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duchessa · 12/07/2021 11:32

We're looking to relocate to the UK after many years overseas. We have previously lived in London (pre-kids) but don't want to move back there, for a number of reasons.

We've looked into a number of 'commuter towns' but without wanting to offend anyone who lives in some of these places, we've found most of them to be fairly uninspiring. We currently live in a city and we're used to having amenities/activities/nature on our doorstep.

We're looking for somewhere with some kind of 'buzz' to it. Somewhere with easy access to the countryside/coast. Somewhere with a lovely town centre, interesting, historic buildings, and a low-ish crime rate. Basically Edinburgh or Bath, I suppose, but we can't move to either (Edinburgh too far from family, Bath too long of a commute). Our eldest DC is a tween and youngest is 4 so we need good primary and secondary schools, and enough activities to keep the kids occupied through reception-teenage years.

We've spent some time in St Albans (quite liked it but the central areas are not in the good school catchment zones), still considering Winchester but there are no private day school options for boys, and we're going to look at Tunbridge Wells (it ticks some boxes but we've heard mixed things about living there). Brighton is out. We like Windsor but DH is very noise sensitive so anywhere with that much flight noise won't work. We might have a look at Cambridge, too.

We're leaving somewhere with a perfect climate and lots of activities and to make the repatriation successful we need to find somewhere where we will all be happy. I know it sounds as though we're super fussy but the last thing I want is to move and then, after the trauma of a major international move, have to uproot them again because we chose the 'wrong' place.

We're here for a few more days and this will be our last chance to recce before the repatriation in a few months' time. Is there anywhere else we should consider?

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duchessa · 12/07/2021 11:34

I should add that the 'private day schools' option is something we'd like to have for DC1 as he's very shy and has had issues in larger school settings in the past. The younger kids will be going to state primaries but we'd like to at least have an option for DC1 in case the bigger state secondaries in the location we end up in don't work for him.

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1starwars2 · 12/07/2021 11:44

Have you looked at the commute from Bath? It's pretty short by train, and otherwise ticks all your boxes.

Or closer to London, Lewes, not a city but lots of historical interest and near Brighton.

AbstractHeart · 12/07/2021 11:48

I think Hitchin ticks all your boxes

QuestionableMouse · 12/07/2021 11:51

Canterbury?

Close to the coast, train links to London, good schools.

www.kings-school.co.uk/

Andthenanothercupoftea · 12/07/2021 11:53

Oxford? Good connections to London, loads of history, good private and state schools, nature on the doorstep etc. Although prices are pretty similar to London.

Mydogisagentleman · 12/07/2021 11:54

Holt?
Greshams school has a good reputation.
Very few civilian planes

Sunnyfreezesushi · 12/07/2021 11:58

Guildford, Cambridge, Oxford, Canterbury, Tunbridge Wells Ok. Sevenoaks is quite boring but plenty to do and close to London and relatively easy life. Same applies to eg Epsom. When you are close to London you can go there with the kids in the holidays and they get so busy with school and activities term time anyway so I wouldn’t dismiss Surrey etc. In England, there are so many things for kids to do (Paid for activities) pretty much everywhere.
Winchester is lovely - Winchester College will take some day boys in the near future, but might be Sixth Form, not sure.
Reading - up and coming

oldwhyno · 12/07/2021 12:02

Cambridge might indeed be what you're after. Commute is totally manageable. I don't know if its got a "buzz" exactly, but it's definitely got a unique character. Norfolk and Suffolk are lovely. It has a some good state and independent school options depending on where you can afford to live. Climate is good for England, lots of outdoors and cycling. But it is very very flat.

emmathedilemma · 12/07/2021 12:02

York?

Lucia574 · 12/07/2021 13:10

York or Oxford.

Barbaraan · 12/07/2021 13:22

Southsea? We moved here four years ago from London - its fab: its got a buzz with a good mix of people, great pubs and resaurants, beach five minute walk, compact - easy to walk and cycle everywhere, close to Southdowns, close to Chichester, Southampton, Guilford, good state primary and Portsmouth Grammar/ High Schools secondary - whats not to love?

Geneticsbunny · 12/07/2021 14:13

Sheffield? It has great state schools on the west side (Broomhill, Crookes, netheredge) and several good private schools and these areas are also walking distance to the peak District. Lots going on in the city centre, several theatres, museums and galleries, restaurants etc.

Ozanj · 12/07/2021 14:16

Leicestershire is good. South Leicestershire is heaps better commute wise and there are a number of well regarded private schools including the Uppingham School.

BIWI · 12/07/2021 14:18

Where will you need to commute to?

And what kind of budget do you have?

41sunnydays · 12/07/2021 14:25

Bristol ? Better trains than Bath, train to london is 1hr 20

Good private schools

sarahb083 · 12/07/2021 15:29

Why don't you want London? You could live in a nice outer London suburb and commute in?

emmathedilemma · 12/07/2021 15:45

Is being able to commute to London a requirement? People seem to be assuming that it is but I don't see it mentioned?

LittleOverWhelmed · 12/07/2021 18:35

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FawnDrench · 12/07/2021 20:09

Salisbury

WatteauYouTalkingAbout · 12/07/2021 20:28

In my honest opinion, what you’re looking for doesn’t exist. We have been looking for exactly the same thing for years. Bath and Edinburgh are very beautiful, small cities that really stand out on there. You can find places that have some of what they offer that are commutable to London, but not the whole package. So unless you’re willing to accept the long commute you’ll have to compromise on something.
We haven’t totally given up looking, but I expect we’ll end up moving to a quieter part of London, which ticks the boxes for schools, commute and teens but ultimately is still London.

WatteauYouTalkingAbout · 12/07/2021 20:29

“Stand out on their own” I mean!

Subbaxeo · 12/07/2021 20:34

Where are you commuting to?

TheVanguardSix · 12/07/2021 20:40

My friends moved to Bishops Stortford, a market town, and love it. One of them commutes to Liverpool Street daily for work (or did in pre-covid times) on the express train (39-43 minutes journey). I've only been as a visitor and really thought it was a lovely place to raise a family. The schools are great, the town has great restaurants, cafes, shops, really friendly vibe, good housing, and there's a lot of nature on your doorstep.

PleaseReferToMeAsBritneySpears · 12/07/2021 20:40

Fleet, Hampshire.
45 mins train to Waterloo. On the M3. Countryside on doorstep. South coast in under an hour.
It's in Hart District which sometimes comes top as best place to live in the UK.

burritofan · 12/07/2021 20:41

Like everyone else I’m assuming you’re commuting to London, otherwise I’d suggest Newcastle – coast and countryside on the doorstep, lots to do, beautiful buildings and cityscape, buzz and a half.