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Deputy head poked my DD in her back!

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Yogeybear89 · 23/05/2018 20:25

Hi everyone I’m new to this site, But could do with some advice please;
So my DD pulled another child’s hair in the play ground at lunch today.
Which I do not condone in the slightest, cut a long story short.
When she went back to class, she was told to go to reception class ( DD in year 3) for isolation.
As it happened at lunchtime she should of been giving a blue slip and tomorrow she stays in at lunchtime with head teacher and write our golden rules.
So the deputy head went to get DD from the reception class to take her back to her class, my DD was facing the wall reading her book when deputy head came in, My DD told me that the deputy head came up behind her poked her in the shoulder and said “come with me”.
I asked DD to show me exactly what deputy did and it wasn’t pleasant!
So went in to school and confronted deputy head in front of head teacher.
Of course she denied it and played it down, so I asked my DD is that how deputy head did it?
As she had both of them staring at her as well as me she just put her head down. I apologised to the deputy if she had not done what DD claim, she accepted and that was that.
Walking literally out of the school doors my DD started to cry and said to me “mummy she did do it the way I showed you I’m not lying I promise”,I said to her so why did you just put your head down when I asked in front of them? DD “cause they where staring at me and felt scared”, I reassured DD nothing to be scared of and when she did it why did she not say “ don’t do that! That hurt me” DD said “ cause you are not allowed to answer adults back”, I told her you say that to anyone if they hurt you teacher, adult, kids whoever!
I’ve had running’s with deputy in past and caught her bare face lying to me, which I confronted her about and she and I have never spoken until today.
DD ain’t no angel obviously by pulling another child’s hair!...But I know she is telling the truth and do not believe the deputy in the slightest, now people may think well I have had runnings with deputy before so I may have it in for her? No I don’t I have much better things to think about than her!
So head believes deputy as DD bowed her head.
What should I do cause I know a million percent she is telling the truth and it is killing me inside that deputy has got away with it and I seriously feel I have let my DD down?!
Please help?!

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Petitepamplemousse · 23/05/2018 22:28

Oh good grief OP.

qu1rky · 23/05/2018 22:30

Like mother like daughter by the looks of it

AuntyElle · 23/05/2018 22:32

Your poor DD, all this drama and stress from her mum.

0hCrepe · 23/05/2018 22:35

I don’t think it’s appropriate to poke a child. Tapping is ok. However you can’t be certain she was telling the truth. Saying that, if she is telling the truth, hopefully this will have made her think twice about doing that again.

MrsCD67 · 23/05/2018 22:35

kids exaggerate things all the time especially when they're in trouble themselves! Your DD was probably trying to take the focus off of her wrongdoing by making out like a teacher hurt her

eggncress · 23/05/2018 22:35

I can just imagine you OP...turning up at the school like someone straight out of the Jeremy Kyle show

FrancisCrawford · 23/05/2018 22:37

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Yogeybear89 · 23/05/2018 22:37

Sorry if offended you all
IHBU
Thank you for making me realise

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PunkrockerGirl59 · 23/05/2018 22:47

Oh dear OP. Your dd is going to be stuck with the label of having 'that parent' throughout her entire school careers unless you back off very quickly.

greathat · 23/05/2018 22:50

You are THAT parent and now your THAT poster. Congrats on your consistency

CrochetBelle · 23/05/2018 22:51

Holy shit, to which I say the next few years are going to be hellish for your dc, to which I say back off.

donquixotedelamancha · 23/05/2018 22:58

Read post properly idiot ! Those posts really are very hard to read. It makes it a lot easier to understand what you mean if you stop and think things through a bit first, and proof read afterwards.

After reading, I'm still no clearer why you think someone prodding your child is such a big deal.

IHBU Thank you for making me realise If this is genuine, then fair enough- we all make mistakes. I do think you need to seriously think about the example you are setting for your daughter.

BellyBean · 23/05/2018 23:05

Did she poke - single finger, just one jab - or tap - couple of fingers couple of taps?

Did it leave a Mark, did dd say how much it hurt?

gettingtherequickly · 23/05/2018 23:09

Home school OP, for everyone's sake.

Thewhale2903 · 23/05/2018 23:13

FACT this teacher hurt your child, your child felt backed into a corner a scared to stand in front of 3 adults.
I have had 2 stand in front of teacher like that when my mother went to the school about a child who was severely bullying me and let me tell you it's bloody terrifying and I froze when they asked me what she had been doing and couldn't give them an example I could hardly talk.
Just because someone is a fed her doesn't make them right all the time.
If you are absolutely sure your Dd is telling the truth you should March straight back up to the school and tell them.

Branleuse · 23/05/2018 23:16

that is really not the way to foster a good relationship with the school. They're not your employees . They're looking after your child. I think you would get a lot further if you were respectful. It all seems unnecessarily dramatic.

Thewhale2903 · 23/05/2018 23:24

Yogeybear89
This teacher sound like a horror, that is not sarcasm.
I wouldn't be happy at all if a teacher touches your child aggressively of course you will be angry and want to know why.

LimpidPools · 23/05/2018 23:27

Poked, not bashed. You're good value OP.

If your last post was genuine, well done though.

SprayingMonsters · 23/05/2018 23:31

Oh wow!

Thewhale2903 · 23/05/2018 23:34

In this instance they are not looking after the child.
Next time one of you kids gets in a wee fight at school maybe you will be ok with the teacher giving them a wee slap!

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 23/05/2018 23:38

Stop shit stirring Whale

Yogeybear89 · 23/05/2018 23:43

Post was genuine...yes I believe my DD. My dd demonstrated what deputy done on me...which was a poke...I am going to speak with head in morning and tell her I do believe my daughter.
Thanks for posting...

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Thewhale2903 · 23/05/2018 23:44

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar
Now when you don't agree it's shit stirring?

Thewhale2903 · 23/05/2018 23:48

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar
Seems like you are the one shit stirring here. Don't call someone the mother from he'll because they are concerned about their child

Jonbb · 23/05/2018 23:48

I was at a cricket match in which my 10 yo was playing and i witnessed the teacher push my son in the back so hard he travelled forwards several feet or so. That was an assault. So to the posters who think teachers don't overstep the mark, they do.

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