Would anyone like an 'in a chain' support group? (3)

[Spickle]

Assuming all you lovely people in a chain still need a support group? Here it is......

Feel physically ill from all the stress. Can't take much more.

Everyone is ready except the vendor. He's not living at the property - it is a second home, ex-showhome, which he got with all the furniture in it free. He's been absolutely frustrating from the beginning, and for months we have been pushing for exchange. All he has to do is pick up the phone and give the okay to his solicitors, and arrange removals to come and collect the stuff in the property.

It's excuse after excuse after excuse. All last week we were told he was trying to arrange removals (for the same date we proposed for completion - 14th July! - no one is sure why this is, as he could technically do any day between exchange and completion as NOBODY lives there!), despite being told by the agent that everyone wanted July 14th and we needed to exchange Friday. Friday came and went, we saw him at the property on Sunday and it appeared a couple of things had been removed.

Today we called the estate agents only to be told that the vendor is having some health issues that were worse than he thought (hospital appointments were mentioned occasionally throughout this horrible process) and now he wants time to sort his personal issues before he can agree to exchange. I can't help but feel this is another excuse and he's actually just getting cold feet and hoping he can sell again to someone who will agree to purchase all the (very overpriced) second-hand furniture inside the house, as he did make a very big deal about us not wanting to buy anything.

Feel ill from it all - our buyer is unhappy, we're unhappy (we wanted to complete the end of April! And we've been ready since then and been constantly delayed).. When do you know enough is enough? We so desperately want this house, but I don't know how much more I can take.

Supposedly he's being contacted on Wednesday afternoon, but I think our completion date is probably out of reach now. Which means that, if he DOES still want to proceed, we're looking at the school summer holidays, which is extremely inconvenient for us.

Just feel so hopeless.

Apparently everyone else in the chain is going off on their holidays (we aren't having a holiday this year not that I'm a little bit jealous ), so we absolutely have to complete and exchange on Friday.

I said hell no, but DP has decided it's a great idea and is pushing everything to move in 4 frigging days time.

I am having images of sitting in the car with two angry cats, all our crap worldly possessions in an overpriced removal van (if we can even get one), and the whole bloody chain falling apart/getting gazundered/a variety of other horrors.

AIBU to put cats in a cattery & book myself into a spa for the day, leaving DP to it?

Oh coshpunt I feel your pain! Annual leave in the summer gets booked up way in advance in both dh and my workplaces but we have 2 weeks at the start of the holiday. It's looking less and less likely so we'll probably have to beg a day's leave (not sure if it'll be granted) and get us sorted in one day. We also have family visiting from the States who want to stay with us for a few nights. I really want them to stay but no idea which house we'll be in and we'll be in boxes!

AwkwardPaws do you mean exchange or complete? Surely you exchange then wait until everyone is back from holiday to complete?

Exchange and complete on the same day apparently

m0therofdragons It's so frustrating how it just takes over your whole life, isn't it?!

AwkwardPaws I can't imagine exchanging and completing the same day.. Sounds very stressful. We're definitely putting the cats in a cattery though (if we ever move)!

I'm dreading it. It probably won't happen but we won't know until Wednesday or Thursday... leaving me no time to pack, so it's bound to be chaos. I'd be happier to exchange and then complete in 6 weeks or so when everyone is back from various holidays...

Might have some movement over here.... phone call from vendor's side; they have found the paperwork we asked for, and if we can just clarify the details of the repair that we need them to take care of (per the survey) then they'll be glad to do it.

Regular readers may remember that our last interaction with the same people (before they vanished on a 2-week holiday that nobody knew about) was that there was no paperwork and no, they wouldn't agree to us getting things inspected in lieu of paperwork, and we could take a running jump if we thought they were going to make these repairs.

Weird...

Hoping to join in, without sounding like a complete amateur!

We've had all contracts, surveys, mortgage offers back and all has been quiet for a few weeks. Today EA has rang to ask has our solicitor rang us about buyers solicitor raising enquiries as she's rang them (presuming she hasn't heard from our solicitor)
We are total novices and by the time she rang our solicitors had shut our buyers solicitor is her friend so she's being very pushy she's already upset our solicitor once for chasing up after accepted her offer only 8 days previous! But does this mean everything is on course? Should our solicitor have rang us by now?
TIA

Yes they should have really. I like to ring weekly to see where we're upto.

Ugh, our saga continues. Got a phone call yesterday am for authority to exchange with completion set for 6th. Great. Got excited. Confirmed removal firm. Changed DDS nursery days. Didn't exchange. Then had a call that someone at the bottom.might prefer to move on the 10th. I'm currently living with my in laws and driving 45 mins each way to take my child to school. Also, DH starts his new job on the 10th. We're now exchanging without our sale as in laws will lend us the money to complete if we need to. So we should at least be spending the day painting etc. We've said if it moves again we'll have to think about pulling out.

fuckinghel why did the solicitor do nothing for 8 days? I'd be pushy too. Until the solicitor officially writes to the other with the contract pack the party isn't showing any commitment. I call our solicitor weekly and things only seem to progress in the hours after those calls. If you've had contracts, mortgage offer and searches then why is it taking weeks from that point? Two weeks max surely then exchange.

Your solicitor got upset by being chased once?! They need a different job. Sorry but just re read and you honestly need to be calling your solicitor to find out what the block is. You're paying so much money to them but don't assume they'll do anything at any speed unless you talk deadlines as they have massive case loads and your passive approach will put you to the bottom of the list I'm afraid (this is my experience and I'm not one to chase things but solicitors seem a different species).

she's being very pushy she's already upset our solicitor once for chasing up after accepted her offer only 8 days previous!

fuckinghel Am I right in thinking that your buyers made an offer for your property which was accepted and solicitors instructed 8 days ago? The selling solicitor (i.e. your solicitor) has to draft the contract pack to send to the buyers solicitor before the buyer's solicitor can start any work and raise enquiries. Your solicitor sends you forms to complete (Property Info, Fixtures/Fittings) which you send back to be included in the draft contract pack.

Apologies if the above is not the case, but if it is, then 8 days is nothing. It would take over a week for the forms to be sent to you, you to complete and return and then forwarded to the buyers solicitor alone, let alone any other documents which have to be included.

Spickle we received our forms, completed and returned them within 3 days of instructing our solicitors. We got confirmation that the draft contract was with the buyers solicitor 2 days from that. We have either been very lucky or our solicitors work really fast!

emma that's great but not everyone returns forms within 3 days.

Our Sellers went on an exotic holiday for two and a half weeks without telling any body and turned their phones off. For people who wanted a quick sale they are very relaxed...

Am I being unreasonable here ? Today is 4 weeks since we accepted our offer - as of Friday last week our buyer had yet to instruct his solicitor and as of today my estate agent seems to think he may have gone abroad as the ring tone changed and he didn't pick up. For our purchase we have the mortgage offer, searches all coming back this week and just about everything else ready.

He's a cash buyer so apparently quicker 😂 anyway - how long would you give them before you walk away ??

Sorry for being absent. Hope all is well and moving on nicely.

Our buyer's buyer pulled out (yes again!) So I wanted to hide from the world for a bit.

A new one has been found- let's hope this is third time lucky! Month 5 now 😭

Our purchase still isn't ready though. Despite the breakdown of the chain below twice our solicitor is still doing paperwork for the house we are buying. It's pissing me off! I don't even understand what she's doing. She's concerned the house boundary looks like it's the wrong side of the footpath and emailed the vendor's solicitor asking for it to be changed and they basically told her to do one so now she's making enquiries with the land registry- wtf!?

Oh and our mortgage offer expires next week so I need to try and get that extended 😯

I'm in packing hell. How do you pack when it might be Friday or it might be another 6 weeks? Doesn't help that I'm NOT a minimalist

Had our settlement statement through today. Our buyer authorised for exchange, we authorised, 1 of our sellers authorised but the seller solicitor couldnt get hold of the other seller to get authority to exchange. Let hope they can get authorisation off him 2moz so we can all exchange for completion Friday. It's so frustrating how 1 person holds everything up.

Awkward. We pack all stuff we don't use day to day after surveys were done but now everything is packed (even eating on paper plates so I could get rid of old ones when tip running at wknd)

I returned our forms within 48 hours and the recent enquiries came to us at 5pm and I replied in full by 9pm that day. If people are actually committed to moving they shouldn't drag their heels. Oh and I work plus have 3 dc so it's not like life isn't busy. Last night I emailed the ea at midnight as it was the first moment I had and needed to organise a time to visit the seller for a lesson in their heating system.

Vendor goes on holiday Friday night but apparently have given their solicitor authority to exchange on their behalf so our plan of 1August move is still possible... maybe.

We are still waiting for our sellers to find somewhere to buy 4omyhe after they accepted our offer. Pretty sure we'll have to write it off as they dont seem keen to move anytime soon but nothing is complete big in the market at the moment so we have no alternatives. So frustrating!

Sorry probably a bit of a drip feed there but she rang the EA to chase up 8 days after we'd accepted the buyers offer, we'd already sent packs back and had just received contracts that morning for our property and the one we are buying, we'd sorted our mortgage and that had all been received. We thought this was pretty quick really? Maybe I'm wrong but she was pushing for dates only 8 days in.

As for enquiries I've rang today and our solicitor said that they had just been talking about how strange it is for them not to raise enquiries likely story so they haven't received any according to them but buyers solicitor said she'd sent them last week so they have been chasing that today.

Fuckinghel that does sound rather odd. We have been vaguely talking dates with vendor through agent from early on but solicitor refuses until nearer exchange.
I think there should be an online tick box sheet for each sale where you log on and everyone in the chain can see who is holding it up. So much is posted rather than emailed it's bizarre to me!