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Hiring a nanny just for school runs (morning + afternoon)

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SKLily · 07/01/2016 17:40

I simply can't get the hang of morning school runs. The little one isn't that troublesome these days about getting his clothes sorted and on + shower and brushing his teeth has become a breeze. The problem is I wake up in the morning and simply can't get myself together. No number of espressos can help me and most recently I made us late by losing my phone. Where was it? In the cat food bowl when I thought I had given the cat food... Instead I gave her my phone. As a new mum I'm thinking that since our son isn't too much of a handful these days maybe getting someone in is the answer?

Does anyone else have someone to help with 9am morning school runs? How much do they help out? Do they get your little one ready too?

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Shadow1986 · 07/01/2016 20:12

Some of these responses are really harsh. Calling her husband a sugar daddy etc.

She's got a 4 month old baby and she's finding it hard to adjust, maybe the tiredness could be down to post natal depression, maybe if she's had it previously she is trying her best to look after herself more in order to avoid the same thing happening this time.

She's only asking for advice/help, theres really no need for some of these responses.

Greenleave · 07/01/2016 20:12

Op, You said you got married when you were already 18 and your elder child goes to school, you are 22, I dont understand how could your elder child is already going to school.

If your question is genuine then the answer is very simple. Go to childcare website, pay £19.99 for a month membership so you can post the job on your profile. Nanny who wants jobs can then find you. £20/hr is high, even in Chelseal, High Ken, its easy to find one with that money.

If your question is genuine (which I also find it very hard) then ignore all the mockery, only take the constructive advices. You find many users(apparently you can have more than 1 name so in theory there could be only couple of real people changing their name in every single post) love belittle others every single chance when there is one

fidel1ne · 07/01/2016 20:12

OP how about getting a complete health check?

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SKLily · 07/01/2016 20:14

may because he does nights with our 4 month old and I take mornings with her and our little boy. He then wakes up at 10 and works 12:30-10:00 from home

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OliviaMumsnet · 07/01/2016 20:15

@maybebabybee

I know its against talk guidelines..
So don't do it then.... Hmm Ahem
FrankUnderwoodsWife · 07/01/2016 20:16

SKL, Greenleave's advice is really good. Sign up to that website and find yourself some morning help.

I can understand why some people are slightly incredulous at this thread. Can you?

maybebabybee · 07/01/2016 20:16

Hey why single me out!!!

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OliviaMumsnet · 07/01/2016 20:16

Thanks to those of you who've reported this - we have no reason to believe it's not genuine so we'll leave this for now.
OP we'd echo those recommending you see a GP if you're struggling in the morning.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 07/01/2016 20:17

OP - I'd feel like I can't get out of bed at 6/7am if I went to bed at 12pm/1am each night.

You can see your dh in the morning as he doesn't start work till lunchtime.

I appreciate you being worried about post natal depression again, but freshair in the day would help I'm sure.

I think you need to start trying to go to bed earlier and see how you get on.

You'd have from 930am till 1230pm with your dh. That's 4 hours - far longer than most people have each day.

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SKLily · 07/01/2016 20:18

green I'm 23 in a day, yay!(?)
Our little one is 2 1/2 and was 2 weeks premature

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SKLily · 07/01/2016 20:20

olivia thanks for your suggestion and also total fairness. Sadly all I've been told is "low blood pressure" but when I wake up in the mornings I'm cold and my head hurts from being in such a deep sleep. I have been waiting to have another checkup though! Thanks again

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chocomochi · 07/01/2016 20:21

Wish I was closer and apply for the job! Wow £20/hour?!

Agree with Coffee - how about going to sleep earlier and spending time in the morning together. You could even get breakfast in a nice little S Kensington coffee shop after drop offs.

MaudGonneMad · 07/01/2016 20:21

You said you were 18 when you had your little one, who is now 2 and a half. Yet you are 23 tomorrow? The maths don't add up...

Artandco · 07/01/2016 20:22

But midnight to 10am is a hell of a lot of sleep for a grown man. He finishes work at 10pm, can't you both go to bed by midnight, both get up by 7am, both do school run together with baby, then walk over the road and get some fresh air with baby in Hyde park together until after lunch when he starts work.

That was you both get 7 hrs sleep a night which is perfectly average for an adult with or without children, you both help each other with morning rush, eldest gets both of you showing commitment to him and schooling, and then you both get 3 hrs 9-12 with just you two and baby. Go out, have breakfast somewhere, go for walk, wander around v and a together, grab a coffee, talk.
Then you both get time together in morning so can go to bed Earlier in evening as have time in morning more.

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FrankUnderwoodsWife · 07/01/2016 20:23

Now can we hear the rest of your life story? Grin

Sorry, I couldn't resist......

Figwin · 07/01/2016 20:24

If you have the money to pay for a nanny then use a little on yourself to go to a private doctor as they are more likely to test everything and have more time to spend with you to sus out the problem.

Your life sounds pretty enviable otherwise and that's why people have an issue. Sometimes it's hard to see the internal problems when everything else's is ideal on paper.

BedTimeNow · 07/01/2016 20:25

OP is your 2.5 year old in nursery? if so can you maybe cut It down to 3 days a week?

BoboChic · 07/01/2016 20:25

I think the OP's having a really hard time on this thread for no other reason than jealousy.

TBH I used to find it really hard to get up with my DD and get her to school when she started (at 2.10). It required a massive reenginering of both our body clocks. I go to bed about two hours earlier than I did when she started school but it took me (and her) a year to adjust properly. And I didn't have a new born to manage.

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MaudGonneMad · 07/01/2016 20:27

He can't be 2 and a half if the OP had him at 18 and she is turning 23 tomorrow Confused

user7755 · 07/01/2016 20:28

OP has always slept late 11-1 before kids. This is a long standing issue and not related to birth of second baby by the sounds of things.

Could there be any other reasons why you sleep so deeply / late? Alcohol, drugs, medication?

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PrincePondicherry · 07/01/2016 20:28

I had pnd. I get the I don't want to get up feeling! Would it help if we gave some tips for mornings until you have a nanny in place?

I also think you should pop to the gp, just to see of there is anything they can do to help, e specially if you feel at risk of another bout of pnd.