Daughter's teacher called her a numpty

[Ottermum23]

Hi all,
We have a lovely little daughter, in year3.
She is a very enthusiastic learner, who always loved school and loves academic challenges.
This year, she had a new teacher, who is not the nicest, but nevertheless, We thought, just give her the benefit of a doubt.
Our girl been contstantly saying, that the teacher shouts, and today, she said, she called her a numpty, as she accidentally started to do her writing on someone else's book.

I find this very frustrating and just would like to hear others opinions.
Thank you.

As I have no books to share with you user, and you clearly do, I'd be really interested if you'd share yours, by PM if you prefer.

I misunderstood Professor Moody. She seemed to be insinuating that she had a background in training for use of language in the classroom. Obviously, since that’s currently the focus of what I do, I was curious about her research.

I misunderstood Professor Moody. She seemed to be insinuating that she had a background in training for use of language in the classroom. Obviously, since that’s currently the focus of what I do, I was curious about her research

Where did she insinuate that? You are totally misrepresenting the situation in order to present (in as vague a manner as possible) your own supposed credentials in a faux naive manner. It’s deeply manipulative and nowhere near as clever or successful as you think.

I’m not very keen on outing myself if there’s nothing to be gained, I’m afraid.

There’s been nothing to be gained by your whole approach to this thread but it hasn’t stopped you...

user1499173618 Is such a numpty!!

My opinion is very different from most posters here. I have been put down by teachers a lot throughout my life ever since I was in kindergarten. Some insults more severe and some quite mild but being called names always hurt worse from adults. It shows other kids that such behavior is okay and would often play into bullying. By default, I always respected and trusted my teachers. Being called any kind of name would always make me want to sink through the floor, because usually the whole class would end up laughing at me.

However, considering what your daughter has already told you about this teacher, I don't see what else you can do about it except change schools. This is an extreme measure, so you should definitely weight the pros and cons to see if it's worth making such a move.

But in general, I agree that the first few years at school should not set such a negative precedent for what students can expect from a teacher. It's also unprofessional.

Your use of language is very interesting User. Every word is so very carefully thought out. (Even when you trip up and get caught out) You're so very sure of yourself, adept at not answering any questions while seeming, occasionally to do so, sounding cleverer than anyone else, and thinking you are getting away with it.

Oddly, on other threads, the pomposity is there, but not the careful use of language. Interesting.

Maybe because on this thread I am writing about subjects that I am currently writing about professionally elsewhere, and so I’m using the register I usually use for the topic?

Well... that escalated quickly.

No you aren't. What you are doing, is using language on this thread in the way that you imagine someone doing the mysterious job you say you do would speak.

You aren't saying anything at all and being spectacularly verbose about it. But you do let things slip. Your "research into use of language in the classroom" could be something ever so important and academic. Or it could be one of the modules for your TEFL course. You could be doing a PGCE. You could be doing an EY qualification.

Hell, you might even have a degree in psychology.

But you never actually say.

You work internationally. I sell abroad on Ebay so hell, so do I.
You work with 16-21 year olds. So does the woman in WH Smith.

I have a doctorate in psychology from a Dutch university.

And?

I think it’s unimportant but SudExpress seems determined to demonstrate that I’m an imposter who thought up my ideas between selling on EBay and WHSmith ;))

I'm forever calling the children in my class silly names when they do something particularly ridiculous. It's actually impressive!

Things like donut, silly billy, dozy duck, silly sausage and yes numpty

Always said with a smile and the children know it is said in jest.

Jamieson90 - have you received any training about the way to address children?

Shouting just probably means stern. I am very strict but fair.

Nothing wrong with the numpty comment

user my DC love their teachers who call them things like this. You don't seem to believe that can be possible.

It may be possible but it’s at best infantilising and it could cause lasting humiliation and negative self image. There are real long term risks to a classroom management technique that allows teachers to regain control quickly.

It may be possible but it’s at best infantilising and it could cause lasting humiliation and negative self image. There are real long term risks to a classroom management technique that allows teachers to regain control quickly in your opinion. You present this as fact which is total nonsense. As is the idea of infantilising a young child by being affectionate to him/her.

There are real long term risks to a classroom management technique that allows teachers to regain control quickly

Couod you provide me with research that shows this, please.

Think of it in the way we think about giving sweets as rewards. Many children love it, others find it baffling, but it’s generally an effective short term management technique. Not so good long term.

Think of it in the way we think about giving sweets as rewards

Maybe don’t tell us what to do?

Or, you could provide the adademic research that proves what you suggest.

I’d be interested to see this academic research too.