You are part of the problem!!!
YOU are literally changing schools because of the labelling, you yourself are doing!
You may well get a shock that the school you are going to, aren't what you think they are going to be...
We have an issue locally with kids removing kids from school to send to private school and finding the SEN provision is lacking there too and there are different challenges that they hadn't anticipated from being at these schools.
You have to actually engage and deal with the problem YOURSELF rather than pinning it on the failure of the school.
Its not 'kicking up a fuss' to be going in and saying this system is causing my daughter particular problems. She is fixating on it and I don't know how to deal with her anxiety from it.
You are avoiding problems because they are difficult and labelling the other kids. Your daughter will be picking up on that.
You cannot avoid labels ultimately. You have to learn to deal with them if its other kids. And kid who have persistent behaviour issues need parents to step up if dealing in school isn't working. If that doesn't work, schools need ammunition and documentation to demonstrate persistent problematic behaviour that is affecting others.
I have another child currently causing problems. I've raised issues two weeks because what I'm saying is backed up by other parents and it's persistent and I'm not saying anything unreasonable. The school are well aware of issues, but not necessarily a full picture. The school actually need parents to report the scale of problems because if they don't they don't have the paperwork to start making a case for support / funding / pathways to more appropriate settings! Last week the steps they put in place did seem to make DS happier. I can well see problems rattling on for some time, but if I don't problems are going to loads worse for everyone long term and changing school is not necessarily going to give a solution either for DS and certainly not for the other kids involved. DS is definitely front and centre, and changing school isn't totally off the cards. But changing school without engagement and 'kicking up a fuss' makes no sense either!