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Teacher row

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Wedny1 · 03/03/2017 19:12

My 9 year old teacher called my son a disgrace for talking in line am I being over the top but isn't that a bit harsh I've told him I'm not happy and am going to take the matter further

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longdiling · 03/03/2017 20:21

Why does it have to be a confrontation?! Just chill out and cool your heels a little when your kids say stuff like that. Go in and SPEAK to the teacher, don't confront them, ask them. Teacher parent relationships are far too important to fuck up by throwing your weight around before you're in possession of the full facts.

Haffdonga · 03/03/2017 20:25

Perhaps he was a disgrace to his class. Thought about that OP?

Tell your ds you support his teacher 100% and he should stop talking when he's not supposed to or he is disgracing you .

mrsBeverleygoldberg · 03/03/2017 20:29

A 9 year old should know not to talk in the line. So should you. He's letting his class down and being an embarrassment to them. You must realise even your special snowflake has the same rules as everyone else.
You should tell him he shouldn't have been talking in the line.

mrsBeverleygoldberg · 03/03/2017 20:31

You are being ridiculous.

EveningShadows · 03/03/2017 20:31

Oh god here we go again!

So OP, you have the teacher's side of the story too? Or just taking your DS' word as gospel?

Bertie345 · 03/03/2017 20:32

Drop me out with all this snow flake nonsense

kittybiscuits · 03/03/2017 20:34

Agreed Bertie. Pathetic.

Bluntness100 · 03/03/2017 20:35

I'm also going to agree with Bertie. Sigh,

Bertie345 · 03/03/2017 20:36

Too many wannabe teachers or pta members on here 😂

Crumbs1 · 03/03/2017 20:39

I spy problems in a few years time where the boy knows his mother will let him get away with blue murder and blame the teacher. He was misbehaving. He got a verbal reprimand - you should be supporting not undermining the school. Maybe don't go in to complain but take his iPad away for an evening for being in trouble because of misbehaving at school.

Allthebestnamesareused · 03/03/2017 20:44

Are you sure he even called him a disgrace? Maybe he said your son was being disruptive?

Even so - why not just have a little chat with your son about appropriate behaviour and then he wouldn't be called anything.

kittybiscuits · 03/03/2017 20:44

Wow...

llhj · 03/03/2017 20:46

Nothing wrong with that adjective at all. I'm amazed that so many parents think that's crossed a line. It makes me very worried about how teachers are expected to maintain discipline in our schools when parents are so ready to condemn them.

Bertie345 · 03/03/2017 20:48

I think everyone is forgetting he is 9 and when was talking in line such a disgraceful thing I'm sure if he was being disrespectful or always disruptive in class he's mum wouldn't of got so angry so it's obviously out of character for him and that's why he's mum is so angry so get a grip all you haters out there !!

RebelRogue · 03/03/2017 20:50

Or it's completely in character,but mum is always dismissing it and/or focusing on what the teacher said or did. I see it everyday.

llhj · 03/03/2017 20:50

I remember when one of my neighbours requested and received a written apology from one of her daughter's teachers when she called her an idiot. Obviously crossed a line although the context which involved her daughter kicking a horse on a school trip ensured that I felt some sympathy for the teacher. The mum was absolutely gloating about it, her dd has turned into a horrid young woman who now treats her mum like crap.

Buildalegohouse · 03/03/2017 20:51

Jeez. You'd think she called him a dickhead from your reaction.

As long as your DS heard correctly and it was in fact just 'disgrace' she called him then I'd cool down.

If he's so bothered maybe he won't talk in the line next time.

Feenie · 03/03/2017 20:52

he's mum wouldn't of got so angry

llhj · 03/03/2017 20:52

Perhaps the teacher had asked three times for silence and then said, " Tom, you are a disgrace." Is that unacceptable? Is that a such a terrible word?

lifeisazebracrossing · 03/03/2017 20:53

As a secondary teacher, I would never dream of calling a pupil a disgrace or even disgraceful (maybe as an adjective 'disgraceful behaviour' but it would have to be something dreadful, not low level disruption). I would expect a complaint and a pupil who hated me forever. I would meet the teacher and talk it through calmly, as well as dealing with your son. It might be best if your son was unaware of your meeting.

Kennington · 03/03/2017 20:54

The kid just needed telling off.
if you need to ask your kids something more than once, what do you say?
Try not to get upset - if your kid thinks they will get away with this and the teacher gets a talking to, both you and he will suffer- no one will bother being honest with you, in case they are afraid you will blow your top.
For your child to be successful in life they will need to know how to behave appropriately. If he lacks respect for the teachers he will suffer later on.
Can you say to him 'lesson leanrt, move on'?

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 03/03/2017 20:55

He's 9, not a baby! I have a DD of the same age. She knows better than to be so rude as to talk when she shouldn't be, but if she did do it and let herself and her teacher down, I'd be backing the teacher up, not overreacting and threatening to storm into the school and confront them!

DaphneDeLaFontaine · 03/03/2017 20:56

Absolutely unbelievable!

rackhampearl · 03/03/2017 20:58

I would lose my shit OP... nobody is about to call my 9 year old a disgrace for talking. End of story. Tell my kid off fair enough, tell her she's being disruptive and to show a little more respect but in no way can you call her a disgrace for talking. Such a strong word to use. I

RainbowCake · 03/03/2017 20:58

Could at been a whole class comment?
"Class 4T you are a disgrace, even Reception know how to line up quietly for assembly"

Context really is everything. As a parent I really couldn't get worked up about it.

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