Is it ok for two children to share a room?

[kiana2015]

I would like another baby but I live in a 2 bed, we will move to bigger eventually but not in the next few years, obviously for the first 6months-year the baby would be with us but would it be ok for them to both share? Current DD is 9 months so similar age and my bedroom is big enough for a cot if needed. I know people do it so I'm not asking if it's possible I'm asking if people think it's ok or not

People make it work, if I wanted 2 kids I wouldn't not have the second due to housing issues.

However it can be a nightmare, there is 2 years between my younger 2 and they could not share, it would be constant screaming matches. My older 2 could not share as there would be fights and physical injuries (we have to watch them like hawks) and my youngest and oldest legally cannot share. So youngest shares with us.

DH grew up as 2 kids in a 3 bed and for some reason they shared despite having a spare room. It resulted in several broken bones, chipped teeth and other 'sibling rivalry' injuries over the year from kicking each other of the bunk beds, hitting each other with toys, jumping on the other while they're asleep etc...

My mam shared with her sister and never stopped moaning about how they where arguing once and my aunt jumped down from the top bunk and stabbed her with a compass.

It’s a bit weird to have dc with us, or in company all day but then expected to sleep all by themselves.

We moved ours in to one room when they were expressing bedtime fears, coming into our bed at night, and it made a world of difference.

It’s not wierd. They get their own space and they get used to that. It’s a room for them and adults get their room.

Absolutely fine for young children but I would keep baby in with you until both kids reliably sleep through, which could be much longer then 6 month. You would also need to be really confident that your financial situation will allow you to move in the next 7-8 years, even if something unexpected happens like one of you loosening your job or needing to become a carer.

My two (DD6 and DS3) have their own rooms nominally, but not only choose to share a room, but also more often than not they share a bed. They sleep well, feel secure and I see no reason to stop it. As a child, I shared a room with my sister for years, because she hated sleeping alone. To be honest, it is a bit of an odd concept asking young children to sleep by themselves if you think about it. There will come a time when they want to be apart, but if you don't have the space, you don't have the space!

Well, I moved to a bigger place to get DC their own bedrooms last year. One year later, DC are back sharing a room because they prefer! they are 12 and 10. You will never know!

Was something going on with your parents? Did they somehow lose all their money? That seems quite bizarre behaviour. Or were they just extremely cheap?

I shared a room from when I was 4 & my youngest sister was born, until I was 15 & my oldest sister left home. 3 kids in a 3 bedroom home. It was quite normal back in the day. The only thing I felt a bit resentful of is that when my older sister got to high school, she got moved into a room of her own so she could have a desk and study, yet when I got to high school I was still stuck sharing a room with my younger sister and no desk. It did make me feel like her needs were more important than mine. I get that they didn’t really have a choice and they could not just move house but I think they need not have stated it out loud.

you might find it tricky to figure out a routine when youngest goes to bed early and the toddler doesn’t want to sleep. We struggled with this for a while. But you will work it out and they will get used to it. When we moved into a bigger house and each child had a room, they didn’t like it at first as they felt lonely or scared.

your kids will be fine sharing a room.