I have some knowledge as late parent was in one.
Have bullet pointed for ease!
Parent rented. Never buy at mid 80’s plus. It was M and S btw.
The people living there almost without exception had left it far too late age wise to move. They had struggled living on their own and their children were keen to make things easier for all sides.
Leaving it too late means that there is a churn of residents often in denial. I met some of them who were convinced they were fine in their 4-5 bed house with large garden but actually the house itself was being managed by their children who were called again and again to sort something out. All the while the parent thought they were doing just fine.
Buyer beware. People were being seduced by the new builds. The elderly thought they were invincible and didn’t give much thought to how they would be in say 2-3 years. If someone really needs to buy then buy second hand.
It’s all very well thinking these places are the work of the devil but what are the other options. We had a private carer in for Mum a couple of times a week because I lived 100 miles away and quite honestly she was the laziest carer in the world. Mum couldn’t manage her and didn’t like to tell her what was needed. Mum rang me a lot over silly things. Post coming that she got worried about. Her TV channels weren’t working properly. Sky had an error message.
If the elderly person doesn’t want to move because they have convinced themselves they are doing fine they will be the worst type of buyer and drag their feet and pontificate endlessly.
I know I am going to sound heartless but it ended up that everything I did i.e book a holiday etc had to be thought of with Mum first. She panicked if I went away and demanded to know who she could call if she needed help and support. I had to involve other members of the family most of whom weren’t that interested in helping. She then moved much closer to me into a M and S rental.
My biggest regret was that she didn’t move sooner but she would have covered up how she was doing in her previous house and said she was doing just fine.
JUST LOOK AT RENTING. WE JUST WALKED AWAY WHEN SHE HAD TO MOVE TO A CARE HOME AS HER HEALTH DECLINED.