Being told that taking child out of school whilst I'm in hospital will be unauthorised absence

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Has anyone been told before by their DC infant school that any absence for a medical need that is not that of the child's would be unauthorised absence?

I have requested authorised absence for DC whilst I go in for my elective caesarean and they have told me that this wouldn't be granted and would be unauthorised. We have no family or anyone close by to be able to drop and collect DC and they will be going to my parents over an hour away whilst I'm in hospital (and obviously DH will be with me). I don't know what else they expect me to do!

I am aware that they have this year granted authorised absences for children to be taken away on holiday - but they are refusing to grant one day for a medical reason!

I have emailed them to request again and plead but if they still say no - how can I take this further? The school board?

They're causing me a lot of stress which I don't need right now.

Don't give it another thought, it doesn't matter.

I'm 14 years in with a child with multiple health conditions and a weak immune system and the school are constantly on my back about her attendance, despite being fully informed of her conditions and being given plenty of notice and evidence of appointments. If I keep her off they whinge.. when I send her in unwell, but ok to scrape through the day, they send her home. You cannot win with schools so don't even try.

Of course people are going to suggest expensive taxis, lots of tooing and froing because it's for someone else, I doubt they would go to all this palaver for themselves though.

The school have decided this is unauthorised. Nothing you can do about that. The part you control is how you feel. I would be indifferent to the schools decision with some understanding that they have to follow guidelines. You are pregnant and arrangements around the birth are stressful enough. You have your plan. It makes no difference if it's unauthorised. Just carry on with your plan.

Op, i really wouldn’t worry about a 1 day absence.

I also don’t agree with PPs though who say DH can’t do drop off. I am having an ELCS this year and no way would I go alone. I understand a PP’s point that you’re unlikely to go in first if someone else needs to be prioritised, but equally you could still be going in first.

Ridiculous

Don't lie about them being ill, what is your child meant to say the next day when they ask if they are feeling better. You're honestly making a mountain out of a mole hill, one unauthorised day off doesn't matter.

Don't worry about it. My DC are teenagers and I don't think they've ever had an authorised absence. Nothing has ever been said of it. Do what you need to do to prepare for the new baby but don't give this is a second thought, it's absolutely fine.

I’m not understanding the stress or upset. They say unauthorised- you say fine no problem. Keep child off school. Don’t give it another moment’s thought. I’d keep her off for a week if easier for you. If school are not being particularly helpful just do your own thing.

The school can't authorize an absence of illness if the child is not I'll. You must know that. Your child will have 1 day unauthorized absence. It really won't matter as it's 1 day. You are getting upset for no reason.

There is really no need to send more requests. Simply remind the office that they won't be in on that day, take the unauthorised mark and forget it. Unless your children have lots of unauthorised absences and terrible attendance, nothing else will happen.

I would keep them off unauthorized, if that's the plan. but if you want to avoid unauthorised absence, why can't your husband take them? you will be fine alone. whilst he does school runs, whilst recovering.

having read more replies, I realise you mean on the day of the operation, not whilst you are recovering. your husband won't be with you at the hospital I doubt? if I remember correctly when I had my hysterectomy, there are visiting hours rather than visiting being allowed all day?

ignore my previous posts. for some reason I thought you were having a hysterectomy, not a caesarian!! apologies OP 💐