Hi all,
Moved into our dream house a month ago. One of the many quirky things about here is a connecting gate between us and next door's garden, which we have been told was installed so that the vendors and next door could pop between gardens. We quickly met our next door neighbours and they are absolutely lovely, very friendly to us and our kids etc.
We noticed one day last week that our greenhouse was open when we thought we'd closed it but didn't think much of it. Then the same happened today and our neighbour happened to mention when I saw her later that she'd popped into our garden a couple of times to open the greenhouse and water the plants for us. I completely appreciate that she's done this with the loveliest of intentions, but I'm just not comfortable with anyone randomly popping into our garden. DH doesn't want me to say anything in case it upsets the neighbour or sours our relationship (we plan for this to be our forever home), but truth be told the situation upsets me as I feel on edge knowing that our garden isn't our private space any more and also I want us to have responsibility for our own plants- even if we kill them a few times before we get it right! I feel like I need to say something to gently ask that this doesn't continue. I tried to be careful when she told me not to say anything that might encourage it but she said that it was no problem as she used to do this for her old neighbour all the time. This is kind and obviously worked for them, but I'd like some boundaries to be put in place. (Metaphorical boundaries if not physical!)
Any words of wisdom? Thank you.