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Search of 7 year old in the classroom

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 22:05

So today I go to pick you children up from school I picked the girls up first then went over to my sons class and waited for him to come out. When he came out he was with the teacher and stayed by her side so I went over and she said she needed to speak to me. She then proceeded to tell me that some of the other children in the class had told her that DS had a rubber in his pocket , when she asked DS she said he got quite upset but she could see the outline of the rubber in his pocket and then she said "so I told him to take his trousers off and give them to me and I removed the rubber from his pocket" they were her exact words). I stood there not quite believing what I'd heard so stopped her at that point and said " rewind back to what you have just said , did you ask him to take his trousers off in the classroom" she replied with "yes I did" at that point I will say I was not very calm n told her to never again tell my child to remove his clothes and she has no right to ask him to remove them , she stumbled a little at that point and said "well we was shortly going to go get ready for pe".
I went straight to the office but no one was available to see at that point so I have an appointment to see headteacher in morning.
Am I right to be furious or am I over reacting? And yes he has been told off for having the rubber and not handing it over x

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User12345678912345 · 15/06/2017 22:09

Yes u r right to b furious! I am furious on your behalf! If that was my son I would b livid.

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 22:16

Thanks for reply , I'm still as furious now as I was earlier I just cannot believe she did that and in the classroom in front of all the other children x

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Strictly1 · 15/06/2017 22:18

I'm shocked that she did this. She's going to be in trouble!

I speak as a HT!

LovingLola · 15/06/2017 22:20

I think you should ask for your child's name to be removed from your post. It's a bit identifying.

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 15/06/2017 22:22

WTAF? What was she thinking?

Mustbeoriginal38 · 15/06/2017 22:23

I'm speechless. As a teacher I'd never ask a child to do that. Regardless of the fact they would be getting changed soon. If that was the case it could have waited. Once he was changed she could have asked for the trousers and taken the rubber back then.

Or taken a totally different tack and said she'd return in a few minutes and that she'd like the rubber to be on the table.

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 22:25

Thanks I never actually thought about that as wrote the post x

Thanks strictly1 I was hoping to get views from a teachers point of view on this x

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Bingeslayer · 15/06/2017 22:25

Totally unacceptable

LilaBard · 15/06/2017 22:27

Jfc that is not on at all. I am horrified. So inappropriate. Your poor son, how humiliating for him! Hope this teacher gets both barrels from the principal tomorrow.

Mumofone1970 · 15/06/2017 22:28

How awful
How does he feel?

FrancisCrawford · 15/06/2017 22:31

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lorelairoryemily · 15/06/2017 22:35

My god that is horrendous, your poor little boy. What the hell was she thinking?? That's abuse. I hope she loses her job. Hope your little boy is ok. Good luck tomorrow

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 22:37

Thanks for the replies, he as actually asked me tonight if he actually has to go back in her class tomorrow, which I am not taking him to his class tomorrow until we have seen the headteacher and am thinking of asking if he can go in the other class for the day.
He also hasnt had his pe kit at school this week either so don't know why she said about getting changed for pe x

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GreenTulips · 15/06/2017 22:43

Is this the first incident? Is there some back ground?

Mrbrownstone · 15/06/2017 22:45

Hang on, why did she make him take his trousers off??? He had something in his pocket she wanted? Why not just ask him to take it out of his pocket? I dont understand this at all. And whats wrong with having a rubber in his pocket? Either way that would be severely inappropriate & she will be in a lot of trouble. I would have gone through her!

disneykid · 15/06/2017 22:47

This isn't on! Very wrong and inappropriate, I hope something is done about this and she gets in trouble. I wouldn't be letting my child go back into that class.

How embarrassing.

user1496604328 · 15/06/2017 22:48

She should NOT be telling a child to remove his clothes! Disgusting, wow clearly trying to cover herself by saying they was geting changed for PE anyway. What an idiot she is. Hope the head makes a example out of her. I would be furious too OP. Unprofessional idiot.

Mumofone1970 · 15/06/2017 22:54

What year is your son in?
I would go absolutely batshit crazy
I am sickened and echo what the above said, she has abused her position of trust and that's disgusting
I too wouldn't send him back into that classroom until an apology given and even then I would be doing it through gritted teeth
Thank goodness you won't have her as his teacher for much longer
Is there any background or is this the first issue you've had with her?

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 22:55

GreenTulips , No there is no background to this at all just what I have put in the post, exactly as it was told me By the teacher. He's never been in trouble with the school other than the odd falling out with friends etc but nothing serious or that required me to go in or be pulled over x

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notapizzaeater · 15/06/2017 22:57

How humiliating for your son. He should have admitted it but there's ways of getting him to without taking his trousers off

Jellybean85 · 15/06/2017 22:59

Wow i assumed this was going to be about an older kid involved. Younger child potentially hiding something dangerous etc but a rubber?? And made him
Take his trousers off for it? I'm agog!!
Good luck in your meeting tomorrow. Remember calmness is power. Just reiterate your point to the head and let him/her suggest solutions until you're happy.

Eeeeek2 · 15/06/2017 23:02

Really? Wow how could anyone think this is appropriate, what was she thinking?

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user1497559689 · 15/06/2017 23:04

Mrbrownstone it was because he had a school rubber in his trouser pocket, which he denied having, he has been told by me that this is wrong and he should not have had it in his pocket and handed it over when asked x

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TheMysteriousJackelope · 15/06/2017 23:10

This is definitely not on. She could have told him to his pockets inside out and she would have seen what was in them. She could have just told him 'I can see the outline of the rubber in your pocket so you can give it to me now'.

Children do get a sense of modesty around that age and can feel humiliated at having to undress in public like that. Changing for PE is different somehow, everyone is getting undressed and nobody is paying attention. This situation had everyone staring at your DS while he undressed.

RosePrincess87 · 15/06/2017 23:12

WTAF am I reading?!

People may think that I am overreacting, and perhaps I am but had this been my child I would have phoned the police. I am a teacher myself and can imagine there will be major consequences to this teacher's actions. In my opinion this is abuse. Not only was your child told to undress by an adult but he was also humiliated in front of his peers.

I certainly would not be sending my child back to school until the matter is dealt with. If you don't get the response you require from the head teacher you make sure that you go as high as you can.

I just want to give him a big hug and reassure him that he hasn't done anything wrong.

Like I said maybe I just have crazy pregnancy hormones which are enhanced by my own teacher training, but this is extremely worrying behaviour!