Would you buy a house right next to your parents?

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A house that ticks all our boxes and is reasonable priced has come up for sale, it’s almost perfect really. Only issue is that it’s in the same estate as my parents. They live right at the back and this house is close to the entrance. They would drive past daily to get to theirs. They’ve lived there for 20 years and while they mention they’d like to downsize in the future, that’s likely not to be anytime soon. Has anybody or does anybody live very close to their parents and share their experiences? We do have a good relationship, but that could likely change if we saw too much of each other and I don’t know if it will be a bit too close for comfort and can’t decide whether it’s a dealbreaker. Any insights welcome!

We bought a house two doors away from my DH's parents 22 years ago.
They are lovely, friendly, young at heart, active people and we've honestly never had any issues.
We look out for each others houses/cars when the other is away, look after each others pets etc.
Also it has been lovely for our two now adult DDs to live so close to their grandparents, they have really strong relationships.
FIL mows our lawn, MIL bakes or cooks and brings some along for us and vice versa. Sometimes FIL or I open a bottle of wine and take a glass along to the other.
But we don't impose on them and they don't impose on us. We have keys to each others house but we always knock before entering out of courtesy.
I suppose it's because we know they're ok, we see them briefly most days, we don't need to do the whole "proper visiting thing" too often, which can become a bit of a burden when you are busy with your own family and/or live further away.
But we still go on holiday together, go out for meals and socialise.
Day to day it's great and as as they get older (they are early 70s) it is helpful that we are so close.

My sister in law had the same experience. She lives in the same street as her parents, which was very convenient when her daughter was little.

But, now (like you say), she’s become the default carer. Which was made more complicated as her father has dementia.

It’s been really bloody difficult for her.

that makes two of us then

yes having a family of your own is rightly the centre of one's life, but I cannot imagine a situation where either I or my parents would turn our back on each other.
Having them near is great whilst you can still "use" them, and then when they need help from you as they age it is also great. Sadly western society has turned away from "nuclear family" values in the pursuit of personal independence.

Don’t see the issue myself.

I did and they moved a few months later 😬

Would absolutely love to live near my parent. They are lovely and we get along great, they love my husband too. However hell would freeze over before I move next to my in laws so I suppose it depends on your relationship with them 😀