Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze

[MoominMags]

Well, here we go ladies (and MIFLAW)! The new thread to follow on from JWN's 'me and alcohol have ruined my family'. I hope no one minds that I decided to go with 'brave'? I just think that it describes us!

As a quick recap, I am 33 and on day 22 of sobriety (on this occasion!)

morning all! nice to see you are still here trinity!! whos a daft old moo then?!!, like you say

daaaaay 1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

a bit later on, go back and have a look at your posts from last night - not exactly the life and soul of the party ehh! drinking all that booze didnt help you, didnt change your situation, didnt make you feel any better or any less grief stricken did it?
its just left you feeling crappy, even more depressed and basically bloody miserable.
please dont think iam getting at you - i just CARE!!!, you have been through enough, your family has been through enough,please dont add to it!

i know that it is a strange concept - but a load of strangers here are rooting for you, willing you on and hoping like hell that you can turn this around and that you and your family can have the happy lives you deserve!

L xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Good morning babes,

Trinity - please don't beat yourself up about what happened last night. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and firm up that resolve. You have not let anyone here down. I certainly 'slipped' since JWN started the original thread but I put it to the back of my mind (can't change the past) and carried on. I did almost 11 months without a drink at one point and then picked up - bloody hell I was pissed off! But here I am over a month into it again. Don't worry about yesterday you will only make it more likely that you will pick up again today. No one will judge you here sweetheart, promise. I hope that everything goes OK with SW and the cleaner. If it all seems too much just try to remember, 'this too shall pass'.

To everyone else a big hello! I have failed to make notes so cannot reply to everyone (JWN - your trip with your dm stuck in my head! At least it's over now!) but it was fab to catch up. My dh was borderline annoying last night but luckily he went to bed at 9pm so I had some peace and read my book - Diet Coke and chocolate to hand!

As always am around during the day if anyone wants/ needs a chat.

trinity - hope you're okay this morning.

i drank last night. i don't think i have the power to do this. It's scary. I didn't realise that I couldn't stop until I started trying to.

Hello everyone !

I have been following your achievements and even joined you last week and managed 1 day dry and then I have pretty much drank every night. So today is day 1 !!!!

Trinity - Please do not beat yourself over what happened last night, focus on today !

Today we wont drink !!

Hi cat, nice to see you back on here. If you look at the last 2 days, you were only drunk on one of them. That's progress.

Please don't beat yourself up about drinking last night. Yes it is scary. This drinking thing creeps up on us so easily, it's an easy habit to get into and it can be tough to get out of.

It may take a while for you to find the ways that work for you to reduce / manage / stop your drinking. Just keep on being honest with yourself, and if you want some support, some understanding or even a bollocking, keep on posting. x

cat - how are you feeling today? The only thing to do is to take this one day at a time. Stopping drinking is not about power. (Part of Step 1 in AA is admitting that we are 'powerless' over alcohol.) Are you able to get some outside help in RL? Whether that's counselling or AA or something? Many of us find that without support we are not able to do this. Personally I cannot do it without AA meetings. Maybe this is something you could consider? And yes, it's pretty bloody scary isn't it? You are on your way though as you have admitted that there is a problem. Keep posting, keep sharing.

Welcome back gloup - good to see you!

Hi venus, how are things with you? (I had a drinking dream last night. God, I hate them. In it I was carting about a half bottle of gin - although it was in a vodka bottle!? - I had one swig in the dream and was really annoyed with myself but thought 'oh well I might as well drink the lot' and then luckily I woke up! Mad.)

Oh gloup, glad you've posted. You know that we've been looking out for you.

Day 1 is good. day 1 is where we all start (and some of us more often than others - including myself in this, not pointing fingers at anyone else).

'Tis interesting on here because if I decide to have a drink, then no-one on here can actually stop me. If I post then people can encourage, empathise or distract me, but no-one is in the same room, no-one can actually take the drink away, take me out for a bracing walk. I have to do that for myself.

And that kind of sums up what this is like for me. Other can support (or tut, or be cross, or whatever) but I have to want to do something about it, and I am the only person that can make that happen.

Well said venus! (I am finding you full of wise words at the moment, I like it!)

Hope that doesn't sound like I am saying you were not full of wise words previously! Not what I was trying to say!

Hi moomin. And I used to think I was full of wise words when I was pissed, when really I was only spouting a load of crap

When did we last hear from idolikemondays? Are you around ido? chinkof - how are you doing?

I think most of the rest of the gang has been about fairly recently...

I have been drinking so much and I have to stop, I have the mother of every hangover, I'm fat, not nice looking at all. And I spend so much money on the evil booze, I'm ashamed of myself.

OK, gloup, what's done is done. Today is a new day. Get rid of any booze that's hanging around if you feel it might tempt you. Get the windows open, fresh air, some nice soft drinks, maybe some comfort food! (No point worrying about how you look today when you are feeling so awful!) Start afresh - and keep posting. I know exactly how you are feeling right now and it's horrendous! But if you stay off it you will feel better.

hi - my connection keeps going so i may not be about much - today i am meeting the girls for lunch, looking forward to that ( i used to drink a bottle all by myself, while they all had a soft drink )

anyway

TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

back later i hope

Have a lovely and sober lunch JWN!

gloup - a day at a time is all you can do!, you sound low, pissed off and unhappy, how about for tomorrow morning to be differant?, for that to happen just

DO NOT DRINK TODAY!

thanks moomin, i think i will!

(even though one of my friends has THE most perfect dcs in the world and has to tell us about their perfection in all its wonderful glory! we know the truth as our dcs show us their facebook pages ha ha ha, thats a wicked cackle!!)

With the pace of this thread at the moment I think we need some suggestions for the title of Thread 3! I think we should keep 'Babes' in it as I think that people on other threads refer to us as that when suggesting people take a look... Over to you guys!

MORNING!!!!!

Whoops, sorry, didn't mean to shout!!!

Trinity

Sorry you are feeling like deep fried dog vomit. Hangover cure - NO BOOZE!!!!! My cure is cheese on toast and a small glass of pure OJ. I take a fizzy mega B-vit drink too. Every day. If you can get your hands on some, that really will help. Tesco do them, 'Activit' I think, in a purple tube. Just add water.

And don't feel twatish. FFS, I think you are bloody brilliant actually. After all the utterly horrid things that you have had to deal with. You are in control of the rest of your life. You did 6 whole days! That's massive. Make no mistake, no-one can take those days away from you!

So, start again. You know you can do it. You've done it before.

What time is the SW coming?

fwiw gloup (and anyone else who may be struggling)
everyday since i have stopped drinking i have 'done' something to myself, ie, had my hair done, had my eyebrows shaped, done my nails, creamed my feet, treated my face with soem lovley creams and things - just taken maybe half an hour to just treat me, iyswim?, turned the bathroom into a calm space that no one is allowed to invade for a while - i look so much better and it really helps to see good pysical changes - i have now lost nearly a stone in weight aswell, without really trying - such a boost!.

mouse - you have a way with words deep fried dog vomit indeed!

"halfway down the second bottle

you need another thread for fuck uops

this wont be helping the sucessful ones

Im'm sorry"

It's helped me enormously, Trinity. You certainly didn't end up "selling me the dream" ...

Hope today goes better for you.

You CAN do this. I know, because I did.

Hi mouse, I guess it's been a while since you felt like shouting in the morning! Just as well I was already awake.

social worker has been
all girls dressed appropriately and boringly

I was dressed and you wouldn't have had a clue I had had a drink

I will not be drinking again

If I wasn't convinced that drinking was fucking me up before then I sure as hell know now

maybe last night was a good lesson

I had two pints of strongbow, one botte of blue wkd and a bottle of wine
I then opened the ther and drank a third

this morning I poured the rest down the sink
I will not be wasting money on booze
I will not be having hangovers ever again

I am worth more than that

thnkyou everyone

the carer is here now and we are cleaning
I still feel like frog poop but I am cleaning

I can do this

DAAAAAYYY 1