Would anyone like an 'in a chain' support group?

[thenewaveragebear1983]

Would anyone like an 'in a chain' support thread? We're selling and buying and it's so stressful!! We've found our 'dream house' and had an offer accepted, had an offer on ours within a week which was subsequently retracted. Wondered if anyone else was finding this whole process ridiculously stressful?

I'm quickly losing the excitement of my move too.
Plus I have loads to do when I get in - I'm going to need endless enthusiasm for another 6 months at least, before the house is finished!

Same here, a tonne of work including putting in extra bedroom and bathroom and taking down walls downstairs. It's not the house of my dreams and probably just as well because if it falls through, I'm going to take the view it wasn't meant for me.

The problem is, where I live there isn't much on the market but if I have to buy somewhere else, it will be a chain free, empty property. If it's a dump, so be it.

Wow ! You have more to do than me...I've got new kitchen, windows, woodburner, structural work (replacing wooden beams in outside walls), then decorating every room. This is my dream home..it is very impractical - it has been on the market for nearly 2 years!

The house I'm buying IS empty, there are only 2 in the chain below me, which is why I didn't think it would take this long. I accepted the offer on my house on 21 August & had my offer accepted on 25 August!

I gently nudged our solicitor via email just now. She's notoriously tricky and slow to get hold of on the phone. However she emails back within 5 minutes!

Our buyers solicitors still haven't received the searches back.

Their still aiming for to exchange on the 1st though!

Hi all
Congrats Waterlemon and commiserations Apple

It suddenly seems to be stressful for everyone! I am exhausted, last week and this week have taken it out of me. Kids went down with stomach bug tues, found out we lost our buyer on weds, house back on the market weds, kids off till fri, viewing on Sat, offer Mon, husband got stomach bug tues, dd(9yo) diagnosed with low blood pressure after losing the sight in one eye briefly, dad had minor op today. Haven't heard from the solicitors since I emailed last weds to inform them of loss of buyer, and then again on Monday to inform them of the new buyer. EA hasn't taken the house we want to buy off Rightmove. They say that the Owner of the EA (tiny independent firm) is on hols and the other lady, doesn't know what box to tick, although they managed to mark ours a sstc immediately (its the same EA). Our Vendor is a Property Management Company and they're selling off a load of properties to pay for a divorce settlement, so are in a rush and hence wouldn't wait for us to find a buyer. I am crossing everything that they are not playing us for a better offer. I cant imagine they will get one, and even if they did, We have everything in place on it already - doubt anyone could move much quicker. Our new buyer is a FTB, parents are putting up the deposit, Mortgage in Principle is in place, is in rented and keen to move quickly.

I just feel in limbo still, I don't feel like I can accept that the move is back on, I'm scared of setting my heart on the new place again as I feel like it might be ripped away again. I don't know if I should restart packing? I could do with hibernating the next 4 weeks and then waking up when we're actually getting somewhere.

Ah feel better for getting that all out. So nice to have somewhere to spill all this out.

Aw smallone truly sorry you have had the week from hell. It can surely only get better.

Small wow that is a busy few days!
I've spent the day with my sister; she has just completed on a little 2 up 2 down in Birmingham. Owned by an old tramp man, alcoholic. Literally, you have never seen dirt like it or smelled such rancid nastiness. I have bleached the kitchen and now want to bleach myself. Oh, and in the loft and cellar- a nice cannabis factory, probably 1000 empty plant pots, growing lights, hydroponic systems- no plants luckily or unluckily if that's your thing? Reminds me why you should always always do a survey!!!
No news for us today, got some banana boxes so tomorrow I am packing books.

Evening All,

Welcome perfumed.

Blimey seems we are all having a bit of a week.
small sending lots of luck and hope for you. I feel the same - a bit of a rant with people in the same boat is so good!

northumberland & collie feeling yr frustration, I've been the client from hell today. My rant seems to have made everyone get going though. But I'm still waiting to hear about the bottom of the chain. Fancy running out of wine (cardinal sin I'm sure) still smiling to myself at you quaffing the sherry

bear we viewed a house like that once, it was mega cheap, but I said to DH that we still couldn't afford the amount of bleach it would take for me to live in it! Still feel dirty just thinking about it!

As for sherry quaffing, I'm trying to run the kitchen down so working my way through random spirits. Khalua tonight! I also got irrationally cross with Dh because he bought a humungous bottle of soya sauce!

Morning y'all.
My tasks for the day:
pack books,
Ring solicitor and ask if vendor has answered our questions
Ring EA and ask her to ask vendor why she hasn't answered our questions
Tactfully point out that if we actually want to move on the 7th then she needs to answer them and if the EA wants to make three lots of commission from our chain they need to get her to do it.
Phew. Busy day ahead then.....!!

Go bear I did a very similar list yesterday and definitely seemed to get somewhere. Good luck sending some good vibes yr way. I am now waiting to hear if our vendor has been telling me porkies all along about them going to rented...

small I have been the same - for some reason we are now only buying guide very small bags of pet food! And I drank some very odd cider the other day (I don't even like cider)

Morning everyone!
Here is to a more productive day. I still haven't had confirmation that the lady at the bottom of the chain has her mortgage offer - fingers crossed it'll be today. As they said because she using a small vendor it'll take 5-7 days from asking for the advance to actually receiving it. We've mentioned moving now on 3 Nov, which my buyers are happy with and I can just about do (did I mention I'm directing a musical?) ...

Running down of food & drink...I love this! I got irrationally angry as the guy I am seeing bought an 8 pack of kitchen rolls!!
I do also seem to have an excessive amount of vinegar ...

Had another sherry last night - I'm developing a taste for it!

I'm already on the edge of my seat waiting for news from our solicitor about searches and enquiries. But I need to prepare myself for disappointment as I doubt we will have any news today.

Our EA ignored us yesterday. Our neighbours want to sell up after Christmas and I said "do not use our EA. He is rubbish!!" So he has lost some business by being unresponsive & arrogant.

I've been making cakes and flapjacks with ingredients in the kitchen cupboards. Packing up sugar, flour, syrup etc sounds like a disaster waiting to happen!

I'm getting so impatient I'm thinking that when the time comes - my packing will make no sense. Stuff will just be piled into boxes in a hurry. I have warned DH about this too.

Collie I feel the same, we have different rooms in our new house so what's currently in our dining room won't be in the same place in the new house, IYSWIM. I've decided my strategy will be to pack like with like, eg. All pictures from all rooms in one box, all ornaments in one box etc rather than a lounge box, dining room box etc. That way, in theory, I'll be able to unpack in the same way and decide where each thing is going to go once I'm there.

Hello everyone

Wow I don't even know where to start with all the latest developments on here. It's never just straightforward is it??

Small no wonder you feel so strange after such a week. Really hoping this next week is easier for you.

NeverSell I might punch your idea for using up the kitchen bits- need this week!

Our vendor came back and said they'd never sell for so much under asking price and we thought rented was the only way forward but now they've agreed to sell at valuation price, so 70k under asking In theory this is great news for us but I feel like Small, totally disbelieving it's all back on. Such a rollercoaster!

Apples that's good news. Do you think you'll accept that offer? Are you going to get second opinions on the work before you proceed? The vendor has probably weighed up the pros and cons and realised they are lucky to get a buyer with those issues. I understand that disbelieving feeling- our first 'buyer' pulled out for no reason, so when our second offer came in we didn't trust it until we were well on the way and people had started incurring costs (we saw that as an indicator that they were serious)
Good luck, fingers crossed everything works out this time

apples that's brilliant!

We received our contracts to sign this morning in the post. The covering letter says

"Although your sale is not at the point of exchanging contracts just yet, I am sending you the forms now so you have plenty of time to sign!"

My face is currently like this

We have been asked to choose a completion date too.

I am feeling strangely, unexpectedly optimistic!

Apples welcome back to the uphill part of the rollercoaster!

North can you get the cast of the musical around to do some boxpacking teambuilding, and ply them with sherry afterwards?

Never sounds like great progress!

I've had a phonecall from the surveyors this morning to make an appointment to survey for our buyer.... Looking positive!

Apples - so pleased for you! Are you going to proceed?

Collie - that definitely sounds like progress to me! Very pleased for you.

Small - sounds positive for you too. I have mentioned the fact I don't have any wine left, I told them they can come & help as long as they bring some - Although one cast member saw my facebook post about sherry and brought me a 'G&T in a can' to rehearsal last night!

I've just spoken to the Manager of my EA - she has been more reassuring, but I'm not counting my chickens until we have exchanged.

In order to bring some excitement back, I am spending my lunch hour looking at Etsy & William Morris wallpapers.

Since I have time on my hands, I have decided to give my oven a good clean (I was planning a light clean, but it's shameful), any advice on oven cleaning products?

I find the old fashioned bicarbonate and vinegar the best, and Bung everything that comes apart into the dishwasher. I unscrewed the glass and everything and just dishwashered it all, and left bicarbonate and vinegar paste on the rest overnight. I did find that the bicarbonate remained longer and for a few days wiped it round with vinegar to get rid of the chalky residue. I normally am not averse to strong chemicals but I do find oven pride a bit too powerful and dangerous with little ones and pets.
By me for £50 there's an 'oven man' who comes and does it for you, which I have also considered. I know for a fact that the house we are buying will not have a clean oven, I have seen the state of the cupboard doors so can only imagine the filth that lies inside the oven.....

Hi All
Apples and Collie great news!
I have to say i am smiling at the drinking and eating whats left and small batch buying

Had a phonecall just now from our solicitor. Basically our buyers don't want the oven, its a range with elec oven and gas hob. So we are taking it with us. We have advised that it will be disconnected on completion day (if that ever comes) by a qualified gas man and the certificate will be left with the buyer. They are not having that. They want it disconnecting at least 2 days prior and the cert taken to their solicitor or they won't release the money. Now I know they are trying to get me to leave it FOC but i have left so much stuff and its brand new, so its coming with me - problem is, I will have to feed my family with no oven, what do you all think?

Well once they have exchange they are bound to complete, so surely they can't hold funds hostage over a gas cert?! What a silly thing to do (them). Is it a condition of their mortgage?

Anna they sound quite awkward. Get it disconnected and take it with you. Could you eat out for a couple of nights?

I really hope receiving the contracts is progress. We haven't heard anything else from anybody yet today. our EA is still failing to return calls and emails.

I packed 1 box today!

Thanks Bear - that's my Friday night sorted...I know how to live!
Had conflicting reports from my estate agent & solicitor today. Feeling very frustrated!

Blooming heck Anna they sound a nightmare!

Anna I would do everything in my power to take that cooker with me just to play them st their own game and if that means living on takeaway or slow cooker or microwave meals for a few days then I 'd do it!!