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Teacher row

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Wedny1 · 03/03/2017 19:12

My 9 year old teacher called my son a disgrace for talking in line am I being over the top but isn't that a bit harsh I've told him I'm not happy and am going to take the matter further

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user789653241 · 03/03/2017 20:58

He maybe a 9 year old, but intelligent enough to take offence being called a "disgrace".

My ds is 9 as well, but if he was told he was a 'disgrace' , he may get embarrassed, but I'm sure he wouldn't tell me that, knowing he get told off by me as well.

EveningShadows · 03/03/2017 20:58

Bertie, I teach 9 year olds so no, not a "wannabe teacher".

I wouldn't use that word, no, but I do think some of the over reactions to the word used are ridiculous.

If the teacher said it (and we only have the child's word at this point) then the teacher probably needs to choose her words more carefully, but it certainly doesn't require a meeting with the school Hmm

5moreminutes · 03/03/2017 20:59

MrsBeverlyGoldberg you must be an imposter - that is absolutely not what Adam's mum (mom?) would say!

I agree Bertie the oh so predictable "snowflake" name calling got old incredibly quickly and is just meaningless trotted out purely for the sake of getting in first.

Obviously you are supposed to label the behaviour not the child - "your behaviour today has been disgraceful / horrible / naughty" not "you are disgraceful / horrible / naughty"

Whether it is something to go in and talk about rather depends whether the teacher is continuously blowing his or her cool and struggling to control the children without name calling, or whether it was a frustrated Friday afternoon one off. As well as of course whether these were the teacher's exact words - if he or she said "your behaviour is a disgrace" it's acceptable, usually.

EveningShadows · 03/03/2017 21:00

Rackham, "I would lose my shit". Seriously?!?? You need to get a serious sense of perspective!

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 03/03/2017 21:01

I'm sure if he was being disrespectful or always disruptive in class he's mum wouldn't of got so angry

Oh God you have no idea. Grin

Bertie345 · 03/03/2017 21:04

I agree rackhampearl it is a strong word to use wedny1hasnt sugarcoated her child she's simply stated that this was a wrong word to use and everyone is branding her child a devil who deserves everything coming to him/her 🙄🙄

Feenie · 03/03/2017 21:05

What Evening Shadows said.

Plenty of teachers here - can't see any wannabes, particularly amongst those who would 'lose their shit' over such a trivial matter. If that's really the case, they wouldn't be trusted for 5 minutes with a class of 30.

5moreminutes · 03/03/2017 21:05
  • agree about the term snowflake, not necessarily with Bertie's other comments. No, the mother will not necessarily recognise that her 9 yo is a bit of a nightmare - some parents are too harsh on their kids and never listen to or believe them, but just as many believe butter wouldn't melt and can't accept that their sweetie isn't so sweet among his peers and out of sight.
derxa · 03/03/2017 21:06

I love the word 'disgrace'. Some children's behaviour is a disgrace.
I stand by this opinion. Grin

rackhampearl · 03/03/2017 21:07

It ain't about being a precious little snowflake. Discipline my child by all means but I genuinely would not be happy at my 9 year old being called a disgrace. Wrong choice of word in my opinion.

Scabetty · 03/03/2017 21:09

I think it was probably another child's fault and they made OP's ds talk.

5moreminutes · 03/03/2017 21:10

(that goes for parents of girls as well as boys - my boss thinks her 8 yo DD is a strong woman Hmm who stands up for herself and doesn't deserve to be punished because she kicked a classmate in the face while he was trying his shoe after he can her a baby, and knocked his front (permanent) tooth out! She's proud of the story and furious her DD is banned from a residential trip and after school club.

Feenie · 03/03/2017 21:11
Grin
Bluntness100 · 03/03/2017 21:11

Wrong choice of word in my opinion

Feenie · 03/03/2017 21:12

That was to Scabetty.

Scabetty · 03/03/2017 21:13

I think 'ain't' may be a wrong choice too.

fabulous01 · 03/03/2017 21:14

My other half gave up teaching because of parents like you. He now lectures in college and still have parents who kick off without knowing facts. Find out facts, have a discussion with school but you may have to accept your child was in the wrong...

EveningShadows · 03/03/2017 21:19

Who's branding him a devil?!?

The child may or may not be really badly behaved all the time - we don't know that. All we know is that he is upset at being called a disgrace, a word that may or may not have been used.

And we have parents prepared to "lose their shit" at a teacher over this?!

Teacher shortage? I wonder why Hmm

Bertie345 · 03/03/2017 21:22

Parents like you get a grip fabulous 01 don't you think your partner should be in a different profession it's probably teachers like your partner that cause this problem I'm sure you don't like that comment when the shoes on the other foot and 5moreminutes I think kicking someone in the head is called for being a disgrace I think talking in line is hardly in the same concept 🤦🏼‍♀️

Feenie · 03/03/2017 21:25

What problem, Bertie? Do tell.

Scabetty · 03/03/2017 21:25

Are you punctuation phobic?

Scabetty · 03/03/2017 21:25

That was to Bertie.

EveningShadows · 03/03/2017 21:26

"It's probably teachers like that that cause these problems"

You're deliberately being goady now Bertie - if all teachers who struggled with difficult parents left the profession tomorrow, we'd have thousands of empty schools.

You are clueless.

Scabetty · 03/03/2017 21:28

I had to check who the OP was. Why are your pants on fire Bertie? You know mo more than the rest of us Confused

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 03/03/2017 21:28

scabetty 😂😂😂