Hiring a nanny just for school runs (morning + afternoon)

[SKLily]

I simply can't get the hang of morning school runs. The little one isn't that troublesome these days about getting his clothes sorted and on + shower and brushing his teeth has become a breeze. The problem is I wake up in the morning and simply can't get myself together. No number of espressos can help me and most recently I made us late by losing my phone. Where was it? In the cat food bowl when I thought I had given the cat food... Instead I gave her my phone. As a new mum I'm thinking that since our son isn't too much of a handful these days maybe getting someone in is the answer?

Does anyone else have someone to help with 9am morning school runs? How much do they help out? Do they get your little one ready too?

Oh to have more money than sense.

This is not real. She is a wind up merchant. Look at the state of the carpet and skirting board in the dog photo. Pretty sure a house in Kensington doesn't have those B&Q style boards!

Whatdoido, it is probably a rented place.

You wouldn't believe how manky some of the rentals are in the area, and for an extraordinary amount of money. Lots of them are very dated.... It's all about location!

That Cartier bangle is something i see on many people. A few fakes about too.

I think this is a bored teen/early 20s woman with time on her hands. She has knowledge of brands like Hermes, places like Urban Retreat etc.

So a 2 and a half year old is showering presumably by himself and getting his clothes together?! Some advanced kid huh??

The ages of when she met the rich dude and got pregnant don't add up either.

My current partner lives in a flat (bought though) in Chelsea.

Although you do generally get run down rentals most people who rent (I see the flats from working in prime areas) and if they're in OPs DH salary range they'd want premium not some crappy place....

You have money, you must live like this... No. I know quite a few people with money who either live the life but their houses are a mess or they eat awful, over cooked food and drink diet coke all day. I also know people with money that live the life you expect. Imagine individuals behaving like... Individuals!

Some just like the status of the postcode. Some like to flaunt wealth. My DB worked for a very rich man when he was younger. The man's kids looked like they'd fell into an oxfam bin, and their country farm house was filthy.

OP just comes across as spoil and, immature. Yes having a new baby is exhausting but she does no night feeds and palms 2 year old off to nursery. Complains of being easily tired but has no issue going the gym. Low blood pressure can make you tire easier but it is not an excuse for laziness.

Unfortunately she has just rubbed people up the wrong way. Mostly with the overuse of the question mark.

I've been inside a lot of houses in the area and I think for a period property it's plausible, though I've not seen many mews houses (which is where she said she lived) with those types of skirting boards. It's still plausible though.

I still cant work out how she is 23 with a 2.5 year old that was born when she was 19

Op, if this thread is true then it sounds like you've never worked a day in your life. Having to get up and organised is, as a result, coming as a shock to you. The thing is though, most parents deal with this juggle every day and just get on with it. It's part and parcel of being a parent.

You seem to want to live the life of a teenager with no commitments.
I'd roll up your sleeves, organise yourself better the night before and use the saved money to buy a new carpet,

Asskicker the maths works. If she was 19.5 plus, she only turned 23 the other day

Asskicker the maths works. If she was 19.5 plus, she only turned 23 the other day

Child was born September ish 2013

September 2013 op was 19 (child born)
September 2014 op was 20 (child one)
September 2015 op was 21 (child is two)

January 2016 OP turns 22 (child is two plus a few months.)

But she says she is 23. She got pregnant at Christmas just before she turned 19.

That's how I worked it out. But to be fair I have a head cold and I could be missing something or read it wrong

I'm not convinced of what others are saying that you need a GP, though might be worth continuing to chase up. It sounds to me more like you're going to bed too late!

Sounds to me like the problem is that you're tending to keep the same hours and your DH, so that you can spend some time together, which are the wrong hours for getting up at 7am and doing the school run. You're not used to having to keep any regular hours. And a small baby never helps timekeeping.

How about sitting down together and having a think with your DH. What are your priorities? Can you find a suitable timetable and try to stick to it? Could your DS do afternoon preschool sessions instead of all day or morning? But who looked after him in the mornings prior to starting preschool? Could it be as simple as having bags packed by the door before you go to bed? Have you tried one of those natural light alarm clocks?

Yes you could probably hire someone to help the morning bit. Don't see any reason to not do the afternoon bit. Your DS needs attention from you not hired help, particularly if he's spending lots of time at preschool. If you want help that end why not get the nanny to stay home with baby and you go fetch DS on your own so you can have some 1:1 time?

You're very young, but you have children and they will love you and want you, you're in a privileged position where you can be there for them, it's hard to see why you don't want to make the most of that.

I thought she conceived at Christmas when she was 19, so probably 20 when child born.

chessie tbh I have no clue because at one point she says she is still 18z

Really confused.

Off to find a lemsip and start again

So child is almost 3 and not 2.5?

Asskicker

Yes OP said she conceived just before her 19th birthday.

Which by my calculations makes her 22 if her child is indeed 2 and a bit years old now.

But then maths isn't my strongest point either and I'm extremely tired having been up with both kids since the crack of dawn. I might take a leaf out of OPs storybook and hire some help for the mornings

Tiped a long post but it has disappeared!
I have lived in south ken and in the west Indies, (not due to a luxurious lifestyle, just circumstances!!) So have had a chance to observe 'the other half' objectively.
Here is my perspective in a nutshell - did you grow up in Barbados?

You are very young to have been thrown in to motherhood in such a singular environment as the south ken bubble. Maybe you find it hard to connect and this is making you feel a bit depressed, hence hiding in the gym and at home?
Sounds to me like you don't want to face up to the outside world.

In addition the kind of house help you get in the west Indies is altogether different from a hired nanny in London. But I would guess not impossible to find.

There must be other white bajans, theres def white trinnies! Is there not a community you can explore that might take you out of that south ken bubble?

Tnt if I won the lottery I would not choose to live in that area. Just because it's lively and privileged it doesn't mean it's suitable to you.

Maybe work on being more secure in who you are anddo try to mingle a bitwith other mums, iignoring whatever first impressions you may think they have of you?

(Trying to salvage thread and being objective here!!)

Seriously?......I have three children to get to three separate schools each morning, then go to work, then leave at 2.30 and straight back to do three school runs again, pull yourself together love, you have it bloody easy.

Plenty of us are bringing up multiple children without any help. It doesn't mean we have to be unkind just because someone is more privileged than us, in my opinion anyway. it's not as if ok was judging us or looking down at us, so don't understand all the ' you're rich so you don't have problems' posts.
One of the best things about Mumsnet is the insight into other people's lived, it's been a real eye opener for me.

I wonder if OP would be better getting a night nanny? This would mean OP & her husband would both get a full night's sleep. Perhaps the nanny could drop the older child at school at the end of her shift?

I think that there are many women living in a wealthy bubble in London. I have a friend who does not work, but sends her child to nursery 3 days a week. Plus has a cleaner, gardener, etc. How the other half live......

Justonemore- to be honest, I think walking to school and chatting to your child each day IS a privilege. We are all, after all, lucky enough to have been blessed with children.

I'm glad somebody else noticed that about the carpet and skirting board! You'd think the OP would be forking out for a cleaner even if the flat is rented.

Still. There was a girl at school whose parents' London flat was beside the Royal Albert Hall. Living areas were pristine. Bedrooms and bathrooms were foul. Weird.

Lots of jealous ppl on this thread.

So what have you decided to do OP?

Asskicker were the years in this thread or another because I don't see them.
In this thread she said age conceived when she was 19 but I don't think specified when in the year so the maths would work but others seem to think she conceived any a specific time, at 18 before Xmas
If she conceived at Xmas just before 19, she's 2 weeks off her birthday and child is 2.5 so:
19 and 8 months when kind was born (2weeks prem) plus 2 years 6 months is 22 2 months.

I'm not sure which it is. This thread her maths work though and I think the 18 thing was a a typo, meaning I was 18 when I met him.