can i tell you about my dd?

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my dd seems to be very individual
she is the only child in the whole school who wears the entire school uniform every day. all other children just wear a polo shirt and trousers, dd wears long sleeved shirt, tie, doulbe breasted pinafore etc etc. she CHOOSES to do this. once i said to her "why dont you wear a polo shirt? itll be easier for gym time" she said "no thanks mummy, i like my shirt and tie its very smart"
so i just left it. if shes happy...
also
she isnt into things other girls are. but she is HAPPY with this.
until she tries ot join in and its awkward for her.
she also looks different (apart from the uniform) she has short frizzy hair that drives ME batty but dd loves her hair! shes always brushing it and says how beautiful it is she wears wierd combinations of clothes but as long as its not a bikini in midwinter then i just leave her to it
she isnt interested in toys. she will do the odd word search or pencil puzzle but mostly she just draws, cuts, sticks, paints, glues all day long. she has never bothered with dolls or the like.

anyway (crying here) i worry that one day she will see the difference with her and her friends and be sad. just now she is happy (except when feeling awkward about joining in - she sometimes tries and it comes across as her being bossy and shouty)
i just want her to be happy

oops that last post was a bit jumbled !

dd is going fora playdate after school today and ill be collecting her later
will let you know how she got on

i was justthinking - is there any girls she knows out of school? could she "learn" games with them and some of the social mories of playing??

Hope the playdate goes well np.

Dd is sad when she's watching the others play. I think she'd kind of like to join in but she just doesn't know how. She loves one-on-one play best and would also make someone, I always think, the very best friend. She's so devoted and affectionate. Pity my dd isn't at your dd's school.

Oh NP i can't believe you feel like that about groups of people. When i met you in December i was soooo scared and almost didn't come

I just thought you were so nice and you come over as very warm and confident and sure of yourself.

The problem with the mums at school is down to them and nothing to do with you. There are mums at school who are not nice,cliquey(sp)and snooty!! Ignore em,they are no loss.

Have just seen this thread and wanted to say that as a teacher I'm really sorry that your Dd's teacher seems "unsympathetic". I love children who are that bit different, and think its great she has the confidence to be herself. In every class I have been in it seems there are the cliques, the leaders and the sheep and then those that stand out a bit, and as long as they are happy then its usually fine. Its when they long to fit in, but don't that your heart bleeds for them.

I hope that in the future she has teachers who appreciate her for who she is, and help her classmates to do so too. She will learn the social skills in time, its just it comes more naturally to some than others (and I speak as someone who found this hard when I was young, and still sometimes worry about it now!).

Is she at school in Edinburgh? (I used to teach there)

Bloody Hell! I just wrote an epic post and it disappeared! Short version, my dd was (is) very similar to your dd. She is now 10 and is learning the art of social graces! 5 is very young still, when my dd was 5 she insisted everyone call her Daphne Butterfly even her teachers. Looking at the amount of people who have answered that your dd sounds like my dd/ds/me they're not really individual.
Small talk in the playground is very over rated. The parents who look down their nose at my dd are not the sort of people I want to tlk to. They are shallow, insecure and jealous.
You and your dd sound just lovely.

Hi NP, my DD has always been very different too (also very clever) and I've always worried about her a lot. But she's now 10, she's happy and well-liked (although she's not in with the 'in-crowd') and as she's getting older her individualism seems to sit with her better. I also think that the other girls, as they grow up, are able to appreciate individuals more too.
Try not to worry...I wish I'd worried less over the past 5 years!

naily dd1 is an individual and still is at 8.5

she didn't/doesn't seem teh same as her classmates and never has

she is so goddamn cool now it is scary (not in a spooky pre teen way, in a tomboyish, go my own way kind of way)

theapprentice, i really hope dd gets a new teacher next year. its not that i dont think she is a 'good' teacher. i just dont think she is compatible with my dd. you cant be with everyone can you. she does seem to favour the 'pretty' girls though.

she is alwauys telling me how clever dd is though. she really encourages her academically.

yes, she goes to aschool in edinburgh