Christmas Cards - to all the children in the class or just to friends?

[emkana]

dd2 (6) was a bit upset tonight because she has only received one christmas card so far, but her friend already has five, so it looks like some children only write to some of the children in the class. dd2 wrote to everybody. What do your children do?

I don't get involved I let my DCs get on with it themselves even DD2 who is still 4 and in reception. I noticed she had written 3 cards to one of her favourite friends!!I am not even sure they will get to the right recipients (they put them in a big postbox and the Y6s sort and distribute them) she has spelled them all wrongly eg'Roos' (Rose) Mafoo (matthew) Feer (Thea)

I think the problem comes when children send to the whole class except one or two children - fine if you're only sending 6 cards but to send 29 is a bit mean.

I've told my class before that I think it would be a nice idea to make sure they send to everyone who sat on their table this term (if they are sending cards) as it really is horrible when they are dished out and a couple of children don't have any.

Mine have sent them to everyone in their classes plus assorted friends from other classes

my DS (Started reception in september) has done 1 of each of his own class (30 in a class) and then done about another 8 or so for the ones in the ajoining reception class that he also plays with. I did think about getting him to do 1 for everyone in the year cause I know how horrible it must be to feel left out but in all honesty he doesn't actually know hardly any of the other class and it was hard enough getting him to write out the ones he did!!

My 2 DDs have always went cards to everyone, but this year youngest DD (9) announced that she wasn't sending cards to the kids who are mean to her. And quite right, why should she? If the mean kids don't get any cards, quite frankly I couldn't care less! (They probably will though, they are Queen Bee types who have their acolytes...)

By ChickensHaveNoTinsel Thu 10-Dec-09 12:04:16
But surely sending cards to people that you don't like/don't know is an empty gesture? I would not expect my children to send a christmas card to the child that has been making them miserable all year, for example.

Have you ever stopped and wondered WHY some children are unpopular or make themselves unpopular?

As the parent of a little boy who 'gets it wrong' with the old social cues and niceties, it's heart-breaking to see him so upset because he can't understand why child A gets loads of cards and he gets barely any.

It's such a tiny thing, writing a card but it can mean the bloody world to some little ones.

choccy - no problems from my pov about chocolates in christmas cards for the children. However, some parents don't want their kids getting chocolates. I try to stay out of it as much as possible tbh

DD1 will do them for everyone in Yr 2, and then those she particularly wants to from other years. However, she's taking them into school in dribs and drabs as she does them, so it may be that that's what's happening in your DD's school too?

sorry, just because of your name and you asking about chocolates

I'm sorry your little boy struggles, Doodlez. Of course I've thought about why (the theoretical) Andrew thinks it's hilarious to pull the other children over, call them names and delight in other childrens misery. I simply wouldn't insist that a child who has been terrorised had to write a christmas card to him. I think that's fair enough, tbh. (This is all theoretical, as my children aren't being terrorised, I simply had a box of forty cards and split them. There are 60 children in each boys' year, and I think that sending cards should be a pleasure, not a chore.)