Neeeeoooooooowwww Flying into March Pushchair Shed

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Title in honour of my new spitfire that is coming

zebra tee just arrived! thanks maxy

Hi Diva, shopping was not that successful as started to feel poorly part way through the day

Didn't get sandals as couldn't decide between 2 pairs (should have just bought both ) Did buy some of my fave clinique perfume though, it came with shower gel, body lotion and bag. Bargain and at least it fits me!

We went to TGI's for lunch. Not thrilled. What was the italian you went to? Did you have a good time? Glad your friend showed up.

Morning!
basl I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Nicola is right, you need to think about what you want and need.

Basl, hope you are ok. I understand you. To be honest majority of female put weight on during pregnancy. I always find media, celeb puts so much pressure on woman to be thin, specially those celeb babies shed their pregnancy weight in a few weeks time.
I think you need some self esteem, and confidence. I got to the terms, that i never going to be size 10 again and i got accept im size 16. I think your dh`s feeling is probably normal male behaviour. I really wish we were all local, and we could talk and support each other in RL. Like Nicola said, why dont you have new haircut or color, then get some new clothes, i mean you can dress less but fashionable in Primark. Do you do make up? I always wear make up, i feel better when i have my face done. Tlak to us, if you want yourself out.
Geek, i think it called Carlussio or something like that, right at the back by the new enterance. We got there 11 and left about 4ish. When JL and rubbed some lovely Mulberry bags
Maxy, did you get email. Just wondered if i sent your email to someone else Ykwim

Carulccio's diva? we have one of those in t/wells nice! what a fabby afternoon! im looking forward to lunch with dh on thursday must make effort to wear something nice.

I agree Diva i could really struggle and starve and be a 10/12 again but you know 14 not so bad and at least i can relax and enjoy life. just need to tone up a little before hols!!

back from tates swimming was lovely he swam under water got his certfificate im so proud of him he's doing well. Its a lovely day just chilling out with luka for a bit then off to p.o and then park whilst its such a lovely day.

Afternoon all, thanks for such kind words it really does help. I feel physically shaken about all of this and as much as i agree totally on all your advice. My dh has a point. I am not attractive at the moment. I am only 5ft 2 and i weigh 13stone. Now i have lots of friends that are heavier and look great but i seem to carry all my weight about my tummy and i look such an odd shape.I have zero self esteem just now so i do think i need to do something about it. The hair cut etc is so needed and i just can't get excited about it. Had a really strained day with kids today as daniel coming down with same as olivia and he cried all day. Then to top the lot i let him walk home from nursery as he was screaming when i tried to get him in and he must have walked through dog dirt and i did not realise and tried to get him back in pram. All over the bloody footmuff. lol i could not believe it. I have just spent the last 30mins scrubbing his geox and crying but i do see the funny side now and think things could be worse.
I have ordered replacement seat covers for the bjcm in blue/grey wooo hooo shame i could not put all the energ i have for pushchairs into myself. Thanks again ladies you really all are such a tonic.

Basl, I agree with what the others are saying. What do you want to do? Sometimes it helps to have something to look forward to i.e a night out or weekend away. Perhaps a few nights out with your friends will boost your confidence. Don't be afraid of doing things just for you.

Diva at you stroking the mulberry bags!

Think I may go trafford centre again next week seeing as though I felt too ill to enjoy it yesterday. Diva, if we are there at the same time again maybe we could meet for a coffee?

Nic well done to tate for swimming certificate whished i had learned to swim properly when i was a kid. Good on him

Diva glad you had a great time with your friend. I love John Lewis as well but i have to go into Edinburgh to shop.
Flyme hope you make the changes you need to as well. I see a small business plan ahead for you. Like your name back now and i did lol when you said off to bed now after i said i would have sent nic off to bed with my long story.

Basl i went through all this with luka! the screaming in buggy he would bash his head side to side and kick the footplate of the nipper like a lunatic i would remove his shoes in the end as i was frightened he would damage it!!! he was that mental! he's now a different child Daniel is about 2ish isn't he? same sort of age and this is how Luka was when he couldn't talk as well. Let him scream his head off get him in buggy then at least you know he's safe ignore the stares!! as for the geox i'd pop them in machine.

All my weight is on my tummy too. i look about 5m pg honestly sometimes worse!! I think i have wheat intolerance as seem to blow up after bread/pasta.

Please go easy on yourself. Does danile have any daycare or is there a drop in creche he could attend? Maybe instead of haircut book yourself in for nice massage or body toning treatment i had a lovely one before wdding full body scrub then this lovely massage was gorgeous and made me feel better. the fat was still there but my skin was glowing and soft. If you were nearer i'd take daniel off your hands and take you in hand myself lady!!! ...all for you own good of course. Hope you don't think im beng pushY/

I think if i lost some weight and learned to drive it would change my life. I rely on being taken to work in the evening and hang about an extra half hour for a kind lady who runs me home. If she is off dh has to come and get me at 00.30am and his dad sits in our house till we get home. Not ideal and i think if i could get to more places it would be better. Yes i can get on the bus but i think the car sits outside my house all day long and i could be in it.
Now that is enough of the Basl show and i am off to remove the footmuff from the machine. Hope it is ok.
Thanks Geekof the advice is good.

Basl, I don't want to sound preachy or patronising but I really think that having some time to yourself will help you.

A new haircut, spray tan, new outfit and a night out with friends may help you feel good about yourself again.

Sometimes small changes can have a big impact

oh nic i am sobbing now, truly that is so lovley. Nobody really offers to take daniel as they say he is a handfull and my sister is a full time childminder so she can't. I think i do so need a break from it all. I can't believe i am crying so much here with some kind words. I miss my sister so much she would have taken care of me just like you are offering to do. Now i am howling now silly moo. Thanks and i really think things will change in Dec as daniel goes to pre nursery and they are offering lunch club as well and olivia will be at school so not that i want to wish the year away but i really am going to shake things up around here. Thanks so much nic really i mean that.

Geek yeah i know not preachy at all, i don't have eyebrows done or anything these days and my dh always comments if i have done hair. I have one pair of shoes for walking to nursery and everything and that is unheard of for my i am a self confessed shoe aholic and i am in the scruffiest of clothes. It is terrible. So you are so right with that.

Basl, I don't know your situation but is there any reasons as to why you couldn't start driving lessons? This could be a good time to start!

I am feeling low at the min, ds only 15weeks old and I struggle to diet. I also feel teary and fed up but not sure why iyswim.

My plan is to re start riding lessons (I sold my horse last year after a nasty accident) and have lots of things to look forward to i.e nights out with friends, nights out with dh, weekends away. I am trying to change my eating and wine habits. I have fake tan on and my feet are always pedicured. Makes me feel better and gives me confidence

Oh Basl please listen to all these kind and true words all these lovely ladies say. Maybe just give yourself one thing a week just a little goal, maybe wear some nice boots with jeans walking to the shops one day or shape your eyebrows the next week. I wore a thong (I only ever normally wear thongs even whilst preggers) for the first time yesterday as still had been wearing my 'big' knicks and it just made me feel a bit more like 'me' even with my big wobbly bottom now not being held in by my big pants .

Maybe you could have two big goals this year like learn to drive and learn to swim but not too much iykwim?

Ds had his first lot on injections today, he screamed but them carried on feeding (nurse advised me to feed him and it worked). Sat in waiting room after with dd saying 'why are you crying mummy' just the thought of the two needles in his little chunky legs

My weight loss is really slowing down and still have a way to go, still no bloddy YM bag that I bought a week ago now so I'm off to feed ds and have a crunchie bar

Carrie lol about the thong with wobbly bottom and it is awfull when they get their injections but how wonderfull being able to comfort them with feeding. Daniel had a severe tongue tie when he was born and had to have this cut with this horrific sharp implement and he was screaming his head off and blood everywhere but as soon as he starting feeding he was so calm. It is such a special thing to be able to do.
Geek i have just come off the phone to a girl who knows a good driving instructer and i think i am going to start

That's my girl

Well done basl

Carrie, I know the feeling about the injections. DS has his 3rd lot next week and they upset me so so much. (nb I am a midwife and regularly give injections to tiny newborns!)

Oooh basl exciting. I don't drive and maybe that is one thing I need to work on achieving this year. The independence it gives is worth so much.
I really want DD2 to start swimming lessons this year. She didn't get a chance last year what with finances and difficult timings at the pool.

Oh Basl, nice to see you doing progress already. I learnt to drive after i had dd, i took me 3 months. I was soooo shocked that i actually done the whole learning to drive thing. Just find the right instructor then it will come along naturally. If i can drive, then everyone can
And try to stop crying, more you cry, your self esteem go Zero. Be happy and smile, think about good things, i always think about my children and the thought of them makes me smile, makes me happy. You have beautiful children, the gift.
Call around your friends and keep in touch, arrange meet ups even just for coffee.

obviously MN felt the need to post that twice

oops used RL name too sorry

oh maxy! i feel the same we are all the bloody same eh?

my inlaws are driving me up the wall this week. they have come down from morecambe supposedly to see their grandsons but they spend time mostly in coffee shop or hunting out bargains at shops the most odd people i have ever met.