · 03/08/2010 19:52

Christi, I have never met anyone who comes out of an interview and thinks they have done great. The other candidate(s) from today will be feeling just as bad as you are, and they will be wishing that thay had said x or been clearere about y. I promise you that. The only person not feeling bad is the person who has their interview tomorrow, and their turn will come tomorrow night.

The only difference is you KNOW that when you wake up tomorrow morning, you will not have a hangover.

Have you re-read your post from Saturday, Read it again and re-capture what you saw, felt, heard, smelt. Remeber just how liberaqting and fun it was to be free and sober. x

gingeroots · 03/08/2010 19:55

Just cracked open a bottle of Supermalt - can't make it to the shops for icecream .
But Supermalt just as fattening -)

GlassInHand · 03/08/2010 19:59

CTS

Try closer to 1000 cals in a bottle of full bodied red!

ChristianaTheSeventh · 03/08/2010 20:00

Nooooo way really?! NO wonder I'm losing weight!

venusandmars · 03/08/2010 20:00

Glass, well done for finding your distraction.

I think that I had got so used to using alcohol to treat every feeling: feeling hungry? I'll just have a drink while I make the tea; feeling exhausted? I'll just have a drink to perk me up, feeling high? I'll just have a drink to keep me there; feeling bored? I'll just have a drink until I can be bothered thinking of something more interesting to do.

The problem was that I then lost touch with what I was really feeling, so if I was feeling hungry I would instantly transpose that into "I want a drink"; feeling bored? "I want a drink". Does that make sense?

Now I am trying to work out what my real need is for. If I feel that I need a drink, i think well maybe I'm hungry, so first I'll eat; if I'm exhausted I'll have a long soak in the bath with a book... etc.

I usually find that by the time I've done all that, the absolute intense craving has backed down a bit.

Toclearmyhead · 03/08/2010 20:02

What is Supermalt?

I might ask dh to get me some ice cream so I don't go near the freezer.

I've just been catching up, but can't get the hang of trying to reply to everyone!

Toclearmyhead · 03/08/2010 20:03

1000 calories?!

GlassInHand · 03/08/2010 20:06

Yes CTS, my sister is a weight watchers leader and she worked it out for me one day. It is shocking!

Venus, I couldn't agree more re what you actually want as opposed to automatically using alcohol to mask what it really is.

One revelation that I have had this week, is, last week my shrink told me I was one of her patients that simply did not know how to relax, and that because of it, my ishooooooos get multiplied ie my anxiety takes over ten fold.

I sort of scoffed at that, come on. I do know how to relax ffs. I close the curtains, light some candles, and have a bottle wine. Simple.

What a stupid woman I was.