Buyers support thread - stressed? Worried? Stuck in a chain? Gazumped? Well come and join us here

[Bakingnovice]

I can't see if there is already a thread like this so here goes..

We finally upped our offer enough for it to be accepted on our dream house. It's been stressful so far and this is just the beginning. We have had so many let downs: vendor changing mind, vendor getting higher offer etc and we hope this sale goes through smoothly. We've been looking for years. Come and join me if you're buying and equally stressed....

[123rd]

I thought you had to tell the prospective buyers if you had some kind of "official" complaint ie you had called the police or council to complain about them but if it was just that you didn't get on with them or-as per tonnes of posters on MN-didn't like where they parked their car then I think you can say what you like

[123rd]

Hey Augusta. I think that is a very sensible thing to do and know someone that has worked for.
Obv in the letter don't mention money at all but state your requirements- how beds, bathrooms you need. Maybe start with an apology for contacting people in such a way bit also explain that you are only asking the houses that you think are nice ?
Fingers crossed

[FCEK]

Well lawyer friends and EA all said there wasn't any law/requirement to say anything and no forms I filled out asked about neighbour problems either. When asked, we were truthful - said the neighbours next door were nice.

[WillieWaggledagger]

there was a thread on here a few months ago i think where an MNer had received a 'questionnaire' from prospective buyers of her NDN's house asking lots of personal questions about salaries etc . the prospective buyers' solicitor had refused to handle it so they sent it themselves - says it all really!

[FCEK]

I saw that willie, what a bunch of wierdos they were!

although I'd love to know peoples salaries, nosey cow that I am

[littlecrystal]

Hello everyone and especially Augusta I am exactly in the same position. My house has gone under offer 3 times now since March, each time I am struggling to find a house to buy. I am starting to think that the problem is with me not the house market! I even have gone from looking for 3 bed houses to 2 bed houses just to move into the desired area, distributed leaflets twice, no luck.

I must admit that a couple of houses came up that I could have bought in the hindsight, but I was doubtful and did not want to make a mistake. This has got to be my forever home. Now slightly regret those.

I made a massive mistake buying by current house which was meant to be "forever" so this probably does my head in.

My buyer No.3 has been waiting since August! They told me they will not rush and pressurize me, but I am afraid even their patience will end.
I am not holding much hope of finding something before Christmas.

I even resorted to house spells to help me to find the right house; but that does not seem to work, too!

[AugustaProdworthy]

Hi little crystal- sounds exactly the same as us but we lost our 3 buyers! We had a compromise house sorted out and were at point of exchange when our last buyers split up.
We are lucky in that our current house is fine it's just too small for us now.

[Lagoonablue]

Hi, been lurking but not really posting. Glad to see some progress made for some of you.

We are still in limbo........tetchy first time buyers want to move into ours ASAP and have threatened to pull out and an elderly lady at the top of the chain who really doesn't want anyone to rush her!

House sold in August! HOPING for first week in. Dec because moving even closer to Xmas will be a frigging nightmare. Getting really nervous. Dates have already come and gone. Solicitors not being able to get hold of each other not helping either.....

BTW anyone know if you still have to pay your legal fees if the deal falls through, no fault of your own?

[Lagoonablue]

Thanks. I can't see anything about no sale no fee in the contract so guessing it won't apply. I wish I had known about some solicitors offering this. Will just have to pray it goes through.

[Pinklemon]

After our 7th offers were turned down, the vendor finally said they were actually looking for £485,000. I got fed up when they refused £480,000 cos I think this was a reasonable amount considering the asking price was £489,995. We have finally upped our offer to £485,000 but in the end we lost the house to another buyer. We try to gazumped by offering the full asking price but they refused. I am so upset I actually cried for two days. If only I could turned the clock back and offered £485,000 in the beginning instead of hesitating.

[123rd]

Just going to apologise now for my bad language but FUCKFUCKFUCK
I hate buying houses!!! After last week everything being all good, our buyers happy. We are happy. We both said nov 29 would be great. Our vendor now reckons he can't complete until" sometime after 16 dec" Ergh really. Apparently it has come as a bit of a shock that we would want to be in so soon!!! Jeez the house has been on the market since aug. and he still hasn't thought about clearing it. Soooooo pissed off

[WillieWaggledagger]

goodness 123rd that's very tight before christmas. he isn't living there is he, so he's lacking that sense of urgency. presumably under those circumstances he could have been clearing it anyway since it went on the market! what an idiot

[123rd]

That's the problem Willie. His life really isn't that affected by it. Just my family, with our 2dc and our buyers with a newborn! Surely he will only want the sentimental things and family bits. I really hope he is getting in a clearance firm. The vendors EA has been particularly wanky about it

[Lagoonablue]

123 I feel your pain. The top of our chain is an elderly lady who really won't be rushed. She has another house already!

[pigleychez]

123- How bloody annoying. Sure he would of already started preparing to move? Some people have no sense!

Pink- :( you missed out on that house.

We have been having a stressful few days too. Friday our buyers were having a moan about the electrical certificates and wouldn't have it that they were correct. We spoke to the electrician who then kindly put them in their place for us!
Tried to exchange fri afternoon but ran out of time.

All ready to try again today but then our buyer decide they cant do the 2nd as we had previously agreed but can ONLY do the 6th. God only knows why! They are in rented (from family) so have the most flexibilty but are being the most inflexible! Why they couldnt complete on the 2nd but not move till the 6th I dont know! They never gave a real reason. They are really getting on my nerves.
Last I heard we were trying to exchange again today but not heard anything yet :(

[123rd]

Did you have success Pigley? Hope so

[pigleychez]

NO!!

They couldn't get hold of the solicitor at the top of the chain! You think there would be a better system wouldn't you! Surely they could co-ordinate themselves better!

Third attempt today! Fingers crossed!

Soo stressed as aswell as all this the washing machine has broken so no clean school uniform, the car is in the garage and the cold weather as arrived making me ill again. I have a rare condition that means I have allergic reactions to getting too cold. Hate it!

[123rd]

Third time lucky pigley. And keep warm x

[WillieWaggledagger]

pigley you do feel like there should be some kind of central person who deals with all parties, instead of (or including) individual solicitors, agents etc.

not that i would want that job, mind!

[Lagoonablue]

Oh. Piglet what a nightmare. We are also trying to exchange this week. Our buyers keep threatening to pull out as things are going slowly and the top of the chain is an elderly lady who seems to be really dragging her feet......

Plus found out today that DH is in a potential redundancy situation.....felt like pulling out myself but we are taking the risk and hoping for the best. If we don't move now we never will. Plus we have to. Have 2 bedrooms and 2 kids so need the space. We are at an age where the mortgage terms are getting shorter iyswim. Basically we are near 50 so 25 yr mortgages are out. Every year we leave it makes it more difficult and will extend our debt into retirement.

I will get some return on an old endowment policy in 2015 so at least can reduce some of the mortgage then......


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