Buying and selling support thread?!

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Hi, I know there's a sellers' thread, and a buyers' thread, but I am knee deep in trying to do both at the same time and starting to feel like my head might explode and not sure which thread to visit to beg for someone to send Anyone else?!

I'm really sorry to hear that huckleberry.

Golden: your poor house. How awful for one tenant to have done all that damage.

We've exchanged! I can't believe it! Moving on the 29th. No idea what I'm meant to do now...

Brilliant clocks.

Now you celebrate! And then you book movers.

Movers are booked and paid for. Guess I'll just start boozing then!

Congratulations clocks, it must be a lovely feeling of relief.

Congratulations clocks . Hope the packing goes well. I'm going to miss this, I feel we've all been on a journey ( possibly to hell and back) together!

Great news clocks, cheers!

Exchanged, wonderful news for you

Congratulations clocks! Definitely open the wine! Pregnant or not I'm so having a glass of something once we've exchanged, can't bloody wait.
Huckleberry that's awful, so sorry really hope you can find a magic solution somehow!
golden so sad about your house. Some tenants are shocking. Fingers crossed the damage is easily fixable.
Same old same old here. Yet more ridiculous enquiries from buyers. Giving them til end of tomorrow to get a grip and come thurs morning I'm going to start (gently) threatening to put the house back on the market in the hopes of moving things along!

We have reached the stupid query stage of selling. What fun.

The buyers' solicitors has asked us to provide covenant consent or an indemnity for a 2012 extension that doesn't exist. So that's a 'no'.

And they want us to confirm that we will remove a big, heavy roller thing that we found behind the shed when we pulled it down. I said that there's no way to remove it without damaging the floors (would have to come through the house) and if the buyers don't want it, they can arrange to have it removed after completion.

Argh. DH is now panicking because I said no to getting rid of the stupid heavy bit of iron and concrete in the back garden. He's such hard work!

He started going on about his he'd never forgive me if it all falls through because of this. He has completely lost touch with reality. The buyers aren't going to pull out over a garden roller. And if they did, they weren't seriously going to buy the house anyway.

He also doesn't seem to understand that the buyers saying to their solicitor to ask us to get rid of the thing translates into 'please confirm that you will remove...' In solicitor speak. Our solicitor will translate my (pretty much) 'bugger off' into something else in solicitor speak.

Also they're trying to get us to leave them our awesome American fridge freezer. (We've already included loads of stuff that people exclude or charge extra for, including a range cooker too). They'd be very foolish to kick up a fuss about something in the garden they won't even notice is there.

But try telling that to DH!

Well, exchange date has been agreed............ and now it turns out that the Tennant hasn't been given any kind of notice, the vendors will ask her tonight of she has found anywhere to move to. Chances of moving next Friday as everyone has agreed to? Slim to bugger all

Oh Lord sweep this sounds slightly worrying. Hopefully it will work out.

That does sound stressful sweep. What on earth were you vendors thinking?

Any news for the week? We are trying to go ahead with our purchase without selling the old house. Hopefully it will only be a few months before it sells.
Got to pay extra 3% stamp duty in the meantime though, it's going to be painful.
Instructed a solicitor but it's all gone quiet from the vendors side. I am very much a glass half empty person and expecting to be gazumped now.

Hello, I have been lurking here for a few weeks. After a couple of valuations, I have signed the paperwork with the agent today to put our house on the market. We have been here for three years in a large Victorian house and it's has increased nicely in price. We are downsizing (well down mortgaging) and potentially could take £100k off the mortgage.

We are in a village and there's nothing on the market to buy but the agent has people who would sell in the roads we are looking at (but don't want the hassle of too many viewers) and will do a one-off viewing if we can sell.

I am dreading keeping the house immaculate with two teenage girls! Equally, I am worried about a lack of viewings or a bunch of timewasters. The agent seems very excited about our house and is confident it will sell quickly. I am still smarting from the last time we sold, when the market was slow and it took forever to sell.

I hope everything works out Jeremy. It sounds very fraught to me. Hopefully the vendor is just busy rather than up to something nefarious.

Puggy: good luck. The viewings aren't that bad, nor is keeping the house tidy if you get them as block viewings. If it's one here and there it's more of a nightmare.

DH is very cross with me for telling the solicitor that we will not be moving the roller in the garden. He's lost all sense of perspective, frankly, and seems to think that he can just rent a pick axe or sledgehammer and smash it to pieces and then bring them through the house. I pointed out that is ridiculous and he'll just end up smashing a window, knocking down a bit of the fence and/or causing himself an injury. It's heavy but not big, so they'd never have noticed it if he hadn't insisted on listing it on the property info form anyway.

I pointed out that 1. They won't pull out over this, and 2. They've asked if we'll include the fridge, so clearly we can negotiate on things. He just needs to get a grip. He's thrown all his toys out of the pram and said I have to deal with everything from now on.

step I get a bit like your dh, really fixated on trivial things that I think will really ruin my life and everyone else's .
I am sure that the roller won't make or break the sale.

So am I. But DH is so fixated on it. It's not the only way in which he is being completely irrational about the sale. For example, I'm not allowed to tell anyone in case the neighbours find out and then decide to be really difficult to stop us from moving. The reasoning there is utterly torturous and ridiculous. I'm not even allowed to talk to him about moving or anything to do with in any room in our house which shares a wall with the neighbours. Nor am I allowed to talk about it walking outside the house.

He has serious issues that mean that his grasp of reality is worse than your average toddler's and his response to things is about as proportionate.

Still want to claim you sometimes get like my husband?

Um, I am horrified at how similar I am actually, right down to not discussing it with neighbour's.

We are renting a detatched house so I can't comment on the wall issue but I do shut the back food when we talk about it.

I think that you are completely in the wrong and we are the normal ones.

Which makes me think that he might be right about the roller now

Haha.

If I just wasn't allowed to talk to the neighbours about it, that would be one thing. But I'm not allow to talk to friends at school drop off time in case it somehow gets back to the neighbours that we're moving (which is unlikely as I'm not planning on using a megaphone to discuss it and our neighbours' children are all grown up so they won't be in the school playground). We don't live in a tiny village where everyone knows everyone either.

I'm also not allowed to tell my mother (who lives in a city over 100 miles away) that we're moving. Nor was I supposed to tell the children. Or anyone at work. Or anyone. In fact, he'd be annoyed that I've been posting on here about it in case it gets back to the neighbours.

Because in DH's head they'll then decide to start a campaign to prevent us moving. Which presumably will involve hunting down our buyers and putting them off, since I can't think why the buyers would be back round here until after exchange (or even completion).

He also thinks it'll be possible to somehow move in a secret midnight flit so that the neighbours don't notice until we're gone.

That is so funny, I can just see you loading up under the cover of darkness wearing masks and wigs.

^^ this whole conversation has made me giggle! Thanks for the Friday morning laugh
Beginning to think arguments with DHs are par for the course when moving! Mine absolutely flew off the handle the other day when I raised the subject of re-listing our house.
We are still having buyer trouble, they are cash buyers and we took several £k under the asking price for the sake of a quick sale. 6 weeks on, we are ready to purchase and they're still titting about asking stupid questions and causing problems. They want us to pay for a couple of indemnities, we said we weren't willing to pay for them and they basically came back and said neither are they, so tough shit. Bear in mind they've had several grand off the house price anyway, and they're kicking up a fuss over a few hundred quid. Knobheads. DH says he will pay it just to get things happening again but agrees that one more hold-up and we'll put the house back up for sale. The thought of starting the whole process again is a terrible, horrible one!

Omg. There is a house 50k over our budget and I soooo want it. Our budget is a bit modest to be fair and I think we can more than afford to up it but OH is into not pushing it. The house is so perfect it needs no work done that I can see. Arghhhn