Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze

[MoominMags]

Well, here we go ladies (and MIFLAW)! The new thread to follow on from JWN's 'me and alcohol have ruined my family'. I hope no one minds that I decided to go with 'brave'? I just think that it describes us!

As a quick recap, I am 33 and on day 22 of sobriety (on this occasion!)

btw venus, £2 for a lobster!! you cant go wrong!, i do use the nutcrackers though instead of bashing it to buggery with a rolling pin!

Oh dear your moving post, JWN, had me chortling at my 'puter. I think I have decided to lie ...can't face the luton van 'conversation' again...

Crap at pressie suggestions I'm afraid, maybe someone else!

Mouse, thai sounds fab, and what asweetie your dd must be!

mouse - if i feel a major wobble coming on, i go back to the fisrt few pages of that thread, i never ever want to feel like that again. as a family, i had made us such unhappy people and i just couldnt see it for sooo long - i am so lucky that i have been able to get back some semblance of normality, to try and put my family right again - a day at a time, a day at a time.

yes algee LIE!!!!! (he need never know! )

...and lets face it, I've lied about the money I spend often enough! Started to tot up what IO've saved over the past three weeks while I was walking the dog, but took fright so stopped and concentrated on enjoying the fresh air!

algee - my DH and I moved to Wales, from London, with a Luton Van recently. We were forced to move with 3 days notice so didn't have a choice but by the time we'd hired the van, bought the boxes and paid for the 3 round trips of diesel, it was about £100 cheaper than getting the removals people in.

We didn't have the choice but it is worth actually adding up how much a DIY removal will cost, including ALL the incidentals, right down to the packing materials and use that as your justification for getting movers in!

Oh and trying to physcially source a Luton Van in London was night on impossible. Not sure where you are but use that one too - they are really hard to find!!

thanks EMS...think you'rte probably right!

I fucked up

I got really upset about something abut Neil

I went to the pub with my friend

I had two pints of strongbow

Then I biught two bottles of wine

Sorry

Trinity...don't be sorry, but can you ditch the wine?? I really hope somebody who talks better sense than me will come very soon, but it seems to me that you KNOW that getting pissed won't help, other than that it will dull your (natural) emotions for a while, and you'll have to drink more and more to achieve the same effect. It's hard. Plaese try to dich the wine...

I'M also finished the first bottle

I;m sorry but I am going to drink it

I'm a bitch

I did'nt love him enough

whay didn he die

No. i don't know you, I don't know why you'd say that but I'll gamble that you're wrong. the last question I really can't answer. I am scared of speaking out of turn, but getting pissed won't help you or your little Trinities...plesae keep posting...please try to spep away from the wine

Hey Trinity, I saw something you posted recently about the FAI. From what I recall, there was nothing in that that was your fault for not loving him enough. If you didn;t love him so much you would not be in such pain. You know that.

...god i'm a cracking typist.
You still there?

Who are you so mad at Trinity? Neil? Yourself? Can you do something constructive with that anger. Can you use that energy to do something constructive for yourself.

You could take that second bottle of wine and pour it doen the sink, then take the empty bottle, find somewhere safe, and smash it into tiny pieces, complete dust.

Or you could drink the wine and hope for some kind of oblivion. And tomorrow you can start again.

Either way, we will be here with you. We probably do a good line in hangover advice.

Have you got someone to talk to Trinity? Are your dc in bed? Post on here if it would help. Or you know that if you post on other mn topics, the others who know and support you will be around.

kids are in bed
I went to the fucking pub and instead I ws supposed to be here for the child protection social worker

proper fuckeed up I have

I'm sorry

Hi all,

Trinity you've not f**d up - you can start again tomorrow. And you don't need to be sorry to us, we computer fairies are here to support each other not judge.

You don't need to apologise to us Trinity. I have had no experience similar to yours, but I do know what its like to respond to all my upsets by having a drink, and in the process forgetting about everything else that needed done.

Come back on here in the morning and we can think about what you should say to the social worker. Do not make yourself feel worse by trying to worry about that now. You will not be making the best decisions.

The sw will only know that you were not there, they will not know that you are pissed. In the morning when you are sober, it will be easier to sort out.

Trinity...please stop apologising. Be kind to yourself.

Trinity

Venus talks sense about the social worker not knowing you were in the pub.

And I second algee, be kind to yourself. You can start again.

Try to sleep. xx

trinity - stop apologising, you dont need to! i think what you do need to do have a drink of water, a pee, and get to bed!

sleep is what you need, not another drink.

halfway down the second bottle

you need another thread for fuck uops

this wont be helping the sucessful ones

Im'm sorry

Turning in guys. Night. Trinity, stay safe.

The 10th wedding anniversary is tin apparently.

How about some fantastic bakeware for yourselves? or a tin containing something more suitable?

Algee, isnt it great to be in control of stuff (just mosey in and compare those quotes) a 20 minute job used to send me into a spin/take ruddy days to sort.

From reading mouse and trinitys latest, so glad to be free of feeling like shit, feeling guilty, sorry, etc.

trinity, when you read this, i hope you are right back on it (day 1)

mouse, are you physically dependant on alcohol?

Sorry Trinity but you're not the first to fuck up on here. And I'd bet that most of us had our own fair share of f-ups.

'See' you in the morning. I'll be hanging around with cold Irn Bru and something for the inevitable guilt and self-pity (at least that's what I always needed the morning after).

The pity is, I bey you're not even enjoying it .