Hiring a nanny just for school runs (morning + afternoon)

[SKLily]

I simply can't get the hang of morning school runs. The little one isn't that troublesome these days about getting his clothes sorted and on + shower and brushing his teeth has become a breeze. The problem is I wake up in the morning and simply can't get myself together. No number of espressos can help me and most recently I made us late by losing my phone. Where was it? In the cat food bowl when I thought I had given the cat food... Instead I gave her my phone. As a new mum I'm thinking that since our son isn't too much of a handful these days maybe getting someone in is the answer?

Does anyone else have someone to help with 9am morning school runs? How much do they help out? Do they get your little one ready too?

I'm going to assume you chose a school, a relatively short distance from where you live? So, in the short term, will your DH do school drop off?
Especially as he is working US hours

maybe

What are your thoughts OP about the sense of incredulity here?

I'd love to know more as well, please.

How old is your elder child who goes to school Op?

I genuinely don't get this.

Why can't your husband do some childcare in the morning?

Hang on, I want to get a drink and some crisps

Scary - more to the point, why doesn't she just get up earlier?

Scary I got this one! I think it's because OP's husband works from 12:30-10:00pm, then does all the night care for his and OP's baby. The poor man needs to sleep at some point, ammiright, OP?

To be fair, OP DID say;

admitting I'm the one making us late in the mornings makes me feel terrible.

But, erm, yeah

Seems like a waste of money to me.

I hate mornings too, especially after a break like Xmas I find it really hard to get going. But get some early nights, set your alarm, stick some TV on so you can wake up gently.

Get clothes all hung on radiator night before so school child can get dressed themselves while you get you and baby dressed. Baby can do school run in just sleep suit and coat/all in one.

It's horrible at the moment now it's cold and wet but think soon it will be spring/summer and you'll enjoy waking up and getting sorted early on so you have a full day ahead. Having a nanny might just result in you wasting your mornings everyday.

Plus you'll miss out on time with your child asking them how their day was etc, will lose relationships with school parents etc as you'll be out the loop.

I really would persist. It can't be easy with a young baby, I have all this to look forward to in September!!

I was wondering earlier how, when my child starts school in September, I'd be able to do the school run three days a week. As need to be 10 miles away at 9am. It's important to me that I drop him off, and I think I'd need to increase my number of days worked to start later and finish earlier.

We don't live in Knightsbridge.

I'm A LOT older than 22 (sorry, almost 23) year old.

How the other half live.

OP - I feel for you. You should have bags of energy and you don't or you wouldn't be asking for advice. You need to see your GP - pronto.

Can I ask tho;
What time do you go to bed?
Do you have underlying medical issues?

Frank: in all honesty I was diagnosed with postpartum depression previously but haven't this time around although I share similar feelings. But last time I knew my mood and feelings were hard for everyone else around me. Perhaps I'm taking so much "me" time in hopes it will prevent these feelings intensifying. I just really hope not.

I already feel I've been ostracised by other parents due to my age. Plus that my husband and I both stay at home most days.

Seriously, why can't your husband take his son to school given he doesn't start work til 1230?

SK, can I be really cheeky and ask what culture you and your husband are from?

You sound an awful lot like a wealthy Russian I work with. Just wondering if this is a cultural thing.

I do have a nanny who just does drop offs and pick ups, 10 days a month. I need her not because I can't get out of bed, but because I work away from home and the after school clubs or child minders just can't offer the flexibility I need if I am stuck at work and need a responsible adult to take decisions for me (I'm an airline worker - can't phone home from a plane if I'm delayed!) She only comes in the days I am at work though (she works for the preschool the rest of the time.) I do all the school runs the days I'm not at work.

Like others, I can't get my head round the idea that a 22 year old is too tired to be able to manage school runs. I'll be picking up my kids tomorrow from school - after I have flown back all night from the States! Then we are off out for something related to DDs hobby in the evening. I'm 20 years older than the OP. If I was 22 (and had a sugar daddy and never needed to work a day in my life) I'd be running my kids down to school, then off to the gym, lunch with friends then looking for someone to babysit while I went out partying! I didn't seem to need sleep back then. But hey. This is how the other half lives, is suppose.

Coffee I appreciate your message! I get to bed fairly late since I can't sleep until my husband finished his work and we can spend some more time together uninterrupted; so usually around 12-1am.

And I think you're one of the few that understands that even I don't fully know what's going on with me but I'm trying to find a solution that doesn't hold back and negatively impact my boy.

Im not sure about this thread sounds unbelievable but you never know ! Is your son at prep school ? Do you walk him there ? I guess you would be able to get a student for £20 an hour but it isn't going to help you make friends with other parents which will impinge on your child's play dates although there will be a few nannies doing school runs hmmm not convinced

SoWhite: I am white West Indian (from Barbados) and my husband is British.

I pay a nanny to just do the school run and it costs nearly the same as if I had her part time. She arrives at 5:30 (I leave at 6), stays and makes brekkie for neice then takes her to school picks her up and on the days my husband isn't around makes her a quick tea too. It costs me a lot more than £20/hr.

backinthebox did you just call my husband my sugar daddy?? Wow

I'll ask again: why can your husband not do the morning school run?

backinthebox you probably make some valid points but referring to someone's husband as their 'sugar daddy' is way out of order.

SK, get to the Dr and get some medication.
You will feel so much better. More in control, and you'll find it easier to deal with those daily mundane issues.

It is tough being judged for your age, and this no doubt also contributes to feeling low. But I genuinely believe the best thing you can do for your family is:

Visit the dr and explain how you feel.

Do school drop off then return to bed if you need to - at least you will have done the one thing that's currently overwhelming you

Go to the gym while the baby is asleep then swing by school to pick up your DS from school.

Make friends with other mothers at school. They've all been 23, and some of them may have also suffered with depression.