Son called a disgrace over something he didn't do

[Baby2020triplets]

My son along with three other students got called a disgrace to the school over something they didn't do ,

I witness the accident and said which student it was and they didn't get told however the 4 students (including my son) got blamed ,the head teacher called all 4 a disgrace to the school and embrassement to the class , if my son had done it it would be fair enough however he didn't none of the children who got blamed did anything wrong.

I spoke to the head and she point blank refused to apologise after we ask her to she told us they deserved to be called a disgrace to the school even after I told her I saw it happen ,
I asked her not to be alone with my son as he is extremely upset by it I asked dshe didn't have contact with him one a 1:1 until this matter was sorted out and investigated she tole me this is her school and I don't get to tell her what to do

Am I over reacting

Ah so it was Bikeability (or a similar activity).

You were watching as you knew where they would be. One boy rides into a group of 4 boys and the 4 boys fall. Head was furious because for Bileability, the behaviour has to be exemplary.

But she blamed the wrong boys.

I think you should simply email the Ring footage to the Head and the class teacher involved.

It's village playing field where the students do all sports pe etc anyone can have access to it at any time and I live next to it with 20 other houses mostly all having ring doorbells

How on earth did the boy on his bike ride into all four of them? In any event you are making a mountain out of a molehill. He is upset because you are making it into a big issue. Telling the head that she can't interact with your son is ridiculous.

I would also say if you have lost faith in the head it is probably time to find a new school. Especially if you have younger children to go through.

I can’t make head nor tail of your posts tbh.
If it’s on your ring doorbell, just show the head the footage.

I was there from the start I watched them come out on to the field the teacher who toke the class has apologised its just the head who will not say sorry

I have offered to but she will not see it and says she doesn't need to see it ,

Sorry for not explaining it very well my written English isn't very good ,

My son got blamed for something he didn't do
The teacher who toke the class apologies the head who called him a disgrace did not apologies and will not , I saw what happened as I was watching and I have ring door bell footage as we live in a small village where the school use a public play field and my house is next door to it. The head will not see the ring doorbell footage . My son feels threatened and scared of the head and has done from last week when this happened
All I want is an apology as do the other parents

Because she called them a disgrace when they didnt do anything ???

You sound a bit unhinged tbh

No idea of the facts here but I would say if she told the students off harshly based on wrong information she should still apologise and explain.

It is she didn't know what happened she just screamed at them without asking what happened , the teacher didn't about at them she just toke them in, she needs to say sorry I will 100% stand up for son

What does “toke them in” mean?

It's all a bit storm in a teacup, isn't it? You need to move on and importantly, teach your son to move on. He got shouted at for something he didn't do and feels aggrieved - that's life. There will always be someone in life who makes a mistake and takes it out on the wrong person - teach him to not dwell on these things and move on without a grudge, acknowledging that you, he and others know that they were not at fault.

You know for a fact the head teacher actually screamed at them or is this what your son has told you?

Complain to the governors and demand an investigation in line with the school's complaints procedures.

A child being blamed for something they did not do is bullying.

I think you need to gather the other 3 sets of parents and have a talk with her.

I think if you want to help your son, you should model resilience and stop making this into a much bigger deal than it is. The teacher has apologised. There are going to be many more issues like this at secondary school and the teachers are going to be far less accessible than they are now. You sound completely over involved.

What a nasty woman she is.

I feel very sorry for you son.