Hiring a nanny just for school runs (morning + afternoon)

[SKLily]

I simply can't get the hang of morning school runs. The little one isn't that troublesome these days about getting his clothes sorted and on + shower and brushing his teeth has become a breeze. The problem is I wake up in the morning and simply can't get myself together. No number of espressos can help me and most recently I made us late by losing my phone. Where was it? In the cat food bowl when I thought I had given the cat food... Instead I gave her my phone. As a new mum I'm thinking that since our son isn't too much of a handful these days maybe getting someone in is the answer?

Does anyone else have someone to help with 9am morning school runs? How much do they help out? Do they get your little one ready too?

Ooh lovely! (Can I get a free holiday?) Is it Sandals? Can I have a non swinging resort?

OP - You really need to go to the doctors. I often go to bed at 12/1 am and can get up at 7.30 without too many issues. Needing what 10/12 hours sleep every day? That isn't normal. Most people manage fine on 6/7 hours if not less.

It could be a sign of depression (possibly from years back which never shifted properly) it could be a vitamin D deficiency (especially if you don't go out and spend time outside a lot with the working from home etc) or it could be something like a thyroid condition. All of which are treatable. Get back to GP and make sure they listen. Tell them how much you struggle and NEED 12 hours sleep. They may not have realized the extent of it before.

As PP have said I think a change of routine for your family could work. He finishes work at 10. Take a couple of hours to chill then go to bed at 12, get up together at 7.30, do school run together (or take turns if the baby kept you up, whoever does the night feed doesn't do the school run) then you have the morning to spend time just you two and the baby. Maybe do gym stuff together? or when the baby is napping? or after both kids go to bed but your DH is still working?

I'm sure you can hire someone to do it but by doing that you are spending half your life in bed and loosing out on time with your kids. I would try and find a solution to help you cope rather than a quick fix that won't help long term. Whilst your baby is small it may be great but you will have many years of school and nursery runs ahead. Also if he is only 2 1/2 it is not compulsary for him to be in nursery and you must be paying for it I imagine? Funded nursery starts the term after they turn 3, so probably easter for you if not september. Would it work to take him out of nursery if you are at home then put him back in when it's free? Give you some time to sort out a routine without having to worry about deadlines? Or does he go because you struggle in the mornings and you go back to bed when you drop him off?

Well, as you don't work it's not an unreasonable assumption that he's pays for everything, is it?

Your timeline is all over the show. You married at 18 but you only met your DH at 18, in Linfin, but you were living in Haiti from 16-18? And you still haven't saud how you could have been sleeping so late pre-DC as you must have been in some kind of education?

I thought Enid Blyton was dead...

So you DON'T have any career ambitions then?

How about setting yourself a fitness project like training for a marathon or triathlon? Something big? Your sleep would improved. Your MH and self-esteem would benefit and childcare expense would make more sense.

Obviously they got married pretty swiftly but in Haiti because her dad was ill and the dog wasn't invited

Everyone seems very hung up on our financial status... Is it really THAT fascinating?

It sure is. Along with living next door to the science museum, being too tired to take your child to school, (but managing to go to the gym,) and being willing to pay someone £1600 a month to do school run instead, plus having a child at 18 that has only just reached the grand old age of 2.5 years when you yourself are 23 tomorrow. See? Utterly fascinating. You just couldn't make it up could you.

And the earthquake was putting a downer on big dos.

This gets better and better

if you have the money just get yourself a full time nanny or nanny/housekeeper and be done with it. then you can do/sleep when you want and spend time with kids when you want

i wouldn't bother about a short term fix for this one problem

as for what people pay for things/their nanny - take it all with a pinch of salt

This is funny. Keep going OP, please.

I'm in awe of having somewhere you could WFH with a 2 1/2 year old and 4m old in the house.

Nanny agencies should be your first port of call, but with a little adjustment as PP mentioned you may be able to do it yourself.

Maybe missing something here... but why don't you just take your two year old out of school? I've never heard of a 2 yo going to nursery school! Why not enrol him in preschool in the afternoons and have lazy mornings? Oh and def get your thyroid checked!

I really want to go to bed but I can't bear to miss the latest instalment of the OP's novel.

Am I right in thinking the 2 yr old has morning nursery because you aren't good in the mornings?

So you're 18 now?

Oh I want someone to take my kids to school too, I hate getting up in the morning and detest the school run. Getting up at 11 and then going to the gym sounds brilliant apart from the going to the gym bit. And there was I feeling extravagant that we've got professionals in to decorate the house even though I'm a SAHM. I feel better now.

No free holidays, no it's not Sandals (ew), I'm 23 tomorrow and I met my husband at 18 and married him 7 months later (still at 18). It was swift but we are so happy! He was really all for it and couldn't wait, neither could I. All our friends and family are very supportive

Did anyone question the groom being 'all for it'?

No one is looking after the dog. I think the dog died. I'm sad now.

Darling I totally understand where you are coming from.

Ad hoc hours like this are just such a poor investment. If you have the space just go full out and get a live in nanny. Much more economical and you can save on the cost of your cleaner and PA.

Then you can work on keeping yourself beautiful and spend plenty Of time with your husband.

And don't worry. Only a few more year until you can get them into boarding school.

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for not wanting to look after your children dear. I mean surely that's what paid help is for.

2 year old loves school (plus it tires him out) plus he has some friends. For his upcoming birthday he already wants two of the boys from his class there, it would be weird and mean to take him out

If you CBA to take him to nursery you could just withdraw him and enjoy the time with both of them while all three of you are still young.

You could spend your days having lovely trips into the city and hang out with some other yummy mummies. You sound ever so lucky.

Cos, you know, normally it's assumed that the groom IS keen.

It's a shame that the dog boycotted the wedding, of course, but there's always one.