Should I pay my husband rent

[Gal1211]

Hi dear mums,

I moved in with my DH and he owns the flat, he purchased it before we got married and had a long term mortgage. After I got married my husband charged me 1/3 of his mortgage and after a couple of years he switched to charging me 1/2 of his interest rate. My name is not on the deed and he has full ownership of the flat. He also charges me for the cos of tv, wardrobe and other furniture around the flat (which he bought before I moved in), I’m paying him half of the value of the original price of those items. On top of that I’m paying my share of utility bills: water, electricity, ground rent, council tax, tv license etc.
I wonder how costs are shared in other marriages and what is considered reasonable in such arrangements.

I am not very comfortable contributing towards his mortgage and having no ownership at all. Also I’m not sure of him expecting em to pay for such things as tv or sofa which he bought prior me moving in is reasonable...

I hope you can share some thoughts

Thank you mums!

I’m aghast at the recharge for his secondhand furniture and appliances!! Totally baffling.

Being miserly is a horrible personality trait. Please don’t have children with this man. He won’t ever change.

Our assets are shared. We’ll generally discuss big ticket items.

He wasn’t going to let you watch Tv if you didn’t pay half?

That’s like starting to go out with someone who owned a car already and they charge you go in it?!

I think you have bigger problems than your original question and maybe moving this to relationships would be better. This really doesn't sound healthy. Why would you not let the person you love watch your TV without paying?