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She probably did go too far in her reaction to William, but however well they were getting on, anyone with an iota of emotional intelligence would have realised that even if she were up for it, it's way too soon after everything she's just been through. She should not be expected to have to manage his emotions as well as her own, which she was barely managing as it was.
Seems to me, though, that if you turn that round it is just as true.
"He probably did go too far in his reaction to Emma, but however well they were getting on, anyone with an iota of emotional intelligence would have realised that even if he were up for it, it's way too soon after everything he's [just] been through. He should not be expected to have to manage her emotions as well as his own, which he is barely managing as it is."
She went to his house on their wedding anniversary without being invited it was her idea, not his, and he was surprised by her doing so, but she specifically said that yes, she did know what day it was and had a meal alone with him, drinks alone with him and a sit-down on the sofa alone with him. And he was playing, not the music from their wedding but the music from his wedding to Nic.... I can't feel that he initiated that contact, or when you think about it that he had time to do anything particularly frightful before she leapt to her feet like something out of a Victorian novelette and said the nastiest possible thing to him before running from the room in a most hysterical manner. She had been giving out "we were so good together" signals during their chat; yes, he misunderstood her, but then, she also misunderstood him.
She's meant to be thirty-five, not fifteen, and she ought by now to have learnt to handle awkward situations mostly of her own making better than that. (I had by the time I was fifteen, but I'm not one of the Emmas of this world.)