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hi ladies here is our new thread

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Love it Golgi.
Aranea, my ds is quite self-sufficient too. I'm with you newspaper - don't know whether it's good or bad. He is very sociable with adults and older children but potters around quite happily at school and nursery on his own quite a lot. If he's happy I don't see why I should worry about it tbh.

My DD's come home with an award for getting 10 merit points so far. I'm chuffed to bits. TBH I'm still just dead proud of her for going in the door in the morning, so this a big bonus. She had to go up in assembly for it....which would give me the horrors, but she'd been looking forward to it.

She's finding the playground games a bit rough. Honestly, I've seen them myself in the morning pulling, tugging, pushing each other. No malice in it, but playing with some of them is like being in a fight.
She wants to hook up with quieter girls, more like herself, that want to walk around holding hands looking at bugs etc. But is socially a bit aloof.

(I remember the grammerpolice thread - it was funny and bizarre )

golgi, LOL at the message in a bottle. Fair enough.

Paisley - my boy would walk around with your daughter holding hands and looking at bugs. He doesn't like the rough stuff at all.
Although he's quite happy to fight with his brother when he gets home....

How is everyones week going? Good here, a wobble on Monday morning, but nanna took her today and she was delighted.

The staff let her show nanna her peg and so on, although she was let no further than the class room door. At least dd got to show off her world.

Have made a big sticker chart to handle all the stickers for dinner eating and so on. Naturally stickers now seem in short suppy. Ah well

Love the message in a bottle, golgi.

newspaper and grammer, interesting that our littlies are so similar! The stuff about being v sociable with adults and older children rings very true for my dd1 too.

Aranea and newspaper are yours only children too? I'm sure that has something to do with it with ds.

He prefers the predictability of adults and older kids and also says children [his age] don't answer him properly.

At his nursery his first keyworker made a big to do about this and I worried about it but now I'm more confident in who ds is - he's a lot like his dad. The fact is he is happy pottering and talking to adults and occasionally hanging out with kids who are quieter. I know that as the other children get older and a bit more predictable he'll be more sociable so I'm not going to be told he should be a particular way. So there be warned ds's teachers .

She was until January - so yes for the purposes of the argument. I am an only and I was just the same. I found other children a bit annoying, I didn't like how unpredictable they were.

OMG I didn't catch that last line of your post until I pressed post grammer grama....tgp - how interesting. We used exactly the same word - predictable. It seems very important to this type of child. I read 'The highly Sensitive Child' and it really gave me insight into dd. She is not highly sensitive, but more of a very sensitive.

I did make DD hold up the other day and say bye nicely to a little one she had totally blanked. I see others being friendly to her and she snubs them teribly. I am torn between respecting her moods, nature, and opinions - and thinking she is a madam who will have no friends.

The blanking thing is exactly what ds does sometimes! He's so utterly take it or leave it with other kids most of the time.

Occasionally he'll get really into the idea of a playdate but when it actually happens he'll be more interested in chatting to the mum or, as ever, pottering around.

I read the HSC book too a couple of years ago. I wouldn't describe him as an HSC now (then he was absolutely but has chilled a lot since).

He claims he had three best mates at nursery -they were a little gang - but I'm really not sure how much he actually chatted/ played with them. Same is developing at school so I'll be interested to hear what the teachers say on parents' evening.

Definitely think he could be seen as aloof by others but he seems reasonably popular - although that could be the rose tinted specs of motherhood in action!

I have one like that and he's not an only - he snubs other children if we ever see them out of school - hides behind my legs! I was the same as a small, apparently.
His brother is Mr Sociable.

Newspaper our sticker supply is drying up, too - I think they started in the term in an enthusiastic sticker-handing-out manner, and have now hit the teaching wall that happens just before half term, when all you can think about is will you manage to survive the next 10 days without collapsing in a big heap.

I can totally relate to teachers golgi!

Mine isn't an only, but her sister was only born a year ago so I suppose she did have a long time being on her own. She isn't shy - would never hide behind my legs or anything like that - but she absolutely does that thing you describe, grammer, of claiming certain other children are her best friends and then not actually spending very much time interacting with them.

Dd is an only and was excrutiatingly shy. Astonishingly, she has been very sociable and robust at school. She really craves the company of other children and I do my best to see that she has that - but it's actually tougher now as I don't really want all of the 3 afternoons she is home to be taken up with playdates (doing 2 this week). I think I might have a one/per week rule. The 2 days at her CM are like playdates as she is very close to the other girls.

My main problem is that she isn't getting enough sleep. I can see she looks tired but I just can't get her off to sleep - it's still 8.30-9 pm

Agree that playdates are the way to get them to bond more but also about the afternoons problem. I want ds and I to spend quality time together after school for the next few months so don't really want to do playdates. Tricky one.

He is a little bit shy too but much less than he used to be and only in a few situations now. He can be very confident and chatty as well. Just not with kids his age!

And you know what I can see where he's coming from....if you're four it's much easier to talk to a grown up. They answer your questions properly and talk in an easier to understand way etc.

Looks like DD's got at least the rest of this week off.
Chickenpox.
When she came out of school yesterday the TA said she thought DD was tired, yawning a lot etc. But DD burst into tears as soon as we got through the gates and said her head hurt and she'd spent playtime lying on the bench.
(she's so bad at telling an adult when something's wrong).

And like a lot of you DCs, DD is also shy and blanks friendly 'hellos'. (She's an only).
I'd thought most of us had onlies or PFBs, I guess if you're an old hand at DCs starting school you wouldn't need the thread so much.
I've had that 'highly sensitive child' on my Amazon wishlist for ages. I keep meaning to order it at the library to give it a read through.

I've got the parents' evening tonight. (I'm looking forward to seeing some classwork).

oh no paisley

are people having quiet half terms so that little ones can recharge batteries

we were due to go up to hull which is 6 hours from us and stay up for a few nights.

dd1 is so tired with school,moody,playing up not eating propaply

what r ladies thought on what i should do?

thinking instead to have a week @ home of mummy time baking etc so she can recharge batteries

anyone else having similair problems :-

dd1 is leaving most of her lunch
is very moody and teary
not doing as she is told
very very tired

Paisley - sorry to hear about the pox. At least it's better than having it over half term.....

leaving most of lunch - check - although he did get a dinnerlady sticker today, and he ate his sandwiches yesterday (not surprising as husband had made chocolate spread sandwiches!)
moody and teary - check - he cries at suppertime if I give him the "wrong" fork.
not doing as he is told - check
very very tired - check

Are you going to see family in Hull? I would still go I think, just plan to have a couple of days at home first.

Oh for a quiet half term - I would like to recharge my batteries too but inlaws are visiting. At least they are not actually staying with us as we don't really have room! I get on well with them but it's not very relaxing having to entertain all the time.

I got my name back. I am so much happier as a tree.

Tink - we'll be slobbing in pj's till noon then a quite potter to a cafe for afternoon cakes and maybe a couple of wanders to friends or the park. Thats it. SHe is totally exhausted and so am I! Looking forward to no hustle and bustle in the mornings.

Dd1 spat her dummy with the school dinner thing today and demanded a packed lunch. She proved very wise as it wasn't as advertised and chicken korma is tomorrow instead of today. She said today was 'bean stew yak-yak poo'. Had to chortle a bit at that.

SHe had a play date I didn't go to as I have the lurgy. Her first solo flight! She did a poo there so is obviously very comfortable there. High compliment from my withholding princess.

No stickers......No news from school....but a new song so at least I get clues

\enjoy parents eve paisleyleaf.

hi ladies. Will catch up on the thread properly later.

Playdates are a nightmare. DS is hugely enthusiastic for about half an hour and then behaves like the devil for the rest of it. I think the one a week is a good rule to stick to, at least for a while.

Both dd and ds look dreadful. Pale with huge rings under their eyes. And yet they are still awake now, discussing how ds' new friend did a wee in the computer room. Its fascinating apparently.

Its been lovely weather up 'ere and that makes such a difference doesn't it. Lovely and sunny and warm.

Once a week here too - if that.

Oh playdates..thats what we are talking about.

DD asleep for 6.50 tonight, totally exhausted. She was even clumsy and bumping into things, then jumping about to try wake up. Poor lamb.

at weather, foggy here. It is generally foggy from October to July. Also when the wind blows in any direction but of shore

I give dd rescue remedy to help her zone out

Dd is still awake too - I can here her rummaging.

I have no idea how much lunch gets eaten - but I'm sure the puddings and soft rolls are most of it.

The interlocking tangled web of love triangles (pentangles?) is going to drive me to more drink - it's probably better if I just don't know. But then I DO want to know.

Half term here will be pretty busy but hopefully we wil have a couple of slow mrinings at least. Wrt Hull - depends how much you think you want/ought to go and how much you might enjoy it.

I'm thinking of taking dd to her first cinema film - Up - this weekend. Anyone seen it? It's the first one in ages that I think might not be too scary.

Yep, I thought that golgi. It's not a bad time to get it. She's not really missing anything.

It's been like the good-old-days at home today. Baking in the kitchen, colouring in etc
Was also planning as little as possible for half term.

Parents' evening, all good. Good concentrating and behaviour. Teacher says she's mixing well.
And DD has quite missed school today; kept asking me what I thought they were doing, so that's a good sign.

Tree, that's funny about doing a poo at her playdate.

Oh I forgot to say get well soon paisleyleafbud. Am a leeeeetle jelous of you getting her at home, if you see what I mean. In a nice compassionate shame she is ill type way.
Glad parents evening was all positive.

JEALOUS.

sheeesh. Not even a hard one!