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Shocked at DS's teacher this week!

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WellThisIsShit · 06/10/2017 23:04

She made a mess of something last week, which I did mention (politely!) in an email in which I was covering a couple of other unrelated things.

I then found out that lots of parents were 'up in arms' about the problem and there'd been multiple complaints, from individual parents and group complaints. Plus an angry exchange on Monday morning in the play ground, when a parent went in full throttle, and the teacher reacted in kind. All of which was inflamed by the teacher making it clear she hadn't got a clue what the issue was, or even what the parent was talking about at all.

Anyway, big furore and much concern that the teacher isn't up to the job (I'm glad I wasn't at the school gates this week!).

The wider context is that this teacher is coming into a challenging situation and is under the microscope, as she was parachuted in two days before the start of term after another teacher left the school in a fix when they pulled out with no notice. So, ht did a lot of classroom/ teacher shuffling and DS year ended up with this completely new teacher, who is very newly qualified, and has never taught in the uk before (or lived here actually). The school is really demanding and I have often mused that the poor teachers must have to be excellent, every single day, just to keep up - utterly exhausting to think about! Also the parents are err, well, they are much more involved than alot of schools, I think, and they expect to be listened to more as well.

So, anyway, it was all a bit heated and some of the parents were gearing up to a vote of no confidence in this teacher.

All made worse by the teacher responding ineptly showing her inexperience at handling parents... being confrontational, refusing to back down on things that she really shouldn't have chosen to make a stand about, being patently untrue and embarrassing to watch unfold (like the time when she decided to be firm and immovable that there was no one of x name in her class when grandparents did the pick up, and of course everyone watching was aware that x was been in that class for the last 3yrs and was in fact clearly there! Utter cringe my awful moment!), etc etc.

So basically, situation going nuclear fast argh!

So, I was completely shocked to get a sensible, well thought out response to my email, explaining her rationale at some points, and openly taking on my thoughts at others. Admitted she'd got the particular thing X wrong, and why, and how she was moving on from it... and according to other parents who are more tapped into this stuff than me, the teacher has responded in that same way to all the other complaints too, written and also verbal, meeting parents etc.

Basically, I'm really impressed.

Takes a big person to come back from this. And tbh, I wasn't expecting it!

So really, I wanted to share it on here and do a little private cheer for her :)

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alltoomuchrightnow · 07/10/2017 02:46

You are all bullies.
This sounds horrendous.
And so patronising at the end of your post.
This is why I would never go into teaching and a few of my teacher friends have had breakdowns.

alltoomuchrightnow · 07/10/2017 02:48

OP, what do YOU do for a living?
Have you ever been thrown in at the deep end, and while you were there, were criticised and put under the microscope by people who aren't even at your workplace?

Shadow666 · 07/10/2017 03:02

I'm guessing this thread isn't going the way the OP expected.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 07/10/2017 03:03

You might as well have put her name in your post.

What a self congratulatory load of twaddle.

I can't imagine why the other teacher resigned.

alltoomuchrightnow · 07/10/2017 03:11

She shouldn't have to explain to YOU how she's 'moving on' from a mistake she's made. You sound impossibly smug.

alltoomuchrightnow · 07/10/2017 03:12

So this teacher has never even lived in the UK before.
You all sound so very welcoming Hmm

MrsOverTheRoad · 07/10/2017 03:23

I bet the head is horrified at your and your fellow parents' behaviour!

redbirdblackbird · 07/10/2017 03:28

I teach in a school with parents like this- it's absolute hell

twinone · 07/10/2017 04:36

And this is why some children in school are entitled little gob shites. Because they follow their parent's way of doing things.

I despair of how we as a society are going to be in the next 10 years or so when these children come of age.

Emeraude · 07/10/2017 05:08

Exactly right about the kids. It’s so fortunate if they end up without the horrible entitled attitude of their parents. ‘My mum says I don’t have to listen to you,’ is one I’ve heard a few times from kids who I can absolutely believe it to be true of. And then the parents will wonder why they have behaviour problems.

MongerTruffle · 07/10/2017 05:29

This is why there's a shortage of teachers.

Pengggwn · 07/10/2017 05:38

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Needalifeoverhaul · 07/10/2017 05:57

This is awful mob mentality...that poor teacher.
What a load of nasty bullies you all are.
Teachers are human too you know and allowed to make mistakes!!!
I truly hope you're all deeply proud of the pain you've no doubt put her through Confused

confusedlittleone · 07/10/2017 05:58

Jesus no wonder the other teacher quit with no notice

MrsOverTheRoad · 07/10/2017 06:07

You can almost SEE OP's delight in her post. She's almost salivating at the idea of some drama.

NotAgainYoda · 07/10/2017 06:09

Vote of no confidence?
Parents who'd love their child to be privately educated so they could throw their weight around, but can't afford it.

NotAgainYoda · 07/10/2017 06:11

Basically, you are really surprised she's a human being who makes mistakes. It's surprising to you that she has intelligence and grace

ToucherGouterPlus · 07/10/2017 06:17

Gang mentality (from the parents)
Disgraceful

Pengggwn · 07/10/2017 06:55

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user789653241 · 07/10/2017 06:56

Oh, I was right. When I first read this post, my reaction was "eh?"
I was very puzzled because I read this as NQT bashing thread, but in the end, confused by the op's comment.
I didn't want to comment since I tend not to read between the lines(foreigner).
But my first instinct was right. Horrible parents.
My ds's NQT was amazing. She was so enthusiastic and trying her best. They are asset for the society.
What were you trying to achieve by ganging up and let her know everybody was against her?
Sounds very smug about yourself, and it was a horrible post to read.

Liadain · 07/10/2017 07:09

You nasty, self-important, petty lot of bullies.

I look forward to the day the teacher quits, you've no qualified teacher, and you all run whining to the Head.

JKR123 · 07/10/2017 07:14

Reading your post has made me feel seriously grateful I'm not a teacher. Who would want to be a teacher if this is what they have to put up with? Newly qualified you say? Poor poor woman. What a traumatising start to her career. I wouldn't be surprised if she decides to pack it in after this experience and frankly I wouldn't blame her.

JKR123 · 07/10/2017 07:17

It's not surprising that some children end up as bullies if this is how the parents behave

MardyMatilda · 07/10/2017 07:18

You sound just as bad as the others

cupofchai · 07/10/2017 07:19

Poor teacher!! You lot sound like a bunch of bullies. So self righteous. Pack mentality.

This has made me so angry!!! Teacher is not accountable to you!

Awful just awful! As parents you should all be very ashamed!