A Valentines disco? For Reception?????

[nearlythree]

The school PTA have organised a Valentines disco - well, two in fact, one for 4-7 year olds and the other for the rest of the school. Apart from the fact that it finishes after dd1's bedtime, I am furious that the school thinks this is appropriate for such young children. I know that Michelle Elliot of Kidscape has spoken out about this trend and I am shocked that dd1's school aren't more clued up. Dh is backing me on this and wants me to see the head about it. Whatever happens dd1 won't be going.

well i suggest you dont send her then. there are many other parents that will be happy for their children to go. ffs its a name - its happening around valentines day so its called a valentine disco. if it was called something else then that would be ok. the erson who names it probably didnt give it a seconds thought.

I ran a disco for my school last year. The youngest children there were three.

We played musical chairs (the non-snogging version) and danced to Cha Cha Slide.

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They won't be snogging; there won't be anything going on that makes them more grown-up than they should be, or that steals their innocence away. Society may have changed, but 5 year olds haven't. It's a very sad thing to put adult connotations onto things that children enjoy.

All the boys will think that the girls are smelly, and all the girls will think that the boys are stupid. They will keep as far away from each other as they can.

The girls will wear their Disney Princess dresses and dance to cheesy music. None of them will wear make-up, although some of them will think they look grown up in their sparkly dressing-up shoes.

The boys will slide on their knees and run around annoying the girls.

Both will look completely bemused at the DJ's attempts to entertain them.

It will be far more like a children's party than a teenagers' disco - they will probably have pass-the-parcel and musical bumps as well.

It will be fun, innocent, childish fun.

Wig - thats a great description. ds is in Reception and if his forthcoming Valentines disco is anything like that i'd be really happy.

after reading the OP i had visions of them snogging in the corners.

They look so cute in those terrible princess dresses! You can see it in their little faces when they proudly walk into the room. 'I'm a real princess, I am'.

Wigwam our kids must have been at the same school discos LOL

It's a party. If you don't want her to go, then don't let her go, but (and you will hate me for saying this) she would probably really enjoy herself.

LOL yes, they are always hastily pulledf on over jeans and trainers too

Ours has been dubbed the 'Valentine's Ball'!

Ds1 (8) and dd (6) are looking forward to another evening out without parents - (big adventure) and will be enjoying tunes such as '5,6,7,8' and 'The Crazy Frog'. (It's like Boogie Beebies on a slightly older scale) Mid way through they'll be fed a carton of juice and a packet of crisps. They will come home knackered having thoroughly enjoyed themselves. It's really nothing more than a fun get-together with their chums and a bit of a boogie thrown in. The PTA make some money for the school too, so ultimately the dc will benefit from that as well.

If you do let her go, then I think you may well change your mind when you see how much fun she's had and you will probably feel more relaxed about it next time.

Correct me if I'm wrong but in the States (and I am not saying that because it is in the States we must follow suit) isn't Valentines Day a much different thing to here? Certainly for younger children. It seems to be a "Hallmark" thing where all children give each other a card.

My DS is in an international school and last year he recieved about 6 cards - just little drawings really - from various people in his class - prob all girls if I remember correctly but this is prob becasue girls loved arty crafty stuff and boys of that age don't.

It is not the whole "romantic" thing that Valentine's Day is for adults.

Didn't someone on here post about spotting multi-packs of Valentine cards somewhere?

It is becoming more Americanised (a bit liek Halloween), and more commercial.

And yes - the girls will dance and the boys will run riot.

I think it's the word "disco" that is upsetting you - but I don't think it is like a teen disco. It is just a party under another name.

Jesus Mary and Jospeph!! If N3 wasn't usually so normal and well balanced I'd have the urge to type "trip trap"!

Well, at least I can rely on dd1 to talk to other people with respect, even if she disagrees with them.

Sorry

Who has been disrespectful ??

N3, with respect, IMO you are getting stressed over nothing. It's just a kids party, end of. And one late night won't do any damage. Fine if you don't want to send your child but I can't understand for the life of me what you want to see the head about, sorry.

If you had any idea how much work goes into one of these discos, I doubt you would be so judgmental. TBH

Everything from, insurance, to fire exits, to first aiders, to making sure that the juice and crisps are not full of additives to minding the little ones that are a bit overawed, to cleaning the toilets because it has marks in it, [puke emoticon]to mopping up spilt squash and mashed crisps.

all of the above, or a glass of wine at home with DH and a DVD or MN.

Decisions, decisions.

I think its fantastic that the PTA are willing to go to the effort to orgainise a disco.

My kids school have one at Valentins, Easter, End of Term, Halloween and Christmas. One party for PreSchool up to P3 (age 4 - 7) and one for P4 up to P7 (age 7 to 11). (scottish)

Great fun for them all loads of fizzy juice sweets and tacky music , just because it is valentines doesn't mean snogging, dates and slow dancing does it! The girls dance together and giggle a lot, the boys run about and slide on their knees (just like Peter Kay) and shout a lot. Nothing sordid or wrong, nothing to get irrate about apart from the sweets perhaps .

BTW disco is just what they like to call parties, DD gets most upset if I suggest it is a party, still the same content though.

Oh fgs.

We are having one (infants school so 4-7 yo too). 6pm to 8pm on a Friday but you don't have to stay for the full 2 hours, do you? The Christmas one went really well, raised a good sum of money for PTA with a lot less work than the Christmas fair.

Do your children not make Valentine's cards then? We used to make them at pre-school stage. Nobody's suggesting yr DD has a boyfriend. Most of the people on our PTA have 2/3 children off the top of my head (including me). We/they are just trying to raise money for your school y'know. You don't have to belong of course, but if you don't get involved, you can't really complain. Just don't send her but please don't complain to the head what about anyway?)

(Oh I see that as usual Batters has posted much more eloquently than me. Marthamoo lol about the boys! WWb lol too!)

in reception most of the girls wear their princess dresses to school discos, agree they're a pain but they are also a fund raiser.

I agree with everyone else. They've just called it disco because it will involve music and dancing, but really it's just a party.
I'm also a bit confused here, because from reading this thread it looks like you wouldn't mind if it was a valentines PARTY, but a valentines DISCO is not ok?

and my children send their valentine's cards to me

Yeah me too bandstand, the only ones I get these days lol