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duchessa · 12/07/2021 11:32

We're looking to relocate to the UK after many years overseas. We have previously lived in London (pre-kids) but don't want to move back there, for a number of reasons.

We've looked into a number of 'commuter towns' but without wanting to offend anyone who lives in some of these places, we've found most of them to be fairly uninspiring. We currently live in a city and we're used to having amenities/activities/nature on our doorstep.

We're looking for somewhere with some kind of 'buzz' to it. Somewhere with easy access to the countryside/coast. Somewhere with a lovely town centre, interesting, historic buildings, and a low-ish crime rate. Basically Edinburgh or Bath, I suppose, but we can't move to either (Edinburgh too far from family, Bath too long of a commute). Our eldest DC is a tween and youngest is 4 so we need good primary and secondary schools, and enough activities to keep the kids occupied through reception-teenage years.

We've spent some time in St Albans (quite liked it but the central areas are not in the good school catchment zones), still considering Winchester but there are no private day school options for boys, and we're going to look at Tunbridge Wells (it ticks some boxes but we've heard mixed things about living there). Brighton is out. We like Windsor but DH is very noise sensitive so anywhere with that much flight noise won't work. We might have a look at Cambridge, too.

We're leaving somewhere with a perfect climate and lots of activities and to make the repatriation successful we need to find somewhere where we will all be happy. I know it sounds as though we're super fussy but the last thing I want is to move and then, after the trauma of a major international move, have to uproot them again because we chose the 'wrong' place.

We're here for a few more days and this will be our last chance to recce before the repatriation in a few months' time. Is there anywhere else we should consider?

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thefirstmrsrochester · 13/07/2021 19:49

If you only need to be in London once a week, then Edinburgh very doable.

duchessa · 13/07/2021 21:38

@thefirstmrsrochester unfortunately we’d very rarely see family, then, as they’re unlikely to travel to us. @3womeninaboat we’re going to look at Marlow!

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Adreinnesarmy · 13/07/2021 21:42

Definitely Canterbury. We were in EXACTLY the same position as you (right down to only having a few days before we flew back to decide!) and whilst we chose Folkestone ultimately, that was only because we needed good grammars (with spaces) and not private options (there are none in Folkestone). Canterbury would have been perfect and was a v close second. So much so we still visit it regularly (we are only twenty minutes away) but we ended up being won over by having the sea literally on our doorstep...

duchessa · 13/07/2021 21:43

@Tightwad2020 the tourist element is a concern, if I’m honest. We live in a tourist-beloved place at the moment and there are several months of the year when we daren’t venture into our local town at all.
I’m also aware that any recces we do at the moment won’t be real representations of what those cities will be like, post-covid, when all the overseas visitors and students return Confused

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Adreinnesarmy · 13/07/2021 21:44

I should say we definitely made the right choice for us and absolutely adore it here. Highly recommend seaside living if you can 😁

JaninaDuszejko · 13/07/2021 22:57

Having lived all over the country, I have to agree that London is the issue, you don't get any decent culture until you are far enough away from it. I'd vote for Oxford because it has all the history and life to it but if you were to live in e.g. Old Headington or North Oxford you'd have a quieter feel for day to day living but the buzz of the city centre when you want it.

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Ethny · 17/01/2023 13:43

@duchessa What place did you choose to settle?

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