@lunar - Yes, that's the clarity I've just received. I've sent an email now stating I don't think my child is safe and asking for details of what additional measures have been put in place to keep him safe. I've noted that adult supervision hasn't worked because two of the tree incidents occurred while adults were present. I pva asked her to explicitly acknowledge, in writing, that my primary concern is that this child's explosive unpredictable table violence can cause life changing injuries to a child. In the first incident my son was punched in the throat, and when he fell to the ground winded, he was kicked in the head.
@Alopeciabop - I understand and said as much in an email. I said that if I had been subjected to that level of violence, no one would ask me as an adult to sit day by day next to my abuser because that would be traumatic. But that's what they're asking of my child. I also pointed out that even though the second incidents were 'shoving', my child will always be aware of the potential for it to be much worse, and that's traumatising. His teacher has spent a lot of time with him after that discussing what happened, promising him he'll never have to sit at the same table as this kid, and he's been given a token to use to signal he doesn't feel safe and needs to leave the room. I think his Expedia's validated by that, but I shouldn't have had to push for it. Thing is, if I took him out of school he might experience the same at the next school.
@JemimaTiggywinkles - I desperately hope so. I love the teachers. They're all amazing. I'd feel awful if they thought I thought that THEY were letting my child down. I think they're doing their very best. The head ... I can't stand her.
@Sheselectric22 - your list of things you asked, I've done just that. I'm avoiding phone calls or meetings because I want it all in writing. I'm going to see how the head responds to my latest email today, but if it's not satisfactory (and I don't see how it can be), I'll warn her if it happens again my first call will be the police. And then I'll start escalating it with my councillor etc.
@LaBellina - Yup. I've experienced abuse as an adult and worked with rape survivors. I referred to this in my contact with the school. Told them I knew without doubt my son would never forget this experience his whole life.
@Fahbeep - Yes, it seems all the school can do is try contain the child, and monitor and watch. I don't see how that prepares him for life as an adult at all. I just don't think the teachers have the time or skills to meet his needs.
@Ohthatsabitshit - the first incident occurred because the child was running around constantly say 'fuck' loudly while playing football. As far as I am concerned, this is the point he should have been taken out the room ... or even the moments before he started swearing. The school had drilled into children that they needed to try address issues themselves before involving teachers. So my son said 'stop swearing x'. X instantly turned, throat-punch then swift kick in the head before adults pulled him off. (School have told all the children the6 shoukd not challenge kids who are neurodiverse 🙄 - like there's a sign, or something). I don't know what triggered the second incident. The third was because they were playing football and he wanted the field position my son had, so he simply ran over and aggressively shoved my son out the way to take it.