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hi ladies here is our new thread

God I am so going to cry tomorrow. HELP! Anyone got any crying avoidance strategies so I can at least delay it until I get back to the car!??

He's not really going to be part of a proper class as there are only about 7 starting tomorrow, the rest over the course of the week.

Yes, Tuesday is my last deadline on this matter. I will keep you informed and thanks for the input - good to hear from teachers.

Work is going to be slacker than usual for the next few months (I'm dropping down to 2 days/week) so I thought I might try the pta - but sarcasm and other lowly forms of wit have ever been my downfall and I will have to exercise much self-control not to get into trouble (it's all so much like being back at school myself!).

That walk! Well I'm afraid I would claim illness on someone's part until the car was fixed. Or get a taxi? A lot of kids do the school run by taxi routinely.

ooo taxi.

Won't they mind 2 carseats and a screamer [baby not mum]

I can't even promise to have make up on!

Maybe we are close in rl and will actually be on the same pta - being non-sarcastic together whilst squirming.

Good luck tomorrow people!

good luck anyone starting tomorrow

dd1 starts thursday so 4 days and counting

agree sun/cloud thing sounds silly!!

agree ds could do half days like the rest

Just sent dh and dd off to school. Now can I rely on him to hand in the form for FT school, pay the rest of term's school lunches and pick up her extra cardigan?? We'll see

Definitely get a taxi. We have put a car seat in a taxi several times. The other mums will think you are very flash and loaded

Acinonyx - I think you need to go and see the teacher about this not answering the register thing. Just a friendly chat. e.g -

"Thanks for all your hard work. We really appriciate it. DH loved the painting dd bought home on Thursday. By the way (giggle) maybe you can help us out here. You see DD keeps saying this strange thing..... really odd... she says she keeps getting clouds for not answering the register and I don't really understand what she means? Have you got any ideas?"

TBH at face value it does sound rather strange to make such a fuss about shyness for the register - every class has one or two that are shy at register time - it is primary school classroom life. I think there is either more or (I suspect and hope) less to this than meets the eye. Sounds odd though and the confusion needs nipping in the bud.

Hi ladies. Joining this thread very late but just need to release!

Just got back from dropping DS to his first day at school. Lots of feelings but have had a little cry! He went off quite happily with a couple of friends.

Hope all your DCs are settling in well and good luck to all those starting this week!

thegrammerpolicesic ( at "sic"), sorry I've not caught you in time, but was going to say 'sunglasses'.
How did it go?

Hiya bradsmissus, is he there all day? Sounds good that he went in happy and with friends.

Hi,
Well I managed to get my teariness out at home before we left but without ds seeing.

I was livid though as there was a volunteer older lady greeting the parents of the new starters and she basically set ds off crying!
He has never batted an eyelid about the settling in sessions and leaving me and I'm so with her. He looked a bit perplexed but so wouldn't have cried and in response she started making a massive fuss of him saying "oh don't worry dear mummy isn't going anywhere, mummy isn't leaving you, don't cry" BUT he wasn't bloody crying until she said that and wasn't even about to. And guess what happened when she said that.....he cried!!!

Stupid stupid woman!
Luckily the teacher was much better. But I feel that the stupid woman spoilt our special dropping off at school moment and I'm really annoyed.

Ds settled down fine though and was off after that.

Looked fab in his uniform.

Bradsmissus - what time is pick up for you? And what are you doing until then?

Acinonyx-Im so angry on behalf of you...if that makes sense! Can't believe any teacher in their right mind would do something as silly as that-what is she thinking of! Not answering your name at registration isn't naughty...its just being a normal 4 year old in a strange envionment. Hope you manage to speak to the teacher and get something sorted.

Well DS was fine on the walk to school and we were talking about things he could tell the teacher today...all very exciting this weekend cause someone got into difficulties in the swimming pool (fully grown man I might add!) and the lifeguards had to jump in which he thought was fab lol! All ok until he got to the school gate and then burst into tears again. Its just so out of character for him...he is usually this bundle of energy and excitement and doesn't usually even give me a second glance. They are finally in their own classroom now so left him sitting on the carpet with tears just rolling down his face...how awful did I feel! Hope everyone else has a lovely day...I get really excited when I go to pick him up-anyone else???

Hi! Pickup is at 12 today - starts full time in 3 weeks.

Have cleaned the bathroom, hoovered the staris and now tackling the ironing!

Usually at work 30 hrs/week so having a week off to settle him is lovely.

I KNow what you mean Norfolk - I am really looking forward to the pickup, just to see how he has been. Plus, if course, he looks so little and cute in his uniform!

aci - agree about registration would spk to teacher

norfolk - bless him i am sure he will come around guess it is a big change

grammar - theres always one honestly

brad - you have been busy

Hi ladies can I join, it's my dd's 1st full day at school today, & dropped her off in floods of tears. I've been keeping myself busy busy but still feeling a bit sick worrying about her. Last week she did 3 mornings & the teacher said she was fine but walking home lots of kid pointed my dd out to their mums saying that little girl kept crying cos she wanted her mummy! She's terrified of the handdriers in the toilets so I'm worrried there will be accidents, have spoken to teacher about it & she said she understood & it was quite common but don't think she understands how upset dd has been. She looked so little & lonely when I left her, she's an aug baby so the youngest in the class. So glad to have found this thread & know now I'm not a neurotic mum!

Hello roundabout! I hope your dd settles soon... maybe once she starts making friends it will get easier?

My dd1 had her first school lunch today, which seems to have gone very well. Phew. Turns out they don't have to carry a tray after all, just a plate of food, and they are given a drink and cutlery at the table. So it seems a much less daunting experience than I had anticipated. And she seems pretty happy with the food.

The teacher has said she will sort out a meeting with the senco, herself and the TA to discuss dd1's physical difficulties, so I am hopeful that the school will be proactive and helpful and look after her. Bit nervous though.

Roundabout, my ds is the same about the handdriers and I'm worried about it too. He never has accidents but I reckon this could set him off when he goes full time. They're quite loud.

Hope she settles in better soon.

DS has come home with a fat lip because "someone was trying to put a hoop over me and pull my throat", so he moved and fell onto a toy. He then didn't tell the teacher "but I cried and hid, so the boys couldn't be mean to me anymore". Apparently they had been being mean to him and this was all part of it.

He's so little, and he's not rough and tumble, and I know its all part of the learning curve, but seriously, this has really upset me, and obviously, him.

The teachers didn't see what happened, and said that it was all an accident and he just fell over. He's not a great liar, so I'd know if it was a fib, and he's genuinely upset.

Horrible.

Ha, I have just discovered why dd1 was so happy with the food. She had pizza with salad and chips. She looked a bit cagey when I asked whether she'd eaten it all, and it transpired that she had eaten the pizza and the chips but had decided that the salad 'looked like nice decoration on the plate' and hadn't eaten that, and 'I got bored with my first course, so I had some cake.'

Oh well, at least she seems very bouncy about it all. She was Special Helper today apparently, which went down very well.

Poor little mini moodlum. How upsetting. Does he have friends in his class, or are they all new to him?

moodlum - I imagine school rough and tumble can be hard going for boys. I would be upset too. I SO know what you mean about knowing when your own child is telling the truth.

Well, dd didn't answer at reception but the teacher thankfully didn't do or say anything about it so I will let it be. I did tell dd that if the teacher had put her on the cloud agian I would have spoken to her about it and explained that dd is shy, not naughty - but it seems teacher has finally figured that out. Dd then told me that 'when I was in the corner I told (teacher) that I was too shy but she said I talked to the teachers when I started'. But of course, it's groups in particular that dd can't cope with - not individuals.

Anyway, I hope that is the end of the saga.

Now we have to work on the wee. Yet another accident today and dd can only put clean socks on and can't manage tights - so she's going to get mighty chilly if she keeps having to change into ankle socks every day.

Dd actually cut up her own food today - wonder of wonders! It's a miracle

I have work to do but confess I mainly met some other mums for lunch today. I did sort out dd's clothes and cupboards first though.

Aranea - dd does tend to go for the carbs and pudding but I just trust (hope?) that some veg gets eaten too.

OK - am full of wibbles.

Can't stop now, I have to eat am starving. But dd is in bed in readyness for tomorrow.

Oh GOd moodlum. YOu must be up a height with worry!?

Will be back for a natter.

Moodlum - your poor lo, what an awful thing to happen so early on at school. Boys do do such rough & tumble & it must be so hard for those boys that don't play like that. My dd is very truthful to me, so truthful she often drops herself in it & I agree you know when your child is being truthful especially at such a young age.
My dd was happy when I picked her up, excited by her day. She was in tears at lunchtime as she didn't want to eat all her packed lunch. She took so long eating it all the reception children had gone into playground & she was joined by the older ones which unnerved her a bit.Her teacher did take her to the toilets & they washed their hands together & now she's not scared of them unless she's on her own so thats progress I suppose.
I just hope she makes friends soon, there are a few children from her nursery but not ones she was proper friends with. It's a fairly small school & about a quarter of her class seem to be related so think she feels a bit left out!

Moodlum - poor you and poor little Moodlum. I hope it doesn't put him off school and that the nasty boys get their comeuppance.

Thanks lovely ladies for your kind words. I am quite worried y'know. I've just looked at him in bed and he's got this big fat lip poor rabbit.

DH is going to go in with him tomorrow, and have a quick (softly softly obviarsely) word with his teacher, as her version of events is quite different from his, but she did say that she didn't see what happened. Its a really hard middle ground being tough about usual rough and tumble / not being precious .. but equally - I really don't want feedback from day one being about hiding from the boys being mean and coming home with a fat lip, so I think I'm justified.

What am I saying? Of course I'm justified. Especially as he knows no-one in the class, everyone is totally new.

newspaper good good luck tomorrow. Remember - sunglasses to cover up the crying, and absolutely no shame about using the pushchair, unless you've opted for the taxi.

roundabout how did it go?

aci hope its sorted a little now, with your dd's teacher now properly forgiving of her shyness.

Onward ladies. Another school run tomorrow when we do it all again. And again.

Good idea, moodlum, to get dh to speak to the teacher. I have a hunch that these things come better from men anyhow - they're less likely to be regarded as neurotic and overprotective, aren't they? Most unfair. I hope the conversation goes well and that your ds is happy to go in tomorrow.

Acinonyx - I'm so relieved to hear that the teacher has backed off. She doesn't sound all that bright though, if she was arguing over whether your dd was really shy based on her having spoken to adults.

newspaper - good luck! I hope she has a lovely time and you are not too traumatised.