I'm too ill to take DD to school and now DH is unwell too -- can we just keep DD home for a day or two?

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I have COVID or the flu or something and I have been absolutely floored with fever, congestion, racing heart, etc. since Friday. I've camped out in the bedroom all weekend while DH took care of the children. Now, he says he's got it too. For me, it came on very strongly, so I worry that by the morning he is going to be very unwell. If he is, can we just keep DD home for the day? She's in Y5.

Ideas I've considered that won't work: We live a bit far from the school so no other families near us that I know of. No good enough friends that I would ask this of them either. It's tube + walking and I don't feel comfortable sending her on her own. I have an older DD but their schools are in opposite directions, so she couldn't make the primary drop and then get to her school in time and would get detention. Don't think I'd feel comfortable sending her in a taxi. Is there anything else I'm missing? Hopefully it'd just be a day - maybe two - before I was well enough to take her.

Never had one of us become ill before the other was better before!

Yes I could browse internet etc from my hospital bed. However I was unable to go to the toilet by myself and full of wires and drains so couldn't have taken a kid to school

I wouldn’t send a 9 or 10 yo alone in a taxi. I would consider it with the older sibling.

Lie to the school?

So an 11 year old is fine but not 9 or 10?

yanbu at all. if you physically can't get her there safely then that is that.
don't guilt yourself about it. the school might get a bit shirty about attendance figures but your safety has to come first. imagine if you passed out on the tube! just ring in and say you have a domestic emergency or that the whole house is down with the lurgy.

one or two days off in year 5 won't make a blind bit of difference to her education. get some rest and hope you both feel better soon!

There are some crazy ideas on here!
Ring school, tell them you are all ill and she won't be in until further notice.

No-one wants your germs, please keep them to yourself, or DD's class, including the teacher, will all be off sick, soon.

The OP’s child is in y5 so must be 9 or 10. That is why I was talking about that specific age group.

Older sibling in year 7 so 11

Fair enough!

Yet I managed it as have others.

Then your case of flu was probably moderate and not a bad case

OP thinks got it from dd in first place

I was in bed for a full week unable to read or watch TV, temperature on and off for 5 days and hallucinating when it was really high. I needed help to get to the bathroom. The following week I made it downstairs for an hour or so to watch a bit of TV but felt like I'd run a marathon. I lost half a stone and it took about 6 weeks before I felt back to normal. Since then I've always made sure I get the flu jab. I was able to occasionally pick my phone up and message/ email / organise for ds to get to school/ look at MN as this didn't actually involve lifting my head off the pillow and sitting up,. Don't tell me how ill I was.

One thing I’ve learned from this thread is that some people use exactly the same amount of energy to lie in bed and write something on their phone as they do to get up, dressed and take their child across London on the tube to school, then come back again! They must type really, really vigorously.
You learn something new every day I guess!

😂 This is why the phone screen replacement industry is thriving the way it is.

You’ve just said yourself that if you’re properly unwell with bad flu you’re unable to read , watch tv , walk unassisted, hallucinating. Ie , not able to write posts on mumsnet. If you’re writing posts on MN then you might be unwell but not that unwell!

Ok,whatever you say. I wasn't that ill and it didn't take me 6 weeks to recover. Better?

I just reiterated what you said

Are you still insisting that if youre well enough to lie in bed and type on your phone then you’re well enough to take your child across London to school? Honestly it’s really weird.

the conversation has changed a bit
keep up

Lol

yep ROFL!

I wasn't addressing the Op though?

not really, you’re still insisting that you’re not properly ill if you can use a mobile phone. That might be your personal experience but you can’t apply it to everyone else, lots of people are “properly ill” and can still use a phone.

That pp literally said when she had flu she couldn’t read or watch tv , was hallucinating ( let alone write posts on MN which take mental energy) that PP didn’t have .