Hi all I am looking for advice. I bought a mid terraced property 2 years ago after relocating to a place I adore, when I was buying it I had doubts about noise and neighbours and wish now i had listened to my gut feeling. I have completely renovated it and it is beautiful and in a lovely location, lots of period features and is warm and cozy. The problem I have is with the next door neighbours. I will caveat this by saying I am an anxious person in general and certain things trigger this like noise.
On one side of me i have a lovely single woman same age as me who I get on well with, she is out at work full time and i barely hear her. The other side (our lounges connect) is a couple in their mid 50s who have never had DC (saying this as it seems to have made them less tolerant). I have 2 dc one at Uni and DS who is 18. I never ever hear them but they have complained to me 3 times now about DS making noise.
The first time he was shouting at his computer on a Saturday lunchtime and more recently he twice had mates over until 3am whilst I was away. He had been told mates need to leave by 11pm but he did not obey me and quite rightly they complained, I was furious with DS who took them flowers round and apologised. I feel I am on constant tenterhooks and feel we have to tip toe around as not to disturb them. DS likes to play his guitar and music, always at a low volume when I am here as I make sure of it, he is a good kid, polite and kind.
The husband merrily told me they had fallen out with the previous owners of my house as they had 2 toddlers who were making toddler noise early mornings and they took to banging on the walls shouting 'shut the fuck up' at them. Sounds like things got heated and they didnt speak by the time previous owners moved out - NDN told me they opened champagne the day they left.
I have tried so hard to overcome my anxiety over us making noise but I can't, it consumes me even to the extent of shutting the wardrobe doors early in the morning. Do I have no option but to move? Had the house valued on Friday and it has gone up in value due to the work I have done, but gutted to have spent 50k on it and just not enjoy living here. Moving is such a painful, expensive mission but I wonder unless I was in a detached (which I cannot afford) will I ever be relaxed and do I just need to suck it up and learn to live with this knot inside me? I would have the option of a semi with halls dividing us so wonder if this could be a better option? TIA.