Aldridges Assemble! Await the return of the prodigal daughter to Ambridge with the rest of The Archers audience

[PseudoBadger]

I can't resist alliteration

I would like to hear somebody from the home giving ruth a good talking to about capacity. If Heather has capacity then she has to accept whatever solution Ruth proposes. Ruth can't force her and yes, even if the home had realised she was doing a bunk they wouldn't have been able to actually stop her.

When she was well Heather used to visit Brookfield a couple of times a year for a week or two. So why not now?

I still call my auntie and uncle that!!

The HP storyline is too close for comfort right now and 'every stroke is different' is a constant refrain but the stroke team can question her capacity to make her own decision and can over-rule a relative who supports her choice.

can anyone give me a brief update I am so confused:

1. Why can't HP come and live in a nice home in Ambridge surrounded by her nearest and dearest?
2. Why have Rob/Helen eloped - and has he done anything evil lately?

thanks for your help

Ruach (No doubt they'll find a toy robot down the back of the bench ...)
I 'lol-ed' at this assuming that you were referring to robopip (& not robot milkers)

SchwarzwalderKirschtorte I was born in the 60s & I still call my aunties & uncle that as well. However, I no longer write "from auntie told" in cards etc to my multitude of grown up nieces & nephews.

(I do love it when they call me auntie though)

Dozey because

1. HP would miss her friends & the area she has always lived in (sod the effect it has on her only child Ruth)
2. Presumably because Rob has no wish for his family to meet The Archers due to nefarious reasons

Thanks Told I would have thought that HP would have been much better off with her lovely Ambridge family - who are all these wonderful friends in the North East then?

I have got a bit bored of the Rob storyline - wish they would just get on with it tbh.
Anyway glad I got that off my chest. Need to get on with chores now

YY - dozey
so glad I found this thread - just listened to the omnibus this morning and found myself saying :
why does HP not move to Ambridge to be near her 'family' ?
what friends does she have in the NE who would a) not be already in a care home or (b - passed on ??
can't be so many that her daughter/grandchildren would not count for more
but I guess that would be too sensible to make a story and it is just a continuation of the mad idea to move the whole caboodle up to the NE
and no-one has mentioned the cost of the care home, the fact that lots of 'oldies' hate being there

Yes, HP has been invited to live at Brookfield but refused. It was a while back though

but I guess that would be too sensible to make a story

Yup.

Honestly in real life it would be incredibly cruel to tell someone they can never go home again - it sounds like a punishment for having a stroke.

If Heather has enough money to enable a choice of care home she has enough money to employ care at home while Ruth discusses the future with her. It might not be ideal, the carers might sometimes let her down, but at least she'd feel she was part of the decision making process.

And, after all, if there was no money, presumably she would prefer Brookfield to whatever her local council might provide.

It's an extremely odd SL.

Heather isn't actually all that old, you know. Her husband Solly died in 2002 'on the brink of his retirement', according to the BBC website. That would make him about 65 then, so born in 1937 or 1988. If Heather was about the same age, she's in her late 70s now. My mum and dad are a few years older than that and have been luckier with their health. They have innumerable friends of their own age, some a bit older, some younger, in the village where they went to live on retirement. Very few of the ones their own age or older are living in care homes. Some have died, yes, but most are in their 80s and still living independently - in a few cases with carers going in, but mostly not.

Even my aunt, who is a lifelong smoker and not in terribly good health, is managing perfectly well in sheltered housing with a carer coming in and has friends around her.

Heather has lived in Prudhoe for decades. Why wouldn't she have friends of all ages there? I entirely understand why she doesn't want to move to Ambridge. If I tried to suggest to my parents that they should up sticks and move to London to live with me, I'd expect a firm no!

What is odd is that Ruth is assuming Heather has to go into a home. Surely assisted living in her own home or sheltered housing is a better option?

I have got a bit bored of the Rob storyline - wish they would just get on with it tbh.
It won't be long. We need just enough time for Helen to get pregnant ("it's not the right time" being less relevant now he's got her so loved up.") Then Charlie will have gathered enough evidence to be able to sack him for gross misconduct - possibly during the process coming across Stefan's contact details, so the truth about the culvert blocking will come out. Once Rob is sacked, he'll take it out on Helen for trapping him - she was the one who really wanted to get married and have a baby, she gave him no choice, etc. He may also bring up the whole Charlie and Adam thing, and while Adam's busy denying it to Ian, Rob will assault Charlie and Adam's true feelings will come out. And it's good it's all taking a long time - it's more realistic than TV soap storylines.

Months ago, didn't Heather go and visit one of her friends who had recently moved into a home, and said it was lovely and her friend was really settled - but it wouldn't suit her (Heather)? Or am I confusing it with Christine and the Laurels (the only nursing home in the whole of Borsetshire.)

Thanks told I was born in the 60's too maybe I was just cheeky then

Hope ebearhug's prediction comes true...

Yes you aren't confused Ebearhug I remember that as well

Whoever 's advising Ruth or the SW's is forgetting that of course she could have 24 hr care at home unless there's the guilt factor with Ruth feeling SHE should be doing the caring.

but no matter how many 'friends' HP has they are not the same as family
if I had had a stroke - and not safe to be on my own - I would be pragmatic enough to know that if I was to have any input to the decision I had to be pragmatic not for just now but for the next ten years. 1 stroke is often followed by another.
family - her only daughter and grandchildren outweigh even the best of friends who could come and visit if such good friends.
you can tell I am not far off her age
on another note - why is rob being so nasty about Henry's behaviour - does Henry call him Daddy yet? will it end well?

Thank goodness Jolene is at last pulling Kenton up over his behaviour. But can you imagine the hoo-hah if Ruth and David HAD given a birthday card. he's so perverse that he'd have been annoyed with that too. I can't help thinking Jolene would have been better off running the pub on her own, that marrying Kenton with his iffy business skills was a mistake in a business sense.

On a different note (...) I'm wondering what scope there is for the SWs to mirror the plot of Cosi fan tutte in Ambridge. Isn't Fallon the only person enjoying the attentions of a suitor atm? Can't think of anyone else. Oh. Pip. Thrilling ....

Lovely to hear about love-struck Ben though.

Pseudo can we have "cock and Bull" in the next thread title???

I was quite sympathetic to Kenton until tonight. Now him saying that Roooooth and Dayveeed didn't come to his party because they are thinking of themselves makes me think differently

I would love a thread title with 'herbal lay' to the tune of 'purple haze' as this is what I sing in my head every time it's mentioned!

Kenton was FINALLY put in his place (a bit) by Jolene. He was being so selfish and ungrateful. Poor Shula, what a crap birthday. I did love the conversation between her and Elizabeth. Thought it was really sweet.

"Herbal lay" is almost certainly running through Toby's mind ...

(As opposed to ley ...)