Need to build extension that will most likely cover at least half the patio

[Fressia123]

I've been reading about the "half the land around the original house". We live in an end of terrace with a tiny patio (3x5m) and need to build some sort of extension that will create a 4th bedroom. Is this impossible?

But you have 3 bedrooms and 4 children, 1 of whom is only there 8 nights a month. You could arrange it as:

Bedroom 1: you and DH
Bedroom 2: 2 girls
Bedroom 3: Baby for 22 nights a month, DSS for 8 nights a month. Baby goes in with you when DSS stays, so no-one has to sleep in the dining room.

@Gifgif

Well at least you aren't putting the 13 month old out there I suppose.

At the rate this is going I wouldn’t bet on it. Maybe that’s a plan yet to be revealed after another two pages of bizarre drip feed.

The box room doesn't fit a travel cot that's why.

@Fressia123

The girls' room arrangement isn't permanent and thus seems a itsy bit wrong that the one permanent child in this household doesn't have his own room.

This is like pulling teeth....

Why doesn't the baby have his own room? He can have the bigger room, then share with you when girls are there. Or have smaller room and share when DSS there. Am really not understanding a) why he doesn't have his own room now, and b) why you sleep in the dining room? Who sleeps in your room?

@Fressia123

The box room doesn't fit a travel cot that's why.

Why does the box room need to fit a travel cot?

The baby sleeps in our room when his siblings are around. When they're not he sleeps in her sisters' room. But one of the sister's sleeps here 50% of the time this we end up sleeping in the dining room half the tin

*time .

As it is without any extension we have to sleep in the dining room half of the time.

You only bought the house this year?! It seems crazy to have bought a house that clearly doesn't meet your family's needs and has no potential to do a loft conversion or extension Surely it wasn't the only house available within budget.

Anyway. Can you fit a high sleeper or a fold-down bed in the box room? Then baby could be in a travel cot in the box room for most of the time, and in with you (in the master bedroom) while DSS is staying. And obviously the girls should be in bedroom 2 in bunk beds.

Does the box room fit a single bed?

The box room fits a single high sleeper. Under it DSS has a desk so no room for a travel cot. Like I've mentioned housed within our budget were 1hr away from schools.

@Fressia123

The box room fits a single high sleeper. Under it DSS has a desk so no room for a travel cot. Like I've mentioned housed within our budget were 1hr away from schools.

Here's a thought - get rid of the desk underneath!!! I know right - radical.

It's built in! And DSD uses it all the time while here.

Okay so replace the bed with a high sleeper single bed so a cot will fit underneath. DSS can use the dining table as a desk or it's easier to make room for a desk downstairs than for sleeping quarters surely

Yes but DSS doesn't want sleep with baby at all

Honestly, put the baby in with you, girls share, DSS has his own set up anyway. A 13 month old has fat less need for a room of his own than the older kids. You bought a house that's too small, you can't then pitch the 13 yr old out to sleep in a shed that can be accessed without coming through the house (security anyone?) because it is 'unfair' that your new child doesn't have his own room.

You have no need to be sleeping in the dining room, and the DSS doesn't need to sleep in a shed or share with the toddler.

@Fressia123

Yes but DSS doesn't want sleep with baby at all

So when he stays the baby is in with you ...?

Why can't the toddler sleep with you? Am v confused by this whole thing

I agree with all of that but in 5 years time it would be exactly the same and unsustainable.

We're talking about long term not just current.

I would get a fold out futon for the 13yo in the box room, 2 girls in the big room. Baby in box room most of the time or in with you when 13yo stays. Will the box room fit a single bed? If so you can just have that for either biggest or littlest in a year

@Fressia123

Yes but DSS doesn't want sleep with baby at all

Fucking hell OP. If baby's in with you why would he be sleeping with him?

I really dont understand why you'd be sleeping in the dining room... you have a room, the 2 girls share, baby/teenager have the box or baby is in with you so why on earth are you sleeping in the dining room at all?

I agree with all of that but in 5 years time it would be exactly the same and unsustainable.*

In 5 years time the biggest will be an adult

In 5 years time 13 year old DSS will be 18 and probably not inclined to sleep over, particularly if during those 5 years he's been forced to sleep in a shed

@Fressia123

I agree with all of that but in 5 years time it would be exactly the same and unsustainable.

In 5 years time your DSS will be an adult and probably not wanting to stick to a contact schedule.

Your little one can go in with you at the weekends for at least a few more years. After that he can share a bunk bed with his adult brother.

None of this is a problem don't know why you think it's such a big issue that you think putting the kid in a shed is the solution.